Still twinging over someone I thought I was good and proper over. Bummed out in Emotions and Feelings Posted 8 hours ago I am guessing you are not 100% over the ex and there is a little bit of uncertainty with your new guy which is causing you to step backwards in your healing. Maybe you should loosen your grip on the new guy and try to date others while you wait for him to come home. I would not want you to wait for him only to find out nothing is going to materialize. How long will he be overseas?