Baurman

It seems like OCD has only finally moved on once he told his Ex to stop calling him unless she wants to reconcile.... I've read every OCD post and to me during the whole part where she kept calling him, it only brought in CONFUSION. Until he finally put his feet down and said not to call... And that's when he finally was able to move on, when his last post in this thread was pretty much saying it's been months since he's heard from her and he even started dating someone new.

Day 4 No Contact. Man it's soo hard. She's all I'm thinking about at work. Everything just reminded me about her. I want to just make things better with us but I know calling her won't do that. If she isn't calling me, she doesn't want anything to do with me. Last time I talked to her I broke NC after a week, and I asked to meet up to talk and she even told me "Too Soon", so I know it's just false hope when she says she just wants time alone, more like she wants time alone to get OVER me. I keep trying to convince myself and thinking about all the bad things and how I wanted out so bad - we were unhappy, but I don't know why I'm still missing her like crazy. I'm just thinking towards the future and it'll be such a shame if she contacts me after like a month of NC and wants to work things out but then ill be over her. thats what i dont want it to come too. It's like, if I wanted to get ahold of her, I Can. She isn't ignoring me. I'm just trying to give her what she wants - which is Space to miss me. But it's hard! I guess because I've never been in the situation where I needed space, so I don't know what it feels like to need space away from someone. Being home alone sucks. Knowing that she used to come over at night and cuddle in bed, just makes the nights harder and harder.

What if the ex girlfriend is following me on Twitter? Does NC include not updating my status on Facebook and Twitter to show that I am doing better? Or does that need to completely disappear?

Day 2 for me NC... I went shopping for groceries for my house for the first time in 2 years. Wow felt different to just go shopping by myself but feels free. Then I went to the beach and got some sun so I can get a tan to improve my physical appearance. I'm finally able to eat again. Appetite is slowly coming back. I was just pondering, how can somebody be with someone they loved for 2 years and then decide they want space and never miss them? I mean damn I miss seeing my EX GF a little bit but I know she doesn't miss me which is actually helping me move on. Accepting it. I'm just confused..... she must've been that sad and want out so badly that even after a week of not seeing each other at all and only talking to each other on 1 day, she doesn't even miss me or have an urge to want to see me. Just boggles my mind. After all the things she's done to upset me and make me hate what she does, I still miss her as a person. However, the longer she goes without contacting me, the more I will be able to move on and accept she's not worthy of a life long partner.

Back to Day 1 on NC for me. My ex called me and I told her that I'm not going to contact her after today until she is ready to fully commit at giving this relationship another chance, however long that may be. She originally broke up with me because she wants Alone Time and wants a break since we saw each other every single day. I told her that I want her to miss me, and whenever she feels like she misses me and wants to give the relationship another chance, I'm a phone call away. So now that I finally have closure... I can start NC again. And heal myself, and get over her. I'm not going to dwell on the fact that she will call me again, but know that I've said what needed to be said and she knows the ball is in her court to contact me when she's ready.

I still feel vulnerable and by contacting her even for her bday, i think is too soon. i dont think its a good idea for her to contact me unless she wants to give the relationship another go. but it's only been a week and she wanted time apart, so i don't think that's on her mind right now. she hasn't contacted me at all during this time so that must mean she still needs time apart and I think by just contacting her will ruin that. wouldn't it be better if I didn't and then she will start to wonder if I already got over her and surface her emotions and start thinking about me again? rather then sending her a message and her thinking "heh he still thinks about me..."

its my ex's bday and im on about a week of NC but ive been getting messages asking if we broke up because i guess they notice her relationship status is single on facebook. would talking about her bring back feelings or will I still be able to heal? today is ultra hard because everyone is showing her love and I'm here doing nothing. I know that contacting her now will be worthless so im not even gonna contact her on her bday. I'm still hoping her alone time is over soon because I do miss her and I want to see her again, but I also hope I can just STOP missing her and move on already so I don't have to dwell on when she's ready and just focus on myself. I just wish the emotions can go away.

It's been a week of NC for me until she texted me out of the blue "Are you doing ok?", I have basically cut all form of contact to her and now she sends me this text message.... What do I do?? I do kind of miss her and hoped for the NC to make her miss me and want to give the relationship another shot. but I don't want to get in contact with her again only to start back at Step 1 and be heartbroken all over again. Also, we're still friends on Facebook. If I delete her, will that mess anything up or should I just leave it? I'm kind of inactive on FB anyways so no one really writes to me at all. I've been wanting to just up and delete it but I think that's a cowardly thing to do....I didn't even change my default pic which is a picture of us two still. Does this need to be dealt with as well?