Jambolia

The way i'm feeling now I don't know if I can. to put it bluntly I loved her and and still do i can't put it any other way than my heart feels torn in two, it's true what they say once you've had you heart broken nothing can touch you. I will try to be happy for her she's my best friend I just need to sort myself out somehow.

I'm best friends with a girl, I've liked her a lot for ages and I've never had the guts to tell her, I was afraid that if she knew she'd run a mile. Everything was fine till another bloke started showing interest in her, she likes him, but when i asked her if she fancyed him she said no she didn't. But then she got drunk and i *think* got off with him. I was feelin bad and started to avoid her, she went around asking all my m8's if she'd done anything....i'm ramblin sorry. Ny way we work together on saterdays. I got on really really well with her when i didn't fancy her but now I get embaressed and don't know what to say to her, so my other best friend (got 2 one male one female *her*) told me I should just tell her cus it's getting me down. So I did and it was the hardest thing i've ever done, but rather than run a mile or ask for some space, she hugged me and asked me why I hadn't told her. I just explained that I didn't tell her cus I was expecting anything to happen I just needed her to know. Now I don't know how to act, how can I act like I did before when she told me things. Do I talk to her about it, will that put her off me? or do I try and act like nothing happened? And what about this other guy, he's really flirtatious and I'm not thought i'm game for a laugh. Do I ask her out, even though she said (before i told her and about the other bloke) that she didn't have time for a relationship. I don't know...............any help cheers update: she's told me she doesn't like me like that :S so now i feel even more like crap, and she likes the other bloke. I'm not gonna lie i've never felt this rubbish in my life. . . . . and i can't get away from her so i'm. . . . stuck P.S. pardon the spelling

Right I've been friends with this girl for 2 and a half years and we have become good friends, but within the last year she's changed she's become popular with the men and is considered very pretty and all my male friends fancy her so I can't talk to anyone. Alone I can talk to her fine it's with other people around she changes her attitude towards me. Anyway she invited me up her house the other day to stay the night (in a plutonic way in separate beds) and then ever since I've seen her at school or talked to her online she's been nothing but bitchy or ignoring me or seemed angry at me. And it's not as though I've done anything wrong, she's always been temperamental, she can go from playful messing around to moody for no reason. Basically to put it quite simply I'm kind of tired of being her emotional punch bag, because that's what I feel like, what's weird is she tells me things she doesn't tell anyone but then she acts like this, when I tried to confront her about it she said I always take everything she says the wrong way or literally and I pointed out that she never tells anyone why she angry with them in the first place so you have to second guess if she's jokeing or not. But when they change from laughing and smiling and huging you to making a point of saying hello to everyone but you or even noteing your there then well................I don't know any help, have I done something.........? It's only over the last 6 months that she's been acting weird. Personally I'm kind of tired of it all but I can't escape her because all my friends are infatuated with her and seem to think the sun shines out of her ass (pardon the crude expression). I don't know I feel alone because I can't really trust anybody or talk to anyone and if I try to talk to her she'll get even more angry at me..........

Hey I'm a first time poster so it's a bit new and weird to me sorry if I ramble , but I have quite a big problem. It goes like this I'm a 17 year old guy and I've been friends with this girl for nearly 4 years and we are best friends she's my age and we work together as well and have quite a good time (to the dismay of our boss ) . I've always sort of had a thing for her but kept it hidden. But over the past year I've sort of fallen in love with her. She and I have had the conversations about who we think is pretty and who we fancy ect, but when she said asked indirectly if I fancied her I said I used to but didn't anymore. She's very popular with the other blokes as she is very very pretty but she's indecisive and can be temperamental and she used to be very insecure one of the reasons I liked her so much as she was someone I felt I could relate to. I used to be able to talk to her, but lately I've been running out of things to say to her, I don't know why but suddenly I'm scared of saying anything stupid, where as before we both laughed if something happened and I didn't feel embarrassed now it's feels unnatural. .......*phew*............on to the second part Part of that problem is that every friend I've introduced her to fancies her and though I didn't originally as I said over the past year it's developed stronger feelings for her. But that's repeating what I said before the other problem is that my best male friend, I introduced him to her and now I think he fancies her; He knows how I feel about her because we talk about everything together. But he said he doesn't fancy her but it's weird he's already been in a relationship for a long time and is good with women, I on the other hand have never been amazingly good at talking to women and though she said she doesn't fancy him at all I don't know it's strange I kinda feel like he's gonna replace me and I know from what's happened before that if she did fancy him or like him more I wouldn't stand in the way cus though this may sound cheesy I'd rather see her happy than my own personal happiness. I also found out that a girl I know likes me though she's pretty I don't have any feelings for her but I don't want to say anything because I know how she feels, it's the same with me and my mate.......... I just don't know what to do I'm at a complete loss.......