Reahb

Met a really great guy that says he is interested in me. Originally we talked 2-3 times a week, pretty deep stuff. Then he kind of disappeared. He says the problem is that he is a workaholic. He spends 14-16 hours a day at work for which he is only scheduled for 8. He is so shy that I seriously doubt that there is another woman, although that could be a possibility (I know). It seems to me, that if he were interested in me he would make spending a little time with me a priority, however I sometimes don't even hear from for over a month, no call or even email. Guys, help me out here, is this a lost cause? If you were interested in a girl would you let anything keep you from spending time with her?

I said that quote some 12 years ago as a niave girl to her first real love. I have wondered alot through the years of its truth and have doubted it many times. But the truth is things happen for a reason and each person we meet along the way is there to teach us something or in some way enhance our lives. Even though that first man broke my heart he taught me how to love, and strangest of strange- he has just reentered my life. Don't know if there is a future for anything but friendship, but truth is I still believe the old quote and am willing to try again till I get it right. Don't know if this helps any, but...

I have been in similar situations numerous times. From my experience it is better to keep your waiting time short. If he hasn't realized how much you mean to him within a month, then I would start looking for someone else. It is easier said than done, I know, but in the end it will save you heartace.