The Cheat

Hi everybody. Let me explain the dilemma I am facing. I know this unbelieveable girl. She's great in every way imaginable. We have a lot in common and I feel that we were basically made for eachother. This sounds very cliche I know, but it's true. She is the only person mature enough to understand me and my thoughts. The same goes for her. Last night, we went for a walk and enjoyed ourselves immensely. Today, we were talking and last night came up. We concluded that something was missing in the way we said goodbye to eachother. Oh and by the way, right now we are not dating. Anyway, it seemed to be lacking meaning and deepness, maybe even affection. I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions on what I should do. What should I tell her? How should I change the way we say our next goodbye? How can this be fixed? I know it's a relatively simple question but I don't really know what to do. For those who have read this far, I thank you. And for those who have not, I don't blame you. This has been a long post and I'm sorry about that. Thanks for everything. You guys are great!

Hey Charger, First of all, let me say I'm sorry. I can't give you advice with the ladies but I can tell you I know exactly how you feel. I know the anger/pain/hatred/sadness you feel. I have been in the same situation. I'm sorry I couldn't give advice, i just hope this makes you feel better. I'll be completely honest - I still haven't gotten over the girl that did that to me. It will take a while, but you'll make it.

Thanks for the advice. I haven't talked to my parents about this, seeing as how this would change my image drastically and they might worry too much. I really feel comfortable around here. Thanks again.

I feel very awkward saying all of this. I have never liked whining to people about all of my problems; no matter who it is. I can't really express the feelings I have in words. The only thing I can do is express them with anger. Please pardon my sentence structure and punctuation; i will not be paying much attention to it. I recently got back from a trip i took to a country where all my relatives live. I would like to keep the name of this country anonymous due to stereotyping. My family and I live in New York and we are the only ones in the United States. I don't have any relatives within thousands of miles. On this trip, I met a cousin that i had not seen for 10 years. This was the first time in years i had been happy. I had finally found a family member i could relate to. We had so much in common. She liked the same things i did and everything. After being together every day of the trip, parting with her was nearly impossible. The relationship we had developed in a few days is impossible to describe with words. I'm a very serious guy and people say i never show any emotion except for anger. But this time, i couldn't hold back. We were both crying for hours. Back home, i find myself thinking of her ALL the time. Whenever i think of her, i feel a sharp pain in my chest; much like that of extreme anger. However, when i'm with her, i can think of her all i want and i feel nothing but joy. It's being apart that pains me. When i'm eating and i think of her, i throw up. I haven't eaten a whole meal for days. I can't sleep at all. I need help. I miss her. If i talk to her on the phone, the relief is temporary and in that moment, i am happy. When i hang up, i feel the same as i did before. I can't stand the pain anymore. It's not going away. Before i went on this trip i had already been warned to reduce stress levels because i was in danger of heart problems...i'm 16. I don't want it to happen again. I don't know what i'm going to do. I need to see her again. For those of you who read this entire thing, i thank you. And for those of you who quit halfway - i don't blame you.

Hi there. I'm 16 and I have been in the same exact situation as you described. The only difference was that the girl wasn't on my block. Anyway, I was thinking much like you are until I really sat down and thought about the predicament I was in. You see, I found out that I didn't really have much to lose by confronting that girl directly and telling her that I liked her. It wasn't like if she said no, my world was going to end. Besides, I don't think anything would have ever happened between us if I hadn't talked to her. It turns out she was kinda waiting for me to tell her. My point is: Go for it! You have absolutely nothing to lose. After all, what if she says yes? Plus, you said she stares at you all the time - That's a good sign. Good Luck, bud.