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I know how you feel, and believe me - age has nothing to do with it. I'm 28 and went through all of it. Wanting him, wondering how he could just move on while I was sitting at home crying my eyes out, which eventually turned into figuring out that he must not have loved me as much as I did him, and then also realizing that I was important to him he would have tried to reconcile like I did. The first two weeks were the hardest, and finally my pride kicked in and I decided I had to come to grips with the fact that it was over, and try to get my life back. I know it's a cliche but it's true - time heals all wounds. I won't act like I don't think of him sometimes but it's been almost 4 months and I can't believe that I am doing so well. I thought I'd never get over this but I guess I'm stronger than I thought. I'm even going out on dates! (Some good, some not so good, but still...it's progress.) Anyway, keep coming back to this forum and reading other people's stories. I hate to say this but you'll always find someone who had a worse breakup story that you did and that kind of helps to put things in perspective. That first two weeks I was on this site every 10 minutes (so glad I didn't get fired) and now I just check it periodically to keep myself in check. It really helps to hear how other people go through this time period. The links are good too. Best of luck to you...you'll be fine, promise.

I am in a similar situation...someone is traveling accross several states to visit me and I'm really excited to meet him in person. We've been chatting and talking on the phone several times a day and it's going well thus far. However, when I mentioned it to a close friend of mine he freaked out and wanted me to promise him that I wouldn't see him. He said he was concerned for my safety. I've already done the background check but aside from that I'm not sure what else I should do to make sure this guy isn't a psycho. I am completely comfortable talking to him and I don't get any weird vibes from him. In fact, were it not for my friend freaking me out just now, I wouldn't be concerned at all. The female friends I have mentioned this to have not given me any similar warnings, but maybe he knows something about men and internet dating that we females don't. Any advice on what to do here? (Sorry if I was supposed to post this as a new topic...I usually just read the messages instead of posting.)

I just wanted to thank segagirl for the links. I have been going through the same thing as SonwYs since my breakup over 2 weeks ago. Some days are worse than others, and I also keep hoping he'll call or email and we can work it out. The thing that is helping me (a little) is that I've tried to go back and think about our relationship and whether or not he was REALLY right for me. I love him, and at first I thought I could not live without him, but the more I think about it, it's probably best that we broke up. I tried for the first 2 weeks to get him back and I failed miserably, so now I'm doing my best to accept the fact that he's gone but it's hard sometimes. I know I probably am not helping you, Erin, but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone. I guess that's the purpose of this forum. I've never posted here before...I just found this site while looking for some answers, mostly trying to get my BF back. The more I read about other people's situation the more insight I have into my own relationship. I hope you feel better soon. I do know I feel better today than I did two weeks ago, and I'll probably feel even better in another 2 weeks. I guess it just takes time...