I'm starting NC all over again! But I KNOW that this is the final stretch...
It's been over 3 months since the BU, went the first 2 months of NC. She initiated contact, and we had coffee a week later. Meeting basically confirmed that she loved me, and cared for me, but doesn't think a relationship could work out for a variety of reasons (paths after college, communication issues, etc.). Meeting ended with a strong hug, and she put herself in position for a kiss, but I completely avoided it.
Back to NC for 10 days, when she started posting more stuff on my facebook wall. I completely ignore it and don't even respond. She quits on that, but I make the mistake and start reading her facebook wall. Basically, LC with no direct initiated contact on my part.
During this time, I start dating again, and wind up hooking up with a couple of girls who I find out have boyfriends (they didn't tell me until after). I feel guilty for reasons I can't figure out (as in, perhaps I wasn't ready, perhaps I helped instigate some form of cheating, perhaps I was just missing my ex, riding the rollercoaster, etc). As a result, I sent a ping on Friday night, my first initiated contact since the BU (and text message 3 days after the BU).
Basically, my ping was an email with a couple of youtube vids that I thought she would like. It was very neutral. She replies 2 days later with an "I'm sorry I would have responded sooner..." post, the rest of which is neutral (in addition to addressing me by my formal name and a couple more vids she thought I would like). I wait a day and send her another video, to which she responds within an hour with another video that she thought I would like, and is generally being very casual. In addition, she even posts on my wall for the first time in 3 weeks.
We were together for 3 years, and I know I'm at a point where I'm almost not even worrying about her actions or her thoughts. I think I'm 95% there. My interpretation of the ping is that she wants to friendzone me, which to be honest, I kind of don't mind because of my current state of mind (can't be too sure, since 5 days ago I was riding the emotional coaster).
Well, to be completely sure, I'm going back on this challenge. In my mind, it's my ex's last chance to reconcile with me based on whatever emotion I have left. Otherwise, I feel like this is my last permanent step out of here. I'm starting to date other people, I'm having fun being single, and my confidence is pretty much back (heck, my ex ex from high school, who broke up with me 4 years ago after together for 11 months, has been sending me flirtatious texts and I promised to buy her a drink for her birthday). Well, we'll see how this goes!
So this is Day 1!