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  1. Still nothing from cute guy who I’ll rename as Casper the not-so-friendly ghost. Won’t be chasing him a third time, he knows how to reach me and that I’m interested. Still gutted though. Have tentative plans for a date with someone else through in Glasgow on Friday. Honestly I think I only agreed to get it out the way..and need a distraction from the circus in a dumpster on fire that is work.
  2. Welp, couldn’t get him out of my mind…and we did end up meeting last weekend. But you’ll have guessed, barely heard from him this week. Ah well, I got a couple of snogs out of it which were very nice at the time 🤭. That will just have to satiate me for the time being. Work has still been rubbish this week. I know I have to pull my finger out and get something successful for the cv but motivation is still very scarce.
  3. Thanks both. I still haven’t made up my mind. Work has been a mess really, made headway in some respects and lost the plot in others. Part of my pros and cons list was to be about that job but if I do that now I don’t think I’d turn up for my next shift. Hoping once the summer is out of the way, things will go back to the old way that events were booked and scheduled and not as much chasing of tails. Talking of chasing tail - that cute guy I was messaging a few months back? I made a new profile on a couple of apps and we ended up matching again, so I’ve been lightly teasing him for not getting back in touch. In response he’s asked to take me out this weekend…however he’s not initiating any planning or confirming that it’s still happening. I don’t really want to message AGAIN just to be ghosted like last time…so do I just wait for him to get in touch with me about plans?? We live in different towns 25 miles apart so a heads up would have been nice so I know when to travel in, or to make other plans if he’s not interested. I mean, is this fun for some guys just to mess people about? And did he have to be the most friggin handsome one!
  4. Knew I could rely on you Dias! 😁 Last day off before back at work until the weekend. I’m sick of living here. On paper it’s idyllic: countryside, family, big house but just constantly feel that I’m on someone else’s schedule and none of it is really ‘mine’. I need to decide where to move to. The scary thing is it may mean leaving this job sooner than I thought…and worried about the reaction from the boss. But it’s just a job, they can’t have this hold over me. I’m also putting off taking responsibility for myself and going somewhere completely alone. Writing up a list of pros and cons.
  5. It would be nice to get laid sometime soon…but no leads from any of the apps. I must be doing it wrong…no one is asking to meet up and when it’s me doing the asking I get ghosted. There’s a two fold win if I start up birth control again: 1) more protection if anyone does follow through 2) libido is dulled if they don’t and I stop going crazy 😵‍💫
  6. I guess, for me, I just want to concentrate on my job and doing that well and not have other distractions at the time. Yes I’ve had to explain to colleagues, volunteers at current job that I’m now single since they last saw me, but at least there’s some distance between everyone and they’re not all up in my business as they might have been if my ex had worked at the same place. Or perhaps I just know really immature types!
  7. I hate that phrase and really don’t want to know how it got attributed to dating/sex/work haha! You seem to be able to easily compartmentalise different areas of your life, which is why you would find dating a colleague not a big deal, but I think for a lot of others drama tends to overspill and creep into the workplace in that situation. My first experience was with a long term boyfriend who got me my first full time job after uni. It was in a different department but small open plan office so it was like we were in each other’s pockets all the time. Also, I wanted to chat/vent about the work day afterwards (it was my first proper job after all) but he just wanted to switch off completely so that grated for a while. A couple of years later when I was single at a new job (retail, part time) and was asked out by someone who I had a crush on for ages. Of course I couldn’t say no. We were totally incompatible and somehow dated for three years and had a horrible break up. Thankfully we had both left that store before breaking up but I found it really awkward moving back home and running into old colleagues having to explain what happened. So now I would definitely not date someone from work. Same industry maybe.
  8. Meanwhile I’m a typical pasty Scot who can’t handle the heat or sun so I’ve been hiding indoors enjoying it through the window 😄. Temp was in the late 20s earlier! I like summer evenings, when it’s still pleasant but not unbearable and the light is all hazy. Hope you get to enjoy it some time this week Dias!
  9. Having been on furlough for most of the previous year I've not had to do much working from home/webcam calls. First time dealing with Teams today, usual tech issues happened! But the particular project concerned is very rewarding and hope we can get it off the ground. All the personalities involved are lovely and very supportive which helps but I'm nervous how much time I'll have to invest. Will just have to get stuck in. I've deleted and reinstalled dating apps about 3 times trying not to get distracted haha. I do like the attention but find myself pining for interaction when the conversation dies down...but I know I'm not in any place to start a real relationship right now and the guys have been upfront about that too.
  10. UK or Ireland most likely...although if Brexit stuff settles may consider further afield. Limited myself to this part of Scotland for years, and assumed with my ex it was going to be for the long haul. Now not being linked to anyone feel I should take the leap that I’ve always been scared about. The major draws are London, Manchester or Dublin. Unfortunately most of them are ridiculously expensive but I’ve built up a fair nest egg. I don’t have to make this decision right now. But I’m not happy in the borders, and as much as Edinburgh will always feel like home it doesn’t seem to be offering much right now.
  11. Chat with Glasgow guy kind of, erm, escalated let’s say and we were talking about meeting up this weekend when we were both off work then bam! Lockdown has been extended in his city and no one is supposed to travel in or out except for essential reasons. There’s supposed to be a review tomorrow but with cases still rising there, I bet restrictions will be kept for another week. The universe obviously doesn’t want me to get laid right now! 😆 Work is a headache right now but trying to muddle through. May have written this upthread but giving myself another year in this town for things to stabilise and decide where I want to go next. I’m considering away from Scotland for a while.
  12. I find it so interesting matching faces/voices to internet personas! You’re very articulate and legible from the short clip, but I agree that filming oneself can be very awkward. I’ve done all of three zoom calls and not in a hurry to do more. Couldn’t tell you if you sounded particularly Greek - even though I used to work with a guy from Athens years ago. I have a very nondescript accent - apparently I don’t sound very Scottish but when I go to England anywhere they’re like “...you’re not from round here!” haha
  13. Got invites to Glasgow and Dundee to meet guys but don’t think I have any time right now to do so 🙃. Never had this match rate on dating apps, everyone must be really desperate coming out of lockdown haha. Is it bad that I still wish that the cute guy from back in March would contact me? Ok yes I know the answer to that. It’s all the same people on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge and he appears to have dropped off completely. Gave him my Instagram and number yet absolute silence. How much more of a hint do I need???
  14. I read that as “I would be running the UK like a maniac”. That’s probably what we need! You’d get it all sorted Dias 😁 I had an ex who had a similar amount of energy - he was constantly go, go, go and winging things. He was the antithesis of me and how we lasted as long as we did I’ve no idea but always admired how much he got done.
  15. Thanks guys. Update, Edinburgh guy doesn’t feel that there’s a spark there so won’t be seeing him again. A shame, wanted to grill him about his travels abroad. There’s an ongoing exchange with a guy from Glasgow but don’t think I’m going to meet him yet, have a feeling I’m going to be exhausted this weekend being swamped with work. He’s not looking for anything serious right now so maybe in a couple of weeks. Music/bands are a passion of ours so just been talking about that sort of thing.
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