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  1. Negative Nelly update and need to vent. So….got a new boss at work and things are not going well. At the beginning of the year it did feel like a blank slate and things were on the way up but it’s gone in totally opposite direction. Most of the team want to leave now, which may end up with me remaining the longest serving core member but think I need to get out soon. Dating has been really frustrating. Down in the dumps because one guy I’ve been crushing on the past couple of years (!) hoping he would miraculously come around appears to have a girlfriend now. Feel absolutely nothing when talking/meeting new people. Got to the point where I’m meeting up with an ex who dumped me on Xmas eve years ago. This sucks.
  2. Last proper date was in August, where I had no attraction to the guy in person. He seemed like he could be a nice friend but was clearly more into me so messaged him after to say thanks but no thanks. Since then an ex has resurfaced and have an friends with benefits situation going on. Not healthy in the slightest but meets some needs right now. I really miss being in a relationship though. Work is still rubbish. We’ve had someone new start who's extremely enthusiastic/straightforward and has loads of experience in events so I was hoping that would turn things around, however they’re now at an impasse with the marketing dept and will probably leave in the new year. I don’t know how to help them because this place has always been like that. On a positive note I’m being sent to a conference in a city I used to live in. Slightly terrified at the networking element and coming across like I have any idea what I’m talking about. Asked my boss if there’s anything in particular I should be finding out/doing there but she just goes “not really, just go enjoy it”. SO HELPFUL THANKS
  3. Same here, it's definitely been my annus horribilis. Surprising, a lot of rubbish stuff happened last year too. I just want to make it to the end of the year then reset for 2023. Hope you find your place soon too Dias! (PS my phone hates the new-ish forum layout so apologies for any duplicate posts/weird notifications haha)
  4. Been a busy few months. The colleague that has been signed off is still going through treatment and probably won’t be back (if at all) until next year. So boss is extra stressed trying to find cover. In the meantime I’m trying to keep on top of things, but how do others in a busy office do it? I can’t focus because there’s no guarantee I’ll get a least 20 minutes of continuous peace where I don’t have to help out on Box Office, answer the phone for ticket bookings, help colleagues because the website is playing up again (and I have no more training than they do on fixing it) or the constant noise from the cafe that’s right next door. I did run into FB guy again. Well, he pulled up in his car while I was walking along the street and offered a lift home. “No thank you”. “AW COME ON ARE YOU SURE??” while holding up traffic because he’s pulled over near an awkward junction. I keep walking and he turns off another street. Cue two days of me feeling like a jerk but if I give in a be nice again, it’ll be more of the same s***. Convos on dating apps keep fizzling out so still no dates this year. I’m still have a weird crush on Casper who keeps cropping up on apps. Yes I’m a total idiot. I need a new hobby that will get me out the house and meet people my own age. When you’re not sporty that’s really difficult here. Will keep looking.
  5. This gets better, right? A vital member of staff had to get signed off work very quickly a couple of weeks ago. Without doxxing myself/anyone else, boss is optimistic that they’ll come back to work at least part time but I’ve no idea how that can be predicted with any certainty. Managed to get temporary cover but the replacement doesn’t have quite the same skillset, so there’s a lot of pressure on the rest of us to deliver events in the same way we did. My knowledge only goes so far and I’m sure as hell don’t get paid enough for the hours/worrying I’ve been doing.
  6. Oh what will you be doing? Painting? Life drawing?
  7. Exactly! I was ignoring his most recent messages (I know, coward’s way out) but his latest one was saying he’d bought me a Valentine’s gift. He’d also make jokes about proposing. None of my guy friends do this, ever. I was probably too harsh in my response but told him I wasn’t comfortable with this and couldn’t accept the gift. He deleted his next message before I got to read it, then unfriended me on FB….hopefully won’t run into him around town. Also turned down a meet with a man off Tinder - hadn’t even met yet or had any substantial conversation, and he was telling me that he missed me. ???? Sorry pal, I’ve “met someone else”.
  8. Maybe he’ll stumble onto my journal and get the hint 😂
  9. It’s been an odd start to the year. A lot of events at the venue I work at were pulled amid ongoing restrictions, so I should be taking advantage of the extra downtime, however I’m still running around like a headless chicken at the last minute. Not been on any dates this month for that reason, but have found myself in an odd predicament with an acquaintance. He’s about twenty years older and I met him through my last job in retail. In this small town you get to know the regular customers and he was in every couple of days. He got in touch through Facebook recently, saying it would be nice to ‘catch up’. Having eff all social life here I thought why not and we went out for lunch a couple of times. Now he’s texting me a lot trying to arrange the next meetup but eh, we really don’t have that much in common. I’m worried that he’s hoping for more when i don’t even talk to my best friends as much as he wants to, and fear that I’ve made him think I’m interested. Argh. Trying to pull the slow fade and “oops I’m really busy from now until forever” excuse.
  10. I first started using dating apps around 2018, and viewed them as an extra way to meet new people that I wouldn’t normally. Live in a rural town and not many people the same age around. Met my last boyfriend by using them, we met relatively quickly in real life and dated for two years. My second stint with them isn’t going so well, although I’ve been getting matches and dates so I guess it depends how you look at it. In the last year think I’ve met about 9 men off the apps but most were ‘one and done’ and nothings developed further. They’re annoyingly addictive too, tried to take a break over new year but think I only lasted a few days away 🤣
  11. Christmas was pleasant and quiet. Swapped presents with parents early afternoon (Mum and I are late risers 😆) then Dad did most of the meal prep. Very non traditional Indian themed, was lovely and there were leftovers for days afterwards. In the evening watched the most recent Bond movie with them. Had an online video call with old high school friends, they all seem well. Would be better if we could get together properly. Tomorrow will visit my sister and nephew. Left work early on Friday (Christmas eve). It was just me and the cafe manager, and we found ourselves with no customers around 1pm. Officially we were meant to stay open until 3 but between decided to take advantage and shut everything down there and then. By the time the doors were closed was probably more like 2pm, so not too far off! Been napping and sleeping in A LOT. Didn’t leave the house again until Monday so that also tuckered me out when i came home, but also haven’t been regular on my anti depressants so I wonder if that’s affecting my energy levels. Really want to get on top of sleep pattern/health in 2022.
  12. Not much happening on the dating apps. None of the messages I send first are replied to, and they’re a mixture of ‘hey’ and thoughtful openers if they’ve bothered to write anything at all in their bios. The ones that contact me seem to only want hook ups. Meanwhile I’m getting ridiculously close to messaging Casper again, who appears to still be single. Trying to stay strong!
  13. Wondering if the UK, or even just Scotland, will go back into some sort of lockdown. The timing is annoying, mainly because it’s made planning at work for January really awkward. There’s a load of stuff I need to get off my plate by this weekend but I have a feeling I’ll be following it up with “sorry, all change again!”. We have a run of three concerts this week which are still going ahead unless any new announcements come tomorrow. People are calling up saying they don’t feel comfortable coming and can they get a refund, but our policy is that can only happen if the show is cancelled outright. Such a weird time.
  14. I just can’t decide on a plan of action. I don’t know whether to look for another job in the same industry (but possibly ruining my current references in the process) or try and get into the one I trained in, or retrain for something new altogether. I don’t know if I should move out and stay local while working here a bit longer, or keep saving and move further afield as soon as I can when a new job comes up. I know there’s no ‘right’ decision as such, but need to commit to a path and stick with it. I felt in limbo for years with one foot out the door everywhere I’ve worked.
  15. I really don't know how to take the next step. Was almost hyperventilating on the way home from work with all the thoughts swirling in my head. Part of me wants someone to just tell me what the right decision is so I can move on from here. Instead I'm going in circles. I know I don't want to be 34 and in this town with no social life and in this job....but I don't know what the alternative is 😞
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