Jump to content

soporcogitavi

Silver Member
  • Posts

    485
  • Joined

About soporcogitavi

  • Birthday 10/30/1978

soporcogitavi's Achievements

Enthusiast

Enthusiast (6/14)

  • First Post
  • Collaborator
  • Conversation Starter
  • Week One Done
  • One Month Later

Recent Badges

10

Reputation

  1. Again, why is it better to just not want to know something? Why is it normal for us to compare someone we had a ONS with to someone we have a solid relationship, isnt that flawed, it shouldnt even be close.
  2. Im comparing the notion of not wanting to know something, not the acts or the subject. Why is it normal for us to compare someone we had a ONS with to someone we have a solid relationship, isnt that flawed, it shouldnt even be close.
  3. So its better not to know, and be naive about it? Its like saying I dont want to know if my partner cheated on me or not, because I dont want to hear the answer.
  4. see this is what I mean, how could this not bother someone, seriously.
  5. But we spend almost all our time in the bedroom, just jk. I realize what all you are saying, but i think this is a common thing to think about or be slightly insecure about, isnt it?
  6. So what makes a specific partner stand out in bed? What do they do that makes them the best?
  7. I believe this is a common insecurity amongst men. But it bothers me if she were to think about another man when we're making love. I think that would bother anyone. Not even sure why im stating this because I dont even know if thats the case, just my thoughts.
  8. I feel the sex we have is very good and I believe so does she, I know sometimes she has an orgasm multiple times. We sometimes talk about things we like and she always says I do everything. I think the subject came up once before and she said haveing sex with me cannot be compare to anyone else, because she's in love with me. Its still something I think about though and wonder about.
  9. So should I have reason to be insecure about this? What if this "other" guy was better then me in bed, could she be thinking about that and wishing I was better? If that is the case
  10. Im looking for an honest opinion from women here. Do you ever compare how good your man is in bed with past sexual partners, flings, relationships, etc? My Fiance has been with more partners then myself, some of them ONS, others relationships. I guess i have an insecurity about how good her last partners or ONS' were in bed and I wonder if im as good or if she ever thinks of this. I know before we met she had a few ONS and one of the guys she saw for awhile, she had no interest in having a relationship with him, from some of the details or info I got, i get the impression that she was with him because he was good in bed and she was lonely at the time. Ive heard many women say they dont compare, but I wonder if this is really the truth. I wonder if she ever thinks: that guy was good in bed or he was better in bed then X. Does this ever cross your mind?
  11. its just tough when you actually realize how many people it affects, even my family was shocked as they never saw this side of her, thats why sometimes i wonder if it was me causing her to be like this. And why am i only doing this after 4 years of us being together, was i so blind or am i the problem, maybe ill never be happy. just putting it out there.
  12. how long did it take you, part of me worries that she'll find someone else, and ill feel like i lost something good while im trying to make up my mind, i guess its an insecurity
  13. i appreciate the encouragement i guess im wondering if maybe it was my fault for letting things get like this, sometimes im over analytical and dont let things go as easily as i should, she is a great girl and she has many qualities i like, but overall my worry is that when things really get tough, marriage, kids, and both of us working we will just be on a destructive path, but how will i ever know if this is the case, and how can i tell if she's the one?
  14. i appreciate the encouragement i guess im wondering if maybe it was my fault for letting things get like this, sometimes im over analytical and dont let things go as easily as i should, she is a great girl and she has many qualities i like, but overall my worry is that when things really get tough, marriage, kids, and both of us working we will just be on a destructive path, but how will i ever know if this is the case, and how can i tell if she's the one?
  15. Ive been in a relationship for 4 years now and recently just told her we need a break, there's been ups and downs, and the relationship i feel is at a critical point. I realize we both have our faults, but im starting to wonder if the issue we have just stem from us not being compatible. My girlfriend has a bad temper, whenever we get into a fight she is extremely verbally abusive, insulting me and my family often, and telling me things are not working. After this passes and she calms down, its as if nothing ever happened she acts as if we never argued and the situation is over and we should move on. I have seen act the same way to her family, and i have even witnessed her be physically abusive. I am a very analytical person and i like to search for the root of the issue, i often ponder these things for days, and this frustrates her, as she thinks we should just move on and that im just rekindling the situation, which in part is true, but this is because i feel like it hasnt been truly solved. i sometimes wonder if im at the root of this temper and i bring it up by analyzing things and not letting it go, but thats my personality. I know it taked 2 people to fight and im definetely responsible for some of it. We've both invested alot of time and effort in the relationship, but to what point does happiness take a backseat. i havent been happy recently and i actually ended the relationship 3 weeks ago as i was scared, we went back out 2 days later but when i got back with her its almost as if i didnt want to. In the last 3 weeks it feels as if i was trying to find things to fight over. I have often wondered many times how things would be if we got married, and im scared that things would just escalate. I know she's a good girl, and she's thoughtful considerate, and there's alot of good qualities most guys would appreciate it, but im almost scared that if i dont get back with her she will find someone else and i will regret my decision when i realize what ive lost. Even now i think i may have made the wrong decision. im wondering if im just trying to find excuses for not being with her, or trying to find excuses not to commit. Ive been with her for 4 years so shouldnt i have realized all this before? like i said she is a sweet girl and there is things i really like but im wondering if there might be something else out there thats more compatible or not make me doubt if that person is the one. Any objective opinions on this would help, i know this may same clear to some of you, but when you're living the situation things seem cloudy. Thanks
×
×
  • Create New...