Wondering_Woman

You are so wrong in your assumptions in how the author of this post looks. Im having a problem myself with my hubby looking at porn. I dint have a problem with when we did it together, or until I have discovered it is an almost daily thing now. I myself am 5'7, 120lbs, blonde hair (all the way down too!), blue eyes. I get plenty of attention when I am out and about. I get flirted with quite a bit. So, I am not ugly or fat. I am also not frigid. I like anal, I like the taste of him, I like sex about anyway we can cum up with. Period. Frequently too. We used to have it four or five times a week. Its been that often, and good, for the past nine years. But here in the past three or four months, I am losing my interest because it sucks knowing he is paying so much attention to an image on a monitor. I think about it when we are having sex. I wonder if he is reliving what he saw online, seeing in his mind what he watched online earlier that day. And quite frankly it turns me off, and I just want to let him finish, and could care less if I came or not. By his own actions of seeking out porn sites so often, he is pushing away a real live one, that actually compares physically and sexually to the ones he looks at online!

What is it with the porn on the net? I could understand my husband looking at if it perhaps I were overweight, and it was a turn off for him. But Im not overweight in the least bit. I could understand it if i were ugly. Im not that either. I could understand it if I did not want sex as often as him. But I do. I could even understand it if I were not the adventurous type, liking to discover new things in our sexual rendevous. But I am. And I could understand it if we didnt have a good relationship. I dont care that he looks at porn once in a while. But he looks at porn on an almost daily basis. He doesnt realize how it makes me feel. It hurts to know that he is paying so much attention to these street women of the net. To me, it is another form of adultery/cheating. Its in his sight, his ears, his mind, and for all I know in his thoughts when we are having sex. I dont think he has realized yet that it is starting to affect our sex life. It is so hard to be as intimate with him as I once was. We still have sex, but in my mind, it is not as great as it once was because I think about him watching the porn while we are having sex, or I wonder if he is thinking about what he watched on the porn sites that day. Any thoughts from any men out there would be greatly appreciated, though women please dont refrain.