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I'd have to say no.

I didn't go in for the kiss last time I dropped her off. It was rushed because I was holding up traffic downtown to let her out. But I still should have kissed her. Every other time we went out we kissed. Seems too late now.

Newts hit the nail on the head. I just got an email from an ex from almost 3 years ago, and I'd say it's a combination of sentimentality for an intense period in her life that is now over, coupled with a recent break up.. a sure recipe for looking up an X!

Emma, The thing is, I'm really not trying to play any games. I'm attracted to her. If I try and call her, and only hang out on her terms I really wouldn't be happy with the situation. I'd rather have a real girlfriend. You think she texted me only to allieviate her own guilt - so why would I consciously act like a schmuck and just go with it?

You two are right. Some part of me just wants to think that there's some really good reason for it all - like she never got my message. But that's bs, and it doesn't explain the show. I won't be calling her back. Thanks.

It sounds like she probably likes you. You two are flirting with eachother! Have you considered asking her to go out with you alone? Like to a museum and dinner on the weekend?

A little before Halloween, I met a really amazing girl. I was more attracted to her than I've been to anyone in a long time. We began dating for a few weeks, and I was happy with the direction things were heading for the most part. Then one day I return a message to her - I leave a voicemail - and she never calls me back. This was about 3 weeks ago. Well I can take a hint... maybe she really wasn't so interested... maybe she met another guy, etc. Tonight she texts me. All it says is "yo... long time... what's new?" I'm not sure how to respond to her. Perhaps I should just forget it. But on the other hand; I really would like to date her! It just feels like she really flaked out on me, and it's almost like I require some kind of explanation for this dissappearing act. Also, the last time we were supposed to go out (to a show) she didn't call me till after it ended! I felt stood up - which I'd never been before. (It sucks - who'd have guessed ) So at the moment I could go either way. I wish she'd just have phoned me instead of texting. Should I give her a call, and if so - how can I ask what's been up with her blowing me off without seeming overly sensitive?

He probably just has a twisted sense of humor and your cousin is a bit gullible.

Great kissers are made, not born, my friend. I suggest you practice as much as you possibly can! I know it's tough, and there will be times when you feel like giving up, but try to stay in the game! Work on your technique, and master the basics: Style Slobber Control Lip Firmness Tooth Collision Avoidance Timing: Rapid Fire vs. Long Haul Speech to Kiss Ratio Geogrpahical Prioritization (Don't head straight for the ear lobes!) Terrain Kissing Topography (More than just the mouth! Explore.) And don't forget to work on your Freestyle Manuevers often! I can't stress this enough, as you move on to advanced kissing levels, you want to make sure to keep your partner on her toes! Don't make the mistake of relying on a predictable routine - that's the Kisser's achilles heal. Good Luck!

Well, for better or worse, a reply was sent! I ended up taking the brief and direct route. Let's see what happens... maybe nothing!

Trish, I like that a lot! I'm wondering though if I'd be coming accross as "too forward" and jolting her a bit. Hm, but maybe that's the way to go. I'm now seriously considering writing her back. Of course I'm in no hurry; maybe it's best to let her sweat it out a few days while I figure this out!

Has anyone had a similar experience? I wish I could just ask her what she wants, and get an honest reply. I don't like games.

Last night I got an email from about the last person I'd expect, my exgirlfriend, Sara. It's been over a year and a half since we last spoke. Sure, I've gotten over her. I've been dating around lately. But this is someone I once loved. This is the classic "what if?" exgirlfriend. (What if I didn't break up with her? What if we got back together?" Well, here she is, bringing all these thoughts flooding back into my mind. Her email was almost exceptionally banal. She spoke about her studies, her brother, her friend. Nothing emotional. Nothing terribly interesting to me at this point. It seemed a bit contrived... I don't know, like she purposely avoided saying anything of substance. No 'I was thinking about you's', or other reasons were provided as to why she suddenly decided to contact me after so very long. My friend told me to just delete it, and not respond. What purpose could she serve in my life now? I don't desire her as a friend or aqquantance. But as a girlfriend...? Only if she's matured a lot. And even then it would be risky. I wish there were some way to test her. To see her intentions clearly, and if she's changed for the better. (Without getting too involved.) Any ideas? I can already feel my heart warming up to the thought of being with her again. We had such chemistry! I've never felt so passionate in any other relationship. What would you do? How would one respond to an email such as this?!?

Hm, what if you tell him that next time he calls?

Thank you so so much for saying that, Kate! I really appreciate that insight, and it encourages me so much! You do bring up a good point about you're ex. It's obvious you've moved on, so what does he expect from you? This guy sounds very mixed-up in regards to his relationships. Maybe he expects you to ask him back. But it doesn't really matter. Actions speak louder than words - especially in this case. I don't know if he will ever contact you again. But I wouldn't give him even friendship until he got himself together in a major way. I don't think you are being harsh. The guy went to live with someone else, and still is! That's harsh!