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  1. This is just speculation, but I find it hard to believe a girl could "finish" in a couple minutes, without foreplay, without much actual "action" during sex. If I had to guess, I'd say she's faking being "done" and is just doing that to pacify you. She knows you'll just finish things yourself, so she puts on a show, then leaves you out to dry? Maybe I'm way off, but that's how I read it. As to why she doesn't want sex, that's anyone's guess. Guy
  2. crookster_man, Thanks so much for your response. She doesn't seem to want to be pleasured. Countless times I've offered to just do sexual things to her, and she's not interested. I focus on her a *lot*, but am equally concerned about me. I will look over the articles you mention. Thanks.
  3. Hi Chuck, I just posted a thread, describing a situation similar to yours. The differences being she gained a little weight, but has since lost it. Plus, neither of us are getting anything "on the side". We're completely faithful to each other. We have sex only about once a month. Like your wife, mine's very busy-- she went back to college full time and often says our lack of sex is because her schedule and mine were too opposite (her classes are at night, and my work is during the day). But this entire summer all her classes are during the day so we're free at night, but then she says she's too tired. She seems to make a lot of claims like that which she ends up contradicting. And I too do almost all the cleaning around the house (we usually cook for ourselves). And I have also found myself turning her down for other things to have her feel what I feel sometimes-- for example just yesterday, she wanted to play a computer game with me. I probably would have under normal circumstances, but I said no. It does sound petty, but it's a small way of regaining a sense of "control" in the relationship when the lack of sex makes you feel like she's calling all the shots. I know I haven't really given advice, but thought you'd be interested to know that it sounds like we have a similar predicament. Good luck, and feel free to drop me a line if it'll help to blow off steam. -Guy
  4. Hi everyone, This is my first time posting this issue in a forum like this. Please bear with me as this is a hard thing for me. My wife and I have been together for the past 8 years, and just got married about a year ago. We have a phenomenal relationship-- we're very, very close and are each other's best friend. I love her family, she loves mine, etc. It's a fantastic relationship, and I am very thankful for that. We're 110% devoted to each other. For the first 2-3 years of dating, we were very sexual and had a very healthy, regular sex life (2-3 times/week). After that, it dropped off further and further to the point where it's about once (maybe twice) per month on average. We've had many discussions about this, and she really wants to try harder and feels bad for things being this way, but she doesn't follow through. She *rarely* even "services" me just to satify me when she's not in the mood for sex. I try cuddling to get her in the mood, am not pushy at all, will give shoulder/neck rubs when she's stressed, but she doesn't respond even though those are the things she says gets her in the mood. She was slightly overweight for the past few years, but it never bothered me-- only her. But recently she lost 30 lbs and looks great, so I don't think that's it, but who knows. This is tearing me up. Everything else is great, but the sex life is miserable, miserable, miserable. Anyone else in this situation? Any advice??? Thanks in advance, Guy
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