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Can members please refrain from back-and-forth arguing/debating. It's both detracting and disrespectful to the OP. This is about Lost's dating adventures - lets keep it at that. Thanks.

I am going to be brutally blunt - the moment I read the first three sentences I was immediately put off, big time. I can see exactly why you have no girls going after you, and by the way you continue bragging and thinking you're god's gift to women, you'll be alone for a very very very long time. No amount of your perceived "perfection" will work if the personality doesn't match. Humble? I see zero of that. Try an attitude change and you might get lucky, eventually.

I have had a look and haven't found anything indicating that a thread has been deleted (btw, we don't delete threads anyway). Can you tell me which thread it was? Title? When posted?

Thread closed as per OP's request.

All I see is poor character and poor judgement - you'd think at age 54 he should know better. Ugh. He would be my permanent EX so fast he wouldn't know what hit him.

They hid the thread as it was too sensitive.

Teeny tiny friendly reminder .... please steer the ship back on course. Thanks 😉

At this stage we don't know if the OP is male or female. In a previous thread s/he talks about a girlfriend, and in this one having sex with a guy. It is a bit confusing. Perhaps the OP can clarify (not that it really matters I guess).

I think the stone could be white quartz, also known as milk quartz. It's supposed to help with emotional balance, healing properties, anxiety, brings harmony and relieves stress. (All that info via my daughter, she loves the stuff, lol).

^ I second this post in its entirety. Nailed it. Great post Ch0c0. Having travelled extensively, I have been to Berlin (years ago), and there are always parts of any city which never sleeps, as there are places which are not so good. Since I've been there last, no doubt a lot has changed so the best thing to do would be to follow DarkCh0c0's brilliant advice above. Explore and enjoy.

OP, I saw your reply to my previous post (before you hid it) - and I reiterate that it seems he's not as into you as you are into him. Maybe time to rethink all of this and go your separate ways.

All of that sounds really good and positive, so ...... the big question now is "what's the problem?" 😕

Maybe because that's exactly how it is for him? In general, when looking at the over all picture, it seems you are way more into him than he is into you.

I second the above. It would be better if she tells her own story so that she can answer the questions without you needing to pass on the questions and reply for her etc.

So DID he rape you? OP, can you please clarify this point because no-one can advise in a constructive manner if we don't have the full story. What was the scenario which led up to the "rape"? Was he forceful? Or did you participate?

Unfortunately there is not much you can do but respect her wishes. It's clear she needs time to address her mental health issues. You now have to get back on track with your life - do what you used to do before dating her. Focus on your career, friends, family, hobbies, sports etc etc.

Just a little side note: He did not take anything. You gave it. Regretting your decision is not his fault, nor is it rape.

I'm sorry to say that you did not "accidently" lose your virginity to him. It was a conscious choice - not an accident. But what's even worse (if I understand this correctly), is that it was a seriously low move to tell your family he raped you. Do you have any idea how this accusation could have ruined his entire life if they chose to report him? That said, I agree with Andrina's post above. Please seek professional help for your mental issues and do not try to get back with this guy, or any other relationship until you are mentally healthy and have sorted all of your issues out.

Why doesn't he trust you? That said, I don't think he's a great loss. Stay broken up. Show him you have self respect and move on to better things and better men.

^ I agree with the above. You sound depressed and it would be a good idea to get a referral for counseling/therapy to help you address these issues and get back on track.

^ That sounds like my husband, poor guy never gave up, 🤪 lol

Brilliant post Smackie! 👍 Actually, really great posts by all above.

Keeping fingers cross. If it's meant to be, it will be. 🤞

^ I think this is a very good idea. Move on for now and see where life takes you.

Are you in a stable career, or building a career too?