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  1. FigureItOut
    I completely agree with this analysis. Coming from my situation (which is a bit complicated due to us being in an LDR during the breakup but now in the same city), I would not have felt comfortable coming out of NC and starting any sort of LC until he did. He was the one who walked out with little explanation, and he has my number, IM, e-mail, etc. If he wanted to talk to me, he would. Then after two months, I got a random e-mail from him. We've been in light contact ever since. However, I've since learned NC is the easy part. I don't think randomly e-mailing after 4-8 weeks or establishing some form of contact will do much good, but that's just my two cents. Especially in a break-up where the dumper says they need space, need to be single, are having doubts, etc, or there is another party involved (mine was the former).
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    Cat76, I know how that can be a bit of a setback! However, it really frustrates me, because he has been commenting on MY (not mutual by any means) friend's statuses and pictures! One of my friends got so annoyed by it that she told me she defriended him. I went on a weekend getaway to the beach this past weekend with a good friend of mine, and I signed her wall saying how much I was looking forward to the trip. Then, while we were there, I opened my FB to see see him showing up on my newsfeed, commenting on a status she wrote about the trip with nothing more than a smiley face. * * * ? vent> Maybe I should just completely block him (I defriended), but I don't know if I am ready for that.
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    I wonder how long it is going to take before dreaming of him stops, or at least stops happening on a daily basis. I've literally gotten back together with him in my dreams every single night since the break up (i'm at around 35 days of NC). It's so hard to wake up and know it's not true, and not only that, but I can't even talk to him... At least it is getting a lot easier to handle the pain during the day
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    So close Cat76... congrats!!
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    Thank you for the support DaveTrump and imjgh!! It has definitely been a roller coaster ride of emotions the last 30 days. I am going to continue to post on my progress on a regular basis. I've noticed though that it does help for me to not count and post on each individual day, but rather when I feel I am making progress or need support. Good luck to everyone, and it DOES get easier.
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    I'm trying not to count the days, but I have completed thirty days of no contact!! I am very proud of myself, as this was VERY difficult. Even harder than I imagined. I know I am doing better, but still have a long way to go. During my time of NC, I joined a gym, started a workout routine, and am already seeing results. I also caught up with old friends, took a trip to the beach, went on a date, and had some serious time to reflect on the relationship. I still miss him like crazy and have times when I want to get back together. I still get nervous that he's not made any effort to contact me. I get afraid he never will again. I'm really starting to see that we weren't working now, but I think we have potential to reconcile after his life settles down. I feel that it has been a positive 30 days overall. Here's shooting for 60 days!
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    Also, I am really starting to see results from working out! Clothes are much loser and I am starting to notice a lot more definition in the muscle areas I have been working on. Yay for that at least!!!
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    Not sure what day of NC it is (I think around 17?). I've been doing everything (and I mean everything) I can think of to distract myself from how much I miss him. A good friend from college flew to visit me this weekend and just left, and now I am heading out of town for several days again for my brother's college graduation. I also planned 2 three day weekends at the beach after that. Still no contact, still fearful, with a bit more self pity thrown in there as time passes. and boy, is time passing SLOWLY. These last two and a half weeks have felt like an enternity. It feels like it has been ages since I've spoken to him. Is this normal? I really miss him, a lot.
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    Congrats Coldheart!! I am so happy and envious of you at the same time. Also Lost Solace, congrats on your friends finding each other again. T his is so hard. Especially because two important things happened at work today, and both times I reached for my phone to call him. But, I was strong, and hung it back up before I dailed, as hard as it was to do. I've still not heard a peep from him since he left. I posted a short version of my story here - I'd appreciate any input anyone has
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    Had a really rough night last night.... but i'm trucking along OKAY today. A friend from college is coming to visit this weekend, so I am excited for that.
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    I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest
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    The dreams are still very strong, and still no word from him. I'm okay today. Still miss him, am worried about never hearing from him again, and somewhat blame myself, but it's not overpowering me. I went for a good run last night, and planned two trips to the beach yesterday for May!
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    Nights are the worst part, by far. Was up from about 230-5 am. I'm still worried about never hearing from him again, but i'm in a better mood this morning. I' still confused about everything too.
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    I had another dream about him last night, and I woke up as usual in a little bit of a panic. Gonna try to shake off the rough start and go about the day. It is beautiful outside, and I'll probably go to the gym as well. Here's hoping today is better than yesterday.
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