claudia

Hey whitefang I could totally relate to what you are going through and i understand there will be tough times ahead of us all and there are times to feel like how you feel but thats the cycle of life we go through . At this stage what you are going through is just a test for your strenght . If this would make you feel better i don't have a girlfriend too lol ( neither a boyfriend) lost him last year and when through my motions of being depressed but there are bright lights ahead i can tell you that. Once a guy told me about friends in your life he said when you're a kid you have lots of friends but as you grow your friends become less and less and when u get to being an adult you will only be surrounded by your true friends might be two , three or even one but they are the ones that count . well i hope i remember that story correctly or i'll be like marlon the clownfish ( finding nemo) . haha me and my lame jokes lol sorry College life is hard right now and everyone has that problem about what they will become after so right you should just focus on finishing . well anytime you need to vent drop me aline and i hope i help a bit

To fantasia2004 It really was not important that he remember my birthday but it was feeling behind it i guess that hurt more . Any how i look at it whats done is done and i should really get myself to let go . To Live to love I agree with the closure statement to I really needed for this to happen so i look towards the future and you know what my future looks bright as hell and its just his tough luck that he would not share in that bright future with me claudia

thanks guys for replying . Yes maybe this is the closure i need to show me finally he does not care any more. To HJP1990 Happpy Birthday and try to have a good day . Maybe one day they will see their mistakes, as for now i'm moving on with my life and not gonna take him on any more .He has now lost my friendship. I have a package to send to him and after that it will be not contact for me .

So yesterday was my birthday and not that i expected my ex to remember me (maybe deep down i wanted him to remember ). He never called or text or nothing.While i had a great time yesterday i felt a bit hurt that he forgot me . I know it's over but i did remember his and sent my greetings to him. However i saw him online this morning and my anger got the best of me and i let him know how hurt i felt about him forgetting my birthday and i told him i would never bug him again and all he said was he was sorry . this from someone who said he still wants to be my friend ( ha ha nice friend) and i told him i now know what i meant to him to which he replied " jeeze" . I never said anything after that . sorry to be rambling about this but i guess i needed to get it out . i just cant believe him but on the other and he is not obligated to me ( he broke it off) . its just sad now. well advice and feed back needed cause now my feeling got hurt .

hey everyone i really need some sense knocked into me right now .I'm so mad at myself right now and i feel so stupid for this feeling. My current ex and i were in a LDR and he broke it off saying that he was ( mentally sick) and could not cope with the distance even thought i was making plans to come to his country .I understood his point and sadly try to put our relationship in my past ,he said the magic words of wanting my friendship blah blah and stupidly i accepted . So this happened in September 2003 and we are trying to be friendssice then, its hard to be with him, cause we mainly use msn and sometimes he just ignores me and sometimes he messages me . I know i should delete him and initate no contact but i can't seem to do it . He says he enjoys my friendship . I try the no contact thing but always seems to end up in contact with him Well today i playing around with this site he created and i saw some girl leaving messages in his guestbook (pretty retard) but i got really sad and jealous and now i feel anger (i just wish this to be over where i feel nothing for him) . On one hand i feel happy for him if he meets new girls but on the other i feel bad cause i wish it was me. Now i'm feeling down and i guess he is probly happy not even studying me i just need some advice on leaving this behind me sorry if i wasted anyone time with my babbling but i really needed to get it out

i think u and ur boyfriend need to have a long chat about whats going on .Bottling it up will not help the situation . Simply lay ur cards on the table for him telling about how u feel and what u are going through. maybe he needs a lil time i know its a distance relationship but maybe by leaving him alone for a little time he will begin to miss u and would start to appreicate your company when u are around . anyways that my two cents i hope things look up for u .Just remember that the key to any successful relationship is communication . take care

i really fell for u gt at this moment , cause i know how it feels my ex broke up with me over the same issue but we were on different parts of the world .one day it will be over believe me the pain will become less and less as time goes on. i guess the hurtful thing is it seem like such the ideal relationship ( no fights just good times) maybe if he was an ass u would have gotten over faster. maybe u can try to talk to him for closure ,u never know what the future holds . well lady keep ur chin up its goona be aright soon

Well i surely can relate to all u guys ,i too want answers but i was thinking would the answers really solve anything .... maybe in some cases it will but in most its just gonna hurt more its just gonna lead to more questions and needing new answers ,someone earlier said let it be . Like most of you i too am in soo much pain that this christmas season is the worst for me . i'm trying the no contact thing but i wish someone could answer this for me . when the dumper dumps the dumpee why is it that they are the ones to ignore the dumpee and seems so cold and distant. i pray every night just to wake up and not feel like this anymore i would love to be as cold as him and walk away but its too damn hard . well to all my fellow sufferers have faith pray alot and try your best not to contact the exs cause right now they could give a rats A** about how we feel so i say screw them one day our answers will come hopefully.

the problem is sometimes i can't bear him not talking to me so i would be polite and say hello to him but he would only say hello and we hardly would talk . I'm usually saying some small stuff to him and to that he would reply that he is busy or he just does not answer me at all . i know i should cut him loose but its so damn painful and hard i just want this to be over with . when he broke up with me he said the infamous " LETS BE FRIENDS " line now he treats me like enemy number 1 and i did not do anything to him i was just alittle bit clingy . he is really cold to me . I'm still hurting through i just don't understand it .

well its been four months since my break up and my ex seems like he does not even miss me one bit . well i just have a short question about this no contact thing : would it be contact if u and your ex was online together but not talking to one another? like in msn messenger . I'm the weakest when it comes to sticking completely to the no contact thing but i keep slipping i need serious help. sry if this sound like a silly question but i was just confused .

wow i can really relate to what u are going through i mean i was in the same exact situation that u are facing from meeting online to visiting the magic thing the whole nine. But its four months since he broke up with me saying that he lost his feelings for me . Like u i was wondering was it the distance? was it me ? but its not u its him he is pulling away from u for whatever reasons and u should let him pull away dont chase him maybe u can just give him some time and alittle space but u should tell him how u feel first and then do the space thing and see what happens . i hope this was a little helpful its not much advice but its just to let u know that u are not alone . *hugs*

Thats some positive thinking there, i've been following yours from the first day. Like yourself i too feel in love with someone from another country (switzerland to be exact) and surely i saw myself living there cause its beautiful and very different from where i live but like england it's even harder with immgriation there.This fact coupled with my ex's inability to weather that storm and his confusion about his feelings cause us to break up . The way i look at my situation and yours as well is that maybe we were to experience these things after all its things like these that makes us stronger and better people in chosing what is best for our lives and i agree with you this message forum is a big help as well, it shows we are not alone when we think we are . Just stay Strong and be positive and go with the flow Big Hugs Remember Warriors Don't Cry

i dont know if anyone could shed some light on this problem for me , my ex and i broke up about alil over a month now and he said that we should be friends,well i at first wanted to hang on to some piece of him so i agreed to that . its the hardest thing to do but we were friends before any thing else . well now that we are friends again he hardly talks to me, and he ignores me online , he only speaks when i say something not even greetings are said . can some one tell me whats up with his behaviour . i know there should be no contact but its so hard to do .i have been trying so hard , the reason for the break up was that he said he does not feel the same for me and he has to entertain me what ever that means coupled with the fact it was a ldr . i just dont know what to do can some one help me pls

hey blue baby , i know exactly what u are going through cause i'm going through the same exact thing my ex bf broke it last week saying the same thing as u said about realizing there was no future for us he being in eroupe and me in the caribbean . i agree with the pervious post about time healing all things but my problem is seeing him online and dealing with just being a friend which is really hard ,ut in the end things happen for a reason and like the saying if ur boyfriend has the same feelings for u (not to be like the same ole line)but if u love him let him go and if it was real love he will come back . just have faith be his friend and live ur life as well well if u need to chat u can always pm me

i have to agree with jack on the self esteem thing love ur self first i too was in an online relationship and we meet it was the best thing he came to my country and i went to his , but like jack when i got home i too got real depress and angry cause i was not around my bf and he ended it maybe because of the distance who knows but we still talk online sometimes . so my advice to u is that these type of relationship are the hardest but when u both are strong it will work out best of luck to u and just stay postive

well we did meet each other ,i spent three weeks with him in his country and he spent 10 days in mine , but all this happened when i came home . we had great times together and he said he got lonely when i left and was very confused about the break up

First i just want to say that this is a really great site ,some of the post i have read shows that i'm not alone and this happens to everyone. well here is my story i was in this online relationship ( check pervious posts) and this guy i really like alot ,he was/still is a great person to me but he ended it saying that he was not in love with me anymore and that i was staying online whole day cause of him but he still has feelings for me and would like for us to be friends. i just need some advice on how to be his friend when he see my name on msn he hardly talks only hello he says , i will love for us to get back together but i dont know how to make it happen . Should i be patient and give him space or should i continue to be online and hope he changes his mind and talk to me once again . but can u really be friends after a break up and if so how , need some tips

My bf of a year broke up with me on last friday night . i cried and cried and cried but felt that it was going to be ok . well he said the reason is that we live so far apart from each other and he feels that i would be happier with someone where i live plus he said that his feelings has changed for me ( the last time i saw him was in july 2003 and we had a blast of a time) but he told a friend of mine that he still has feelings for me . i really like this boy alot but he said that he needs space but he texted oon sunday saying that he can't get me out of his mind and hope i could forgive him . i spoke to him on tuesday but only for 10 mins and nothing after that . a problem we had was he said that i always stay online and he feels i refuse to go out because of him but thats not true , he says that he is confuse about breaking up with me . i was willing to move to his country but the laws are pretty shitty for immgriation . i'm so confused right now and i feel that he has blocked me from msn and he does not return my texts or email . should i move on from this relationship or try to make it work out i really need some advice on this thanks in advance

thanks guys for ur advice . we both want this to work and i trust him alot and he trust me. we are online every night despite the time difference . well we will see what happens . but if anyone have any more comments feel free to post

I met this Guy online in Nov 2001 and finally meet him face to face in February 2003 . Well i live in the caribbean and he lives in Europe but he sent me a ticket to visit him for three weeks . everything seems good but now that i'm back home i wish i was still with him . my problem is i like him alot but i'm scared that we will not make it cause of the distance we spoke about me moving but that seems impossible . Pls Help with any suggestions