destiny2009

Should i admit that i looked through his msn list and confront him? And thank u so much for responding

Hi everybody, thank you so much for taking time out of your day to reading my posts, its greately appreciated. Im in a long distance relationship and this New Yrs i went to see my bf on and off of 5years. One night we had gone out to eat and he had gone to McDonalds to get something to eat while i waited in the car. While in the car I made a decision to look through his texts. What i had found was that he was seeing 2 girls for the past 2 months. I had confronted him and he admitted that he had been seeing girls but had not been physical with any of them. He also admitted that he was seeing girls a year prior when we were just seeing each other prior to breaking up. There had been a lot of crying and begging and he had admittted of buying me a ring and he really wanted to make a change and make this work. I decided to make a choice and give him another chance. 2 weeks later Im obviously still in pain and its eating me up. I can tell he is trying his best to make this work. Just this past weekend my bf gave me his password for his job because he needed me to do something for him. I took that password and tried to get into his account and it worked. I went through it and I saw that he had deleted all of my emails but he had a folder for his ex's. In this folder i saw that these girls had really loved him, and they were obviously intimate. It pains me sooooo much. Of course it doesnt end there, i went on his msn and earlier that day he had told me i had my own folder that said 'Baby'. But when i looked at his msn list im actually under a folder named ' * * * * *es' were he keeps all his female friends at. And i saw a folder that he named 'Potential' that had a single female account under. Please help me with this..I NEED SO MUCH HELP..im in a lot of pain. I need to know if im overreacting...Ladies what would u do if u were in my position. I dont know what to do...I really want to comfront him but i dont know if i should admit that i snooped. Thank u for your time.

Okay this is kinda weird but bare with me. Me and my friend were having an intimate convo about family. And then she said she had to tell a rumor that she heard a yr ago about my family but didnt know how to ask me. So i convince her to tell me and she said that the ppl from my country mothers and daughters are gossiping and saying that my 2 older sisters are actually my half sisters (I have 2 older sisters and 1 older brother)..so obviously when i heard this i didnt believe it but u never know. My friend said that if i told my family then i had to lie about where i heard it from..so then 30 minutes later i call my brother and ask if it was true and he said no. Without me knowing he calls the rest of my fam to tell them what i had asked him. I went home later that night and asked my mom sneakily if it was true and she said no too. The next day, my brother called me and told me it was true. And told me that 2 years ago my father and sat him down and told him the truth....Which was that when my mom was 14 yrs old she had married a drunk and he abused her and she had my 2 older sisters with him...then they escaped and moved to italy where she met my dad. The whole reason that im truly upset is that i feel betrayed by my fam...like im 20 yrs old and no one told me this and i had to hear about my families history through gossip and rumors.. This all happened like 2 days ago and even tho i know nothing has changed i sort of feel depressed about it. This family has been so cookie cutter to me and hearing this just confuses me...and i dont feel like i can trust anyone!!!! I just want to know what you guys think and if you think im over reacting with this...THANKS SO MUCH FOR UR SUPPORT!

Hey everyone I was just wondering a basic question. How easy is it for a guy to get hard. Like sometimes I'll read that a guy can just look at a girl and he'll get hard but is it realistic and if it is what exactly is it that a girl does to get u guys like that and how long does it take and how long does it last. I just really want to tell u how appreciative i am of all the responses I get, and have gotten! Destiny2009

Will you marry me lol...naw im playing but u make me believe that their are still some decent guys out there for us girls!!!

I am really confused when it comes to me and my long distance bf. I have so many mixed emotions towards him and sometimes I just feel like giving up but I dont know if thats the right thing to do. He tells me that he was about to give up everything but then he met me and he felt like there was a reason to live and he tells me he loves me every second. I feel bad 4 doing this but I made pros and cons about him...let me know what u think! ...Thanks! Pros: -no one loves me like he does -when I'm with him I dont even realize anything is going on around me -amazing kisser -amazing lover -caring -loving -sensitive -funny -smart -cant stop thinking about him or the next time im gonna c him Cons -lives 5 hrs away -worst fashion sense -way too full of himself -only thinks about himself sometimes -sometimes i find that i think of him as a brother and nothing else -sometimes immature -doesnt use common sense -bad past scared he'll do to me what he's done to his other girls--cheat -checks out girls right in front of me -will only go outside with me when I look good

Me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship and a month ago I told him that that I wanted an open relationship. He said ok but he said he didnt want to do the same. A couple a weeks ago I confessed to him that I kissed some of the guys I was seeing...he was really dissappointed and cried to me over the phone. And just last night he brought it up and I told him that I was still seeing the guys..he got so mad and called me heartless because I should have realized how much it hurt him and stopped. Do you think Im being unfaithful or am I just being paranoid?

Im in a long distance relationship...and my boyfriend will be coming to my town at the end of this month. He is staying at a hotel for 3 nights and I will be staying there with him. What advice can you give me to turn him on and make this trip really special for him.....anything from what I can wear...setting the mood...what I can do....or say..ANYTHING!!! Thank you!!

Ok, Im gonna start by saying that I love my boyfriend of 6 months but we've known each other 4 2years. I understand how lucky I am to have a guy like him but recently I've been thinking that I want an open relationship cause I dont want to feel tied down. Im so young (19) and unlike my boyfriend I cant say that I've experienced the whole dating thing too much. IM not surprised if I marry this guy but I just wanna get into that dating scene again. Do u think its right to have an open relationship as long as I dont give my guy details or am I just denying the fact that I want something else in a guy. Do you think it can work out?? Plz help me out... Destiny! [/b]