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I really like this guy at uni, we've been 'seeing' each other for about 5 months. I saw him on thursday and we had a great time out and for the first time he actually showed some emotion when my guy friend was flirting with me. He got quite jealous and kept asking who that idiot i was speaking to was. We came back to mine and he had to get up early the next morning but we stayed up for 3 hours just talking. We'd never established if we were serious about each other and we broached the subject and he told me he wouldn't be here if he didn't like me and the whole evening was really nice, and he hinted that we'd still see each other next term Now it's the end of the summer term i'm going home on friday and i sent him a SMS on sunday asking for him to come over and watch a video he said he was busy and asked when i was leaving. He told me he was also going away on friday but he'd text me the next day and we'd sort something out. I still haven't heard from him and don't want to SMS him again but i can't think what i've done?
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This guy and i have been seeing each other for six months on/off although last month i gave up after asking him to the cinema he said he had to much revision and exams coming up and didn't hear from him again. I saw him last week and he approached me and then told my friend he thought i looked gorgeous. I stayed at his that night, i didn't think i'd hear from him as he told me he was travelling in august and we're breaking up from uni in a couple of weeks and not going back for a few months. But on saturday night i had two SMS msg's from him and an answer phone msg, saying he wanted to see me but i had my phone off and didn't get it until yesterday morning. The only thing is in his SMS he never ends it with a x but this time he did. Am i reading to much in to this? Or does he like me?
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I've been seeing this guy (when i say seeing i mean had a few dates and slept with him) for about 5 months. We'd fallen out a couple of months ago but have sorted things out. We both mentioned we'd like to go to the cinema and he said he was thinking about asking me the other day and didn't. So i sent him a SMS last night and asked him, i got a reply saying "he wasn't going to risk one of my films for awhile (it's a joke we have about my poor taste in films) as he was finishing coursework and then starting revision". There was no mention of some other time but i do know his exams are in a week and it's his final year at uni so thats obviousley a contributing factor, so do i just ignore the message and hide under a rock for a couple of months...Or wish him luck in his exams and leave it at that...and then maybe go hide under a rock...
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He never makes the effort does that mean he doesn't like me?
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It's 5 months now and i have been seeing a guy we have been sleeping together reguarly and hung out a lot. In the first month it was equal input but now it seems i'm always texting him and planning dates and he never initiates a text msg it will always be me. The thing is he'll always be the first one to approach me if i see him out and he'll suggest ideas for dates (ie the cinema) but never implement them. I still get the feeling he likes me from the way he acts infront of his friends (he's not scared of being affectionate) so i can't work out whether he's just Mr Play it cool or Mr Player i just really like him... We fell out a few months ago over rumours and i know he slept with a girl during that time i just keep thinking if he didn't like me why would he come back? With his past he's never stayed with one girl since his last serious relationship and he wouldn't stick with me if he didn't like me... -
I know girls get emotionally attached to guy’s more than guy’s getting attached to girls, but my question is can you be involved sexually with someone for about 5 months and not have feelings for this person? For about 5 months we have been seeing each other on a few dates and we stay over at each other’s houses, we’ve not really discussed being serious but I have been told by his friends that he does like me. The thing is if you were merely using someone for sex would you be affectionate in public and also on your own with that person? As I am aware he did have a reputation with one night stands and girls but I also get the feeling he had his fingers badly burned a few years ago by another girl from what he has told me. Is it worth persevering?
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For 5 months I have been seeing this guy on and off, in the first few months it was going really well and we both really liked each other. And then a few months later people started getting involved and it kind of fell apart for about a month or so. We recently bumped into each other again last Monday night and things picked up again most of our dates have been bed roomed based but he said to me that he was going to call the other night to see if I wanted to go to the cinema but chickened out. And also just before we were going to fall asleep he said what are we going to do then? I asked him about what (hoping he was finally actually going to ask me out) and he was quiet for ages and then just mumbled something about him being tired. The thing is with this guy I really like him and I know he likes me but he also has had a reputation as having a lot of one night stands but he has also had a three year relationship a couple of years ago so I know he’s not completely immature. And I keep thinking that if he was merely using me for sex he could have any girl and why arrange dates with me?
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ask me out for another date and not follow it through? I've been seeing a guy for awhile the other week we were chatting and i mentioned being alone in my flat because my housemates were all going away and he replied he was staying here pretty much all through easter and we could get together to do something and suggested maybe going to see a film i said i'd love to and then we got separated. I haven't heard from him since and why would you suggest a date with someone if you really weren't interested? I'd text him but i always feel i'm the one making the effort and he rarely ever texts me first but the thing is i've left a really expensive bracelet at his house and want it back do you think he's waiting for me to text him?
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i found i really changed, i went to an all girls school and didn't have much contact with guys then i found myself living with mostly guys, they really brought my self confidence out in me and i feel i've changed for the better but it also meant i had less in common with my friends from home which was quite sad. But it depends on the person and how much they want to get out of the experience!!
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I’ve been seeing a guy on and off for the past 4 months at first he did all the chasing and I lapped it up, then it slowed down for a bit and he didn’t take much interest, until I saw him out and left early he then left an answer phone message asking where I was and then he started the chasing again, now it’s gone quiet and it’s me doing all the texting. He replies to the messages but I just feel a bit desperate doing all the chasing, it only started when we first started seeing each other when I didn’t reply to a message of his and he said he was playing it cool by not replying… is he still playing it cool? He said something about taking me to the cinema but I haven’t heard anything about it, if you didn’t like a girl would you start suggesting dates like that? Especially when the dates have only been watching videos in my room?
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For about three and a half months I have been seeing this guy, we had a one-night stand and since then we have been texting and have seen a fair bit of each other. I’ve recently discovered he is known within the university as a guy who’s had a lot of one-night stands. Things went a bit wrong when people started stirring things up and saying that he said I was boring and I didn’t want to see him again e.t.c. And there has been a rumor he’s slept with another girl whilst seeing me, however my friend said to check his SMS messages so I did whilst he was in the shower and the only messages from a girl was mine. But I saw him last night we chatted about things and I told him that I had never said I didn’t want to see him again we kissed and then he asked what I was doing over vacation I said not a lot and asked if I could see him because my flat mates are all away and didn’t want to be alone. He has been over to watch videos before and he said that he would go one step up and take me out to a film and we could do stuff together over the vacation. It’s never really left the bedroom do you think he’s actually interested I developing something?
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Ok so I ‘m foolish enough to get involved with a ‘player’ I found out he had 10 one night stands last term, and then I met him we continued to get to know each other through a few dates and we’ve discussed past relationships but never if we are going to do anything about ‘us’. This has been going on for the past 3 months (which is long term for this guy!) We’ve both told friends we quite like each other, but have only been ‘seeing’ each other and have seen other people. But both get jealous if we see each other talk to other guys/girls Usually we go home together after a night out but the other night he told me he really wanted to but his final essay had to be in, I was fairly drunk and said I’d leave early the strange bit is, he had his arms around me and was hugging me and we did kiss, he told me I was incredibly fit but tonight we couldn’t and could I go home with my flat mate on my own, then I find out he went home with another girl from a msg on a website! I feel stupid because I sent him a SMS yesterday apologizing for my actions and he replied saying he was an absolute mess and that he’d see me soon unaware he had been at another girls. But the previous week when we went home together my flat mate said in front of me and him “I thought you didn’t want to pull him anymore” and he looked hurt and asked me several times if I actually said this and I said no because I hadn’t, and he was awkward with me in the morning which makes me think have I wounded his ego?
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I had a one night stand with a guy at the end of November, he had quite a reputation with one night stands throughout the uni so I didn’t think anything would come of it, he took my number and sent me about 30 messages over that weekend. We broke for Christmas and I didn’t reply to his message. When I next bumped into him he approached me and we started talking he told me he liked me and was upset when I didn’t text him and decided to ‘play it cool’. Since then we have been texting each other, and he has been over to watch videos and I’ve stayed at his a few times. When we’re together he’s very affectionate, whenever we see each other out he’ll play it cool in front of his friends, but I’ll catch him looking at me accross the room and whenever I chat to any guys he’ll always be watching. However he is also incredibly flirty with girls but I was always aware of his flirty nature as that is how it is. I thought this was a casual relationship but I’ve started to feel towards him and he’s told his friends and my friends he likes me which if it were purely casual would you admit to having feelings towards me? I will be seeing him tonight and will probably end up as it always does me staying at his so how do I approach the subject of how we both feel without coming accross a complete idiot?
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Before Christmas I met this guy, it started as a one night stand and it has progressed from there, I was unsure I’d see him again but we have been hanging out and sending each other a lot of text messages. And people have been telling me that he is quite interested in me and we do get along really well. But the last time I saw him someone told me that some guy had asked if I was the boring girl he was seeing. I’d never met this guy and neither had my friend (who is friend with the guy I’m seeing) but something must have been said about me for this guy to assume I was “the boring one”. I didn’t question him but when I stayed at his he told me to ignore what people are saying. His actions were no different and he was still affectionate towards me. But I haven’t seen him for a week and a half as he wasn’t out on Wednesday as he usually is due to a lot of work. I sent him a SMS on Thursday and have not heard a reply, usually I can tell when guys aren’t interested but he acted no differently towards me! Someone had told me he had slept with 10 people last term but nothing like what we have at the moment have I been dismissed? Or do I just concentrate on the fact that he is in his final year and has a lot of work?
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For about 6 weeks I have been seeing this guy, things had been going well and I last saw him last Wednesday and things were fine (usually if I suspect something strange I get the woman’s instinct that something’s up and I haven’t) he was no less affectionate and was complimenting me throughout the night. I didn’t hear from him on valentines day but didn’t question it so I thought I’d see him on Wednesday, I went out on Wednesday and he wasn’t out but his friends were and they just said he had his final project, which had to be in a few weeks that he was working on. And I was talking to a girl he knows who asked me how things were going with him and she told me he had mentioned he quite like me (which is a miracle with this guy as he has such a reputation within the uni!) So I sent him an SMS on Thursday night and still haven’t heard back from him, he has sometimes left it awhile to text back (say a day) but never longer am I taking this as I’ve been blown off? And why does this happen with every single guy i meet?
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The guy that i am seeing is very well hung and sometimes sex can be incrediably painful because there is a lot of girth as well as length anyway i last slept with him last wednesday and in the morning i found something was stinging when i went to pass water. I did a self examination and the area where the vagina joins the anus seems to be torn and there was a bit of blood from the wound and i don't know what it could be? Will it get better on its own?
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I've been seeing this guy for about 6 weeks it started as a one night stand and has progressed from there. I really like him and we have loads in common however i have an issue with trust mainly with my lack of self confidence and also the fact that he had 10 one night stands from october - december which also helps towards my insecurity! As far as i'm aware he has not cheated on me as i would of found out through the uni grapevine. But tomorrow night there is a trip in the evening for his sports club and a female sports club (and for a fact i know that most of his one night stands are in this sports club!) And i know a few friends on it but don't want to tag along if it looks like i am following him as he hasn't told me about it but my friends have. Would it look desperate and that i don't trust him? Or would it look as if i just wanted to go along with friends as i have been to their socials before just not when its specifically away on an island for the evening
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I've been seeing this guy about 6 weeks ago but we had a one night stand about a month before that and we’d been texting each other afterwards until my friend told me he had slept with another girl whilst I was away for 4 weeks so I decided to wait for him to make contact he didn’t (he told me later it was because he didn’t know when I was getting back and was waiting for me to text him). So we’ve been hanging out since then and at first I thought it was just about sex but we’ve been getting to know each other and have a lot in common and I really like him and I think he feels the same about me. For example I told him a story about my dad and he said to my friend “he thought my dad sounded a great guy and wanted to ask more questions about him but thought he should find more out about me” from past experiences if its just sex you don’t get to know the person otherwise it becomes to complicated. The only thing I did find out is he has had 10 one night stand with other people since October and is known as a bit of a “ladies man” and obviously I’m not a one night stand because it wasn’t the once we’ve slept together. However it feels as if I’m always the one making the effort his actions towards me still haven’t changed and he replies to all my messages do u think I have anything to worry about?
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What do I do so wrong with guys? Every guy in the past has hurt me and I'm always the dumped. My ex dumped me after getting his ex girlfriend pregnant but instead of telling me he made me believe I was the source of the problem and my self-confidence plummeted. I then met another guy who I was seeing for awhile but had different ideas of 'seeing' and was using me for sex. Which brings me to my current situation I met a guy who I have been 'seeing' for about 2 months when I first met him he slept with someone else a week later whilst I was away. I ignored him and didn't text him again. Bumped into him again and he told me he really liked me and I thought he'd like to allow it to develop and now it's all based in the bedroom and then I recently found out he told friends I was boring, and last week he flirted with all the girls in front of me and then made a point of watching over me the whole time I was talking to a guy. What I want to know is I'm only 18 and ever relationship I've been involved in has sucked and drained any self confidence I ever had out of me and I'm afraid to ever start liking someone again.
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I’ve been seeing this guy for about 6 weeks, things have been alright but last night my friend turned around and told me “apparently you’re boring” as a joke, I questioned him and it transpired they were all on a coach and my name popped up and a few people were confused as to who I was and someone who he didn’t know came out with “is that the boring one?” I’m really hurt at this comment as I’m anything but boring and always make an effort with people. When I questioned my friend further it transpired that the guy I am seeing did not actually call me boring to my friend, and the guy I’m seeing was sitting further down the coach so didn’t hear anything of this, but something must have been said otherwise the “boring” comment would of never appeared. I didn’t question him last night because I didn’t want to make a thing of it in public, but I went to stay at his last night and he said something, which confused me more he told me to ignore what others were saying. I asked him what he meant but he didn’t elaborate. I don’t know what to do because that comment really hurt and I don’t actually know whether it was a thing of Chinese whispers or he actually did say I was boring but then why carry on seeing me if I’m boring? And he still carries on being affectionate his behavior hasn’t changed
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I was introduced through a friend to this guy before Christmas, we shared a drunken one night stand and I didn’t think I’d hear from him again because I was told he had a lot of one night stands this term. So I accepted he probably wouldn’t be interested and left it, but he sent me an SMS asking how I was e.t.c. and we sent about 15 SMS’s to each other that night. But I was going away for a week and then we had a 3 week vacation. But I was interested to know what he thought of me and he told my friend how amazing he thought I was and he told me that he was quite interested in me, but he had a drunken night whilst I was away with another girl. So I didn’t text him for about a month. But last week when we went back to uni I saw him in a club, I decided not to make an effort to talk to him but he approached me and asked how I was, and then asked why I hadn’t text him, I told him I was waiting for him to but he thought I wasn’t interested and was ‘playing it cool’. We spent the rest of the evening together just chatting and meeting his friend’s e.t.c. And he ended up walking me home and staying over because it was a half hour walk through woods to his. Again I thought I was just stupid enough to be an easy lay and that’s all he wanted but last week we sent a load more SMS’s to each other and I jokingly said that he should pick up his watch soon because it was taking up a lot of space and replied that he was busy that evening but he could come over the next evening. So he came over and watched videos, it was a really nice evening and was a change to actually not involve a club or alcohol. But I can’t seem to think that maybe he’s just in it for sex, but on Monday he said how great it was we had so much in common and referred to ‘us’ a couple of times and i do actually speak to him every other day not just when he wants some. But I don’t know whether to pursue this and see if it develops into something more or is he just purely using me?
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I can’t work this guy out, I met him before the Christmas vacation we had a drunken night together and didn’t think I’d hear from him, but he had taken my number off of my phone when I was in the bathroom. I had several SMS from him the next day and a few days later I sent him some. But I was going to away that weekend and he said have a nice time and then we had 3 weeks vacation period. My flat mate is friends with him and said that whilst I was away he had a drunken night with another girl but only because I was away. So I thought he was just playing mind games so I tried to forget about him and saw another guy whilst I was at home. However I bumped into him on the first day of term, I decided not to make a point to go up to him and he approached me and we started chatting. I didn’t think I liked him but we got on really well and had so much in common. He asked why I hadn’t text him and I replied that I thought he wasn’t interested and would wait for him to text me. And then he told me that he hadn’t text me because I hadn’t told him when I was getting back and thought I wasn’t interested and just ‘played it cool’. We spent the whole evening together chatting and he introduced me to his friends and made several references about ‘us’. Anyway he walked me home and stayed over and it was like we were a couple. He had to go to work the next morning so left pretty quickly but he’s left his watch here. I received a SMS from him asking to not to lose it or anything but didn’t mention about getting it back. A few people mentioned he left it on purpose to see me again so I sent an SMS just generally asking how he was and then I was going to ask when he wanted it back but he didn’t reply to my second message because i stupidly didn't actually write anything that he could have replied to. If he didn’t want to see me again he could just ask my flat mate to give it back to him but he hasn’t so I;m not sure what to do now? And whether he does like me or is just using me?
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I recently met up with this guy again at uni as we’d previously met before the Christmas vacation we didn’t talk over the vacation because apparently he was waiting for me to text him and vice versa so we both decided on ‘playing it cool’ but both admitted we did like each other. I bumped into him on Monday and he walked me back to my flat and subsequently stayed over, the thing is he’s left his watch here a few people have commented that it could be on purpose as an excuse to see me again as I put it next to his wallet and phone which he did manage to pick up!? He sent me an SMS the next day saying that he “left his watch on my window and don’t lose it, its worth several billion pounds”, so I replied jokingly saying I had sold it because I realized its worth and didn’t hear back from him. He knows my flat mate so I could just give it to him to pass on to him but he didn’t mention it, or I could use it to see him again? But are really blokes that clever?
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Before my uni vacation i met this guy that i really hit it off with i ended up staying at his that night because i couldn't get hold of my friends. He got my number and sent me several SMS messages the next few days, but i left for a weeks holiday and then the christmas vacation started and i didn't hear from him. But i found out from a friend that he had gotten really drunk and slept with another girl so i left things. But last night i bumped into him and we started chatting and he said "thanks texting me!" and we had a jokey argument how i thought he should of made contact and apparently it was because we both decided to play it cool and he thought his last message was obvious that it meant to text him when i returned. So anyway we spent the rest of the night together and he introduced me to all his friends and kept complimenting me throughout the evening. We were fairly drunk but he mentioned something about how much we had in common and we were so similar. He ended up staying again last night but i don't know what to do because he is known as a player and i don't know if i'm being "played" or he finally feels he could settle down?
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I recently met a guy a few weeks ago through a friend i was vaguely aware of his reputation as a "player", i saw him again in the night and he told me how gorgeous he thought i was and that he remembered meeting me before and liked me but didn't want to ask who i was to my friends. I managed to get separated from my friends and he offered to walk me home but his house was closer so i ended up walking back there. I didn't intend to sleep with him but we did, it wasn't akward in the morning and he held me all night which i've never had with someone who wasn't a boyfriend. I wasn't sure if he'd want to see me again because of his reputation but he took my number off my phone whilst i wasn't in the room so it wasn't like he felt he had to ask for it. He said might come to the pub to meet my friends and i the next day if he had finished his work but i didn't hear from him until the evening when i got a several SMS messages from him which were fairly flirty. I was the last person to SMS him and haven't spoken to him since because i've been away. However he told my friend that he "thought i was gorgeous" and my friend said he was quite interested. However he took a girl home with him on wednesday because i was away! I'm really confused as to his motives if it was just a one night stand why contact me and tell someone you like them? Can players really commit? Or are they all untrust-worthy?
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I met a guy the other day who i foolishy slept with straight away, but i really got on with this guy and it wasn't akward in the morning we continued joking and chatting. I didn't think he'd be intersted in a relationship because he has a "player" tag associated to him but he got my number off my phone which i left on the table when i left the room so it wasn't like he felt he had to take my number. Another thing he said was i could get used to this which i didn't know what context he meant it in. It was left with him asking what i was doing this weekend and that he'd text me but then i found out that he had previousley slept with 3 other girls in the past few months and he tries it on with anyone. So can players really commit or did i fall into the trap like every other girl?