Hi UCLAMike and Superdave and everyone else, can you give me some advice?
I'm not sure what to do. He broke up with me three weeks ago because he had been unhappy for the last six months -- we had been together for 2.5 years. I'm 28, he's 30. I know it was my fault because I became unsure of myself, insecure about things in my life and shut him out a lot. we had not been communicating emotionally in a long while and he could not take it. I had been so pessimistic and had no interest in things like trying new things, going on vacations.. But when he broke up, it was a wake up call and when we talked that final time, i poured out my feelings and was really honest with him about why I had done what I did and i took full responsibility for my actions. I know and knew that he had been unhappy for a while and I told him as much. He said if only I had said all this stuff earlier... and asked what I wanted to do... I said let's take a three month break so I can put myself back together and see where we are next. he agreed. Also told him I won't be able to stay friends in the mean time because it would hurt too much being around him. He said he understood.
I really believe that NC or LC will help me to move on and heal. In the last few weeks i've really examined my life and what i need to do to get myself out of this rut. It's not just about the relationship but my entire outlook on what i want in life. I have not contacted him but he has once -- via email -- to update me on some minor things. Not to be rude, I have replied but kept it casual and friendly.
He also sent me an email to wish me happy birthday a few days ago and I let it lie for one day before texting him to thank him. He then said he hoped I had a good day and I replied saying I had a great day, which I did. I also told him I was going on holiday end of this month and I was really looking forward to it.... --> not sure if this was wise?
He did not reply after that.
On the one hand I want to show him that I know what I need to do to pick myself up and that is staying positive and changing my whole outlook, on the other I want to let him know that I still love him and I still want us to work out. how can I show him that I'm starting to change and I'm now moving forward if I maintain NC? we have no mutual friends that he can hear back news about me from.