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  1. she was in love with you, she aparently isnt over you.. Number one. She is not pregnant. women say that sometimes to get a rise out of a man, if she feels she hasnt gotten what she wants which a lot of the time she doesnt know what she wants in the first place. Tell her... straight up... GROW UP and tell her if she keeps it up then youll get a restraining order against her. Most likely she will relax, if she continues tell her, i will tell your man if you keep the s@#$ up... otherwise dont tell him thats more trouble for you in the long run. Plus the poor bastard thats with her... he will learn thats she has an attachment disorder. anyways thats my idea for help. good luck... also let her know the egging of the house is personal property damage and thats a law suit waiting to happen. Have a good one and relax, it is just a girl gone nuts lol.. you must have been just that good. But anways.. have a good one and good luck =) ~~jess
  2. Okay... boyfriends moms not liking the girl they are dating is just about as common as the girls parents thinking badly about the boyfriend she is dating... I dated a guy for four year... and his mom did NOT like me... but.. this is how it is It hurt the relationship a little because i tried to make her like me... and it didnt work. Best advice... tell your mom... I am a "big boy" i have a right to do as i please... Because you are. Your mom is trying to be protective and for that we cant blame her. Best advice. NO SEX when mom is home. to her it is disrespectful... tell your mom (when your alone) youhave the right to choose... and who you choose is your choice. just becareful. Your mom will come around when you make it clear that it is YOUR choice. As for your girl if she loves you then she will stay with you through thick and thn. Now i dont know if your father is in the pic. but in my case my ex's father had passed away... his mother didnt want to let him go. that i understood so i tried to stay out of the way. AND AND AND AND AND AND AND AND AND AND AND AND CONDOMS if your still with your mom... put a rainsuit on that bad boy. Also. You sound like a good kid.. not wanting to piss off your mom... and wanting to make your girl happy. its hard, but whatever is ment to be, will be... Good luck sweetie. I wish you the best of luck ~~jess
  3. Lose interest... no... more or less, we think to ourselves... he doesnt like me. [/b] does he like me? is he interested? You need to grow the "balls" and SAY it. you only live once, what if she is the person to make you the happiest.... take the chance... it might be thebest thing to ever happen to you... as nike says.... JUST DO IT.....
  4. alright hun.... hug thing... hmm.... im not sure if a hug would be the first thing i would expect from a boy... my suggestion would be to... walk up to her... when she is alone.. or even with a friend or too.. and just say, "i kinda dig ya" or write a note, slip it to her on the way to class... but my first thing... would be to say "would you like to hang out sometime" or something... no hugging, thats when you touch someone she could get a little weirded out. Maybe talk to her first....
  5. Thank you for your opinion. I basically brought myself up, so I dont depend on anyone to get through things,only myself and only suggestions. Im not a Hypo. I actually attended a clinic where I was told what I said. Being a house wife isnt my cup of tea. I will get through this I know. And I have GAD, if you do not have GAD you dont know or even want to know what pain someone with GAD goes through on a daily basis. I attend college, so housing is good, along with food. I just need an idea, if someone out there is understanding, possibly if they have been in the same place. Thank You very much Jessica
  6. Well if she is having sex with you, then she is BI Sexual and I think he is just confused as to what she wants. Maybe she is scared of something really serious. I believe you should continue to pamper her. Show her that you do care. Maybe she will turn around and see that, maybe she has feelings for you that can last alife time. Dont let love fall through you finger tips. Good luck Jessica
  7. Im alsoin the mist of a possible law suit... My father is suing me. Yeah I didnt think that was possible either. I owe him money. helpme...im literally begging! Jessica
  8. Here is the issue. Or shall I say Issues. Im going through a tough time and I dont know what to do because my family isnt willing to help me. Here is my list 1. My boyfriend cheated on me. (MY FIRST EVERYTHING) and I had to break it off with him. I think my heart is really broken! 2. I have been diagnosed with GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder), OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) and BiPolar Disorder. I dont think I canlive another day with this. I have been put on meds, but I cant afford the meds. Im a 20 yr old female, I cant find a job (plus it is hard to keep one with all this going on) and no insurance. 3. I have the symptoms of cervical cancer, this is because I was raped when I was 4 by a grown man. I had a doc appointment last wednesday I had to cancel because I didnt have cash to pay them to see whats really wrong with me. ( The nurse said I might have to have EVERYTHING takin out... which means no children for me) Like I said before imnot close with anyone inmy family. 4. My father is an alchy and has a bad heart. 5. My mother has Pre Cervical cancer, Pre Collen cancer, and is being tested for a lump in her breast 6. Im in a school, that im failing out of because I cantkeep up with the classes because of everything going on. 7. My medical bills are outrages, and i have bill collectors calling everyday. 8. The biggest problem is Im sick. I need surgery on my stomach because im slowly killing my heart, But I cant afford it. My doctor says this can kill me before Im 40. I mean I am only 20 years old and im sickof life in general. Never in my life have I had a childhood. Both of my parents are alchys so I had to raise most of my brothers and sisters. When I had a car accident Jan 3 of this year, no one was there, I had to call a cab driver home. I mean yeah that happens to people, But Ijust wish i had someone who cares. Imean I thought I found that person, til I found out he found everyone online, cybering. You know, life takes you down horrible roads sometimes.But my road is going to kill me I would get more help... but when i call them they say " Its going to be pricey without insurance, and we like partial payment up front." I know these might be "normal issues" But, with everythingin my life going on and Im only 20... with death on my tail, my last hope is helpfrom here. Please help me. What can I do? My mother could die. And then I have to take care of my threeyoungest siblings (6,12,16) I just dont know what to do. I tried a credit card, at least then I could get medical attention, but of course they didnt approve me WHAT DO I DO FROM HERE? I wish icould just end it all! Thank you again Jessica[/b]
  9. Come on now... lets think about this. YOU HAVE A LIFE... a life you can live with no regrets. Life gets hard HELL YEAH IT DOES. But jumping off the deep end and letting it all end... that shows weakness... stand up chicky be strong. Life is all about screw ups and unforgetable mistakes... but NOTHING and I say NOTHING with a strong tone is worth ending it over. You have a life to live... to be anything to do anything to say anything. I know right now you are saying she has not idea what she is talking about or you are saying I dont know what you have been through... well here let me tell you.. I am 20, Im not sure by the post how old you are but i have a feeling you are not much younger or older than I. I was suicidal. i was abused and used by everyone... i drank til I had no brain left to think... and I sure enough did enough drugs to cover the US army. I am saying this because I want you to know life is better if you let it be better. Drinking only gets you grogier... your not getting anything from it but a messed up head and a headache in the morning. It isnt for you. Listen stop what you are doing and WAKE UP there is soooo much out there... Girl... if you put your mind too it you can be anything... ANYTHING. I was there... in your shoes... and I am changing my life around. OPEN YOUR MIND>>> AND YOUR EYES... to your surroundings. Maybe you have a child? Could that be whats hard? Maybe you have had a rough up bringing? is that it? Maybe you are in the mist of hell? Is that it? ANYTHING that stands in your way break it down and become the future. A Child? Fight for your right to be somebody. Go to school. there is help out there. Rough up bringing? thats the past... PRESENT is where you are NOT the past. Mist of hell right now? STAND up for YOU... and Do what makes you happy GET out... move on with your life. I can tell you are a BRIGHT GIRL... because you asked for help, or your intension was to get it. LIKE I SAID. MAKE YOUR LIFE... You have one life to live... START LIVING.. a HEALTHy LIFE not a sad drunken life. life is like the game of life... PLAY your cards right... and there is anyways a chance to throw in your cards and get a new set... THINK clearly... no more drinking... or drugs whatever the case may be there is always a way out... JUST ASK FOR THE HELP I hope this helps you wake up and see life for what it can be and not for what it is. GOOD LUCK and my email is email removed Hope to hear from you jessica
  10. It seems to me you are not getting much help here ... lol.. so far. First, My name is Jessica. I am a 20 yr old college student. I was in your shoes in Feburary of this year, I didnt know what was wrong with me. Here are a few ?'s for you. If you want you can private message me the answers or we can speak out in the open here if you would like. Cutting yourself... ***Where do you cut yourself? ***Are you cutting yourself in the case of suicide or just because you really have no feeling... and you are cutting yourself for no reason at all? *** Do you feel at all like your not in reality. Or your feeling as if you are in a dream like state? ***Do you have issues in relationships? Parents? Friends? Boyfriend/girlfriend? *** Do you feel as if you have to be in control most of the time or all of the time? *** Do you attend College? If so how are your grades? *** Do you work? If so how is the attendence? These are just a few ?'s of mine for you. Here let me tell you why I ask these ?'s... Like I said I was in your shoes in feburary of this year. I found out much about my actions when I went to see a counseler. I have many different things all rolled up into one. Borderline Personality Disorder. Now I know what your thinking... this isnt whats wrong with me... and you know it might now be... or it might be. BPD is a disorder where you have many things going on... and your body reacts to it in one way. Throught BPD Now does any of this sound familuar? ***frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. ***a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation ***identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self ***impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating) ***recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior ***affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days) ***chronic feelings of emptiness ***inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights) ***transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms Okay so if these do seem familular... here are a few things to help you think easier. To help you see things from a different parspective Stop / HALT Just stop and breathe for a moment. Are you Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired? The HALT feelings are physically-based and only temporary. Remember that! Determine what the problem is Sure there can be (and usually ARE) more than just *one* problem but even still, write the problem(s) down on a piece of paper. Come up with THREE possible courses of action Start with one of your problems and come up with three (and only three - not a hundred, not just one) possible things you could do. Figure out which one is best for now You don't have to make a lifelong commitment right now and if things don't work out quite the way you'd hoped they would, you can work the steps again and again and again - just like everyone else does! DO IT! I say that assuming you haven't chosen suicide. Obviously, that's the ultimate final solution (assuming you'd succeed). Nothing will happen to change the situation/problem until you actually DO something, no matter how small. Now post again and let me know if this has helped you any... If not.. I will be more than happy to help you in any way possible! Jessica PS. If this does seem all to real to you... there are many ways to become recovered and if not, then like i said I will help you in any way possible!!! =)[/b]
  11. I HAVE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES BEFORE. EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL ABUSE CAN BE SCARY AND LIFE THREATING. BUT HERE IS THE HARD PART... YOU LOVE YOUR DAD AND YOU DONT WANT TO HURT HIM... BUT HE IS BEGGING FOR YOUR HELP. YOU NEED TO GET HELP AND GET OUT OF THE SITUATION... SO THEN YOU CAN BE STRONGER WITH OTHERS BEHIND YOU BECAUSE YOUR FATHER NEEDS YOU. FIGHT FOR YOURSELF THEN FOR OTHERS. BELIEVE ME I KNOW. LOL GOOD LUCK SWEETIE AND IF YOU EVER NEED TO CHAT MY EMAIL AND IM'S ARE IN MY PROFILE JESSICA a great phone hotline is 1800SUICIDE. THEY DONT ONLY HELP WITH SUICIDE THEY HELPED ME THROUGH IT. GOOD LUCK
  12. CHILL OUT COWBOY LOL. YOU KNOW THAT MASTURBATION WILL NOT GET YOU KIDS SO KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK. SEX IS MORE THAN JUST SEX. YOU GO OUT ADN HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE... SHE COULD GET PREGNANT AND THEN YOU HAVE TO KNOW HER FOR LIFE. I THINK YOU SHOULD WAIT... I MEAN YOU HAVE WAITED THIS LONG RIGHT. WAIT FOR THE TIME YOU FEEL MATURE ENOUGH TO TAKE ON SUCH A TASK JESS
  13. Aight... Dont go ruining the plans of a party, by tellin your parents there will be chicks there. Tell your parents that your going to an overnight B-Day party with the guys cuz ya know your almost and "Adult" and you want to have a Bday party wit your friends. jess
  14. That would be awesome ... at least then I wouldnt feel as if I was doing it all alone ya know. =) Jess
  15. Thanks I will look into Atkins. I have heard about it and I have heard that is works... so Yeah... good Idea I am on it right now. Thanks for the help... Here is my email address.... email removed and if youd like you can let me know the progress and if it works and I will let you know how goes for me. Thanks kindly!!! JESS
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