Joel Barish

Keep reading, and writing, and listening to music. Get it out. Expand your mind. Its easy to want to wait it out...but you can wait it out by getting over it too...if she decides to make a go at you again one day, it won't matter whether you miss her or you're over her. You'll be in a much better position to make that decision if you've got some perspective and you haven't been totally pining for her the whole time. So mourn her, and do what you gotta do, but don't feel like you have to wait on her.

Technically I did break it off...even though once we kind of started drifting back together, SHE told me she wanted space. So yeah, you are probably right in relation to my situation as well. Its probably hurting me, and helping her. Although I'm actually really good friends now with my first EX. We never really stopped talking, although it was very intermittent at times. So knowing that makes me think I can manage it. The newly christened EX and I are trying to remain friends. I have a great fear of my ex-gf's resenting me....? IDK why, cause its never happened. I just have this stereotype of a broken-up couple hating one another and talking bad about one another...and I just don't want that. So even though I think maybe its not the right thing to help me move on, I just don't ever want someone I loved so much to be just a nobody to me...or me to her. She's like family now...and though it may hurt, and make it more difficult, I really don't want to just totally cut each other out. Although I consider doing that every few days or so...just a lot of totally contradictory emotions surrounding this dilemma.