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  1. jaylh25
    7 weeks today. For some reason slipped back into thinking of our 6 years together and everything thats happened since she walked out of our house for another guy 11 months ago. I know NC is the way to go to heal and move on but on days like today I think i preferred our contact. ](*,) I miss her and our life we once had. So many questions still remain. Kind of hard to believe someone who has been a part of my life for 9 years and who I thought I would marry this year and start a family is gone for good and its likely I will never see her again. (I've moved country in the last few months). Not a good day. At all.
  2. jaylh25
    ok well following on from her mam calling yesterday my ex just sent me message saying she keeps on having a dream about me, its so hard for her to let me go and she still has strong feelings for me.. we've had lots of 3 week NC's which she usually breaks. this one lasted a week... i normally reply short and courteous but I dont know what to do with this one... she is living with this guy... she aint coming back...im moving away soon and i just wanna try get over the pure torment of the last 5 months.. i still love her but it doesnt really matter what i feel does it. advice please guys??
  3. jaylh25
    7 days...she broke nc last sunday after 3 weeks... got a call off her mum this morning saying the ex had asked her to call to see if she had left some artificial leafs in the storeroom.. Briliant.. she left 5 months ago and is now living with the guy she was with days after walking!! im about to move country, packing, selling car and all she's worried about is some false plant!! Is it me or is that just bizarre???
  4. jaylh25
    Feel for you mate, im going through the same. Thats the hardest bit.. losing your friend. It will get better I know, just hang in there.
  5. jaylh25
    Thanks for that.. nope I wont be going, my ex is with someone now so it just wouldnt be appropriate.. i've passed on my best wishes to her and her mam as i still care for the girl and the family. may be a lot of crap going on between us but just felt it was the decent thing to do.
  6. jaylh25
    Hi guys.. my exes mam called me earlier just to let me know her grandma has passed away.. she was extremely close to her. I've been NC for 3 weeks. Throughout the mess of the past 5 months I've always tried to handle things with as much dignity as possible despite the circumstances so after talking to a mate I just thought it was the decent thing to do after 6 years together to send a simple sms saying "so sorry to hear about your grandma, my thoughts are with you and the family at this time, take care"... she sent one back just saying thanks and hoped i was ok.. I guess i could have started a dialogue there but just thought it best to leave it at that.. so... back to day 1 i guess but i dont feel bad about it whatsoever... we were very close for a long time and i just feel it was the right thing to do.. any thoughts guys?
  7. jaylh25
    Well the 3 week mark today. And i feel terrible. I don't know why it has hit me so hard these last few days but I get incredibly emotional and I guess I just miss her like crazy and after being together 6 years im feeling a huge sense of disbelief this is where we are at now. Its night time here.. im gonna go out and have a quiet few drinks
  8. jaylh25
    3 weeks Its hitting me hard.. why is it around this mark a lot of people struggle?
  9. jaylh25
    Day 12 now.. I sold the house yesterday.. i bought it but she put a hell of a lot of work into renovating, decorating etc.. should i drop her a note saying ive sold it? she's living with another guy now but we'd been in almost constant contact until i told her i couldnt do this anymore with her 12 days ago.. apparently she found out last night and was telling friends im "just washing my hands" of her!! i then got notified she'd deleted me off her blackberry messenger list and ym, msn this morning. think sometimes she forgets shes the one who left and is living with someone.. anyway.. I just dont want her slaggin me off to people saying i couldnt even be bothered to tell her id sold.... thoughts guys?
  10. jaylh25
    Day 12 for me after telling her politely it was time she stopped contacting me, and time to let me just move on with my life and for her to focus on her fella! (she left 4 months ago, was with another guy immediately but was contacting me very regularly for the last 3 months) It starting to feel very strange.. we've had periods of NC before but this time i think ive just accepted that this is really over and there is no going back. I feel stronger and not nearly as an emotional wreck i was a month ago... is this what happens when you just decide you have to let it go? I feel sad but its all starting to seem a long time ago. From her I have heard nothing as I was pretty blunt with her about the messaging.. but... strangely she has started logging on to msn these last few days... She hasnt used it for years but she knows im on it during the day at the office... she has her status to "feeling blue".. not sure what thats all about..
  11. jaylh25
    guys ive posted this on quite a few threads today on NC so i apologise if youve read it already.. "guys take heed from my story.. my ex left 4 months ago... she was with another guy straight away and moved in with him... we were in contact for the last 3 months.. her saying missed me, loved me blah blah... i was clinging to hope she would "wake up" and come back. Monday she told me she'd got engaged. Naturally devastated and feel worse than the day we split.. Moral to this story, is that if id gone NC from the day i learned she'd shacked up with this bloke I wouldnt be in the mess im in now. NC may make you miss them and think of them more in the first month, but it will get better. Dont break it and end up like me at the moment!" Just to add to that above.. before monday i was on 17 days of NC.. id gone though some rough days but was starting to feel a bit better..little by little.. Dont break it guys...what you dont know cant hurt you..if i wouldnt have responded to her sms on monday and got into a bit of a heated argument which led to her throwing the engagement line in out of spite id be still doing ok.. if im on here again after breakng NC you have permission to shoot me!
  12. jaylh25
    Day 17 for me... its strange... 3 months of LC and her telling me she missed me loved me blah blah even though she had moved in with some new guy..i felt ok or thought was handling it good.. but i knew i would never heal if we carried on like that.. this NC has completely thrown me and ive been an emotional wreck the past 4 or 5 days... i think its becouse im accepting that this is really over.. and jeez, im missing her so much.. she sent me a text last weekend at 330am saying simply "im missing the kitten" (we lived together and bought a kitten a few months before she walked away) but i obviously didnt answer to that little gem. I know it does get better but im feeling it at the moment.
  13. jaylh25
    Hi Guys, Im now on day 12 of NC. My ex sent me quite a bizarre sms on sat morning at 3.30am saying simply "im missing the kitten"](*,) (we had a house together, when she left i got left with the cat) I didnt break NC and reply but my question is, its not in my make up to just ignore people so if she comes on again do i just do the same and ignore it? I get that NC is to heal me and i do feel better... but.. if its also making the ex realise just what theyve lost at some point contact must be restored, no? If we do want reconciliation surely continually ignoring the exes will drive them away for good? Cheers for the advice.. as i say i do feel better but man, its hard.
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