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  1. Thanks Chai714. I tried the whole get my own chair bit but they frowned upon that saying it wasn't universal in the company and made me get rid of it. BUt I'm trying to do my best at doing numerous exercises after work, like jumproping, lifting small weights to start out with, walking the dog with moving my arms briskly. We'll see if any of that helps. There was one thing that I did realize that I did today that was different. I bought a heating pad and had it on my back for about 6 out of the 8 hours while sitting in the chair. At first it felt really good and then afterwards, I ached even more than I started out. It was probably a bad move on my part but until I get to the bottom of it, I'll just have to keep motivating myself to "move about the cabin." Thanks for all the comments!
  2. Jut, Do you think one of those exercise balls will help me out in the back strengthening matter? What sort of things did you try?
  3. Thegirl_20, Yes, I crack my back everyday, not because I try but just because it does it on its own. It sometimes does it when I lay flat on the bed or floor, or when I get up to stand after sitting in a chair for a long time... feels great after it pops but later it's like "Oh My God!!!" My boyfriend is scared a bit about me because I'm only 5'5", 100lbs and he thinks that if he applies too much pressure on my back, it might cause major damage. I was thinking that if I went to work out at a gym everyday or quite often, that that might help me out but I'm not sure. I used to work in a warehouse and my back never hurt... I think because I was constantly using those muscles but now everything's so tense and stiff.
  4. I work a desk job for 8 hours a day like many people, however, throughout the day, my back aches endlessly. I've tried a heating pad, warm baths before bed, massages, but they only seem to be temporary solutions. Does anyone have any other remedies that they've tried or heard of that might help? Thanks.
  5. Thank you both for your replies. The last thing I want to do is jeopardize anything we've got and to be like "No, you have to be here with me right now!" would just be stupid and that's not me. I guess it's just the little things that one can do that make my day... such as just a simple phonecall to say "I Love you" or a random kiss just because. Things like that... and yeah, tension is built up all day and it's such a stress reliever when he comes home and walks through the door, arms open for a "I missed you" hug.
  6. It's only 5 days til my boyfriend and my 1-yr anniversary and I've spent weeks working on something special for him. He's in his last year of college and with that, that means a lot of time has to be dedicated to the books. Well, We both leave the house around 730am and since he has night classes, I don't get to see him until around 10pm and just overall, I've missed the time we shared and the intimacy. Lately things have come up that his parents or boss have asked him to do on the weekends which is usually my time to spend with him. I guess I'm posting because it's Friday and I'm just depressed because I miss my boyfriend even when he IS sitting right next to me when he gets home or when he's laying next to me in bed. So for anyone who reads this, just tell me that everything's going to be fine. I don't want to feel like this on my anniversary. I was so siked about it weeks ago but as the day nears, I'm only getting more and more depressed because I don't think he's planning on doing anything since last night he mentioned that he has an exam the day after that he's got to prepare for. I mean, sometimes it feels like he's just a roommate, but I truly miss how things were when we first met. But back then, we weren't living together and his schedule was a little more flexible but whatever. I just need some good luck wishes thrown my way. Have a great day. Thanks.
  7. I agree with the other two post-ers. You have to be honest with #3 because the more that you lead her on, the more hurt she will be in the long run. And if it were me, I'd rather the guy be upfront and honest than someone who portrayed themselves as a "player." Good luck!
  8. If I were in your situation, I would ask him because you are curious and you want to know. There's nothing wrong with that at all. But if you were to find out that he didn't want more than what the current state is, would you be sad or just continue to enjoy each's company? That is one thing that you have to think about before finding out the truth. And if it so happens that he is feeling more than just a "FWB", then go for it! But if you feel that you want more out of the relationship, you might want to find out sooner than later. But just know that you can't make yourself fall in love with someone just because -- that sort of thing happens on it's own, mainly when you don't even realize it. Good luck!
  9. Wow.. those sound wonderful! Thank you for the response.
  10. Alright guys and gals! I need some of your ideas on what you would get or have gotten for your one-year anniversary of commitment. I have a few ideas but I would like to see what chicks have done for their man or what guys have received that they really thought was out of this world awesome. So if you have any ideas, please shoot me a response. Thanks!
  11. Sometimes it takes the body to get adjusted to the pill, especially if you just started.. just depends on the person. Don't fret just yet. If you're active and used protection, then the likelihood of you being pregnant is slim and you're worrying over nothing. Just give it a little time for the pill to work itself out and you'll become accustomed to it. No worries, my dear! ;-)
  12. Good, I'm proud of you for taking the initiative to be strong and just let it go. I have had a tough time doing that before but it becomes easier and easier once time passes. But you are doing great and I commend you for that!
  13. I guess what sort of irks me the most is the fact that she only calls my bf and wants to hang out only with him... and then when he invites the rest of us to go, she kinda gets this look of disappointment. I just find it super weird that she doesn't make an attempt to befriend the rest of us. Does that make sense?
  14. It's a popular question to ask but this is for a different issue... but here's a quick scenario: My boyfriend and I and our best friends are 23-25. After chillin at a restaurant one evening, she decided that she wanted to give my boyfriend her number (he's a webmaster on a popular website in our city) and so she did. She does have a boyfriend and all that but here's my and our best friends' deal: she is only 17 and still in high school while we are mid-20s and graduated from college. She has been wanting to "hang out" a helluva lot but mainly with my boyfriend. Is there something more than just wanting to be friends? I mean, she's in high school so I'm sure she has tons of friends. Does a 17-yr-old have a place in the midst of us mid-20'ers? What's your thought?
  15. I have been trying for years to just let it go ut then I start thinking about things... and then end up dwelling on the could have's and should have's, knowing that I can't do anything to change time. I just want to him be happy but I always end up effing something up and feeling really bad and he tells me that he doesn't understand me sometimes but you know, I don't understand me sometimes either. I mean, one day I can write the sweetest letter and it was like when we were first dating and then the next day I can be in complete tears. I don't know why it happens. I know he's just able to let the little things go but I'm one that ponders about the little things... things that shouldn't matter. I just want to be normal and happy all the time, not just sometimes.
  16. Yeah, I write in my journal everyday but then he asks why I can't I talk to him about what I'm writing instead of writing it. I told him it's easier for me to talk via pen/paper than face-to-face but some people just don't understand. yeah, there's a part of me that IS afraid of losing him but then again, I've had a lot of bottled up feelings and emotions since I could remember... stemmed from being an only child and not having a single person to talk to.
  17. Is there a way to not feel the need to tear up or cry when I know I'm about to have a serious talk with my boyfriend? In general conversation, things are fine but if we're talking about an issue that is really bothering me, I have the tendency to have tears in my eyes before I even get a single word out of my mouth? Does anyone experience this and/or have any suggestions to hold strong and just talk instead of having the waterworks turn on? Thanks.
  18. No, he doesn't call her or vice versa daily or anything... just every now and then. He told me once that he didn't want to contact her out of respect for me but sometimes I wonder because we've only been together for almost a year and they were together for 2+ but knew each other for a lot longer (thereforeeee, more history). I guess the reason behind the jealousy is because in my last long relationship, my ex did just this (kept in contact with girl friends) and then come to find out, he was cheating on me via email and phone, leaving in the middle of the night to go see her while I was asleep. It's gotten to the point where it's really hard to trust anyone I'm with because of that... it hurt SOOOOO bad and after a really long relationship, I didn't think I'd ever love anyone again. But now that I have, I don't want to lose him because he's the best thing that has ever happened to me. It just sucks that I had to ne burned so bad that it basically effs up my current relationships. Know what I mean?
  19. What are your ideas on this? You are dating someone currently and they are still contacting their ex via email or phone. Your current signif other says they are only interested in you but their ex is still interested in them. Is it wrong to be jealous? We've talked about this but it still makes me uncomfortable to see that he is keeping in touch with her. Just a tidbit of info: His ex lived in a different state about 2000 miles away and thereforeeee, he would fly her down at his expense at the time. Well, she agreed to pay him back and since about a year ago (when they split), she still hasn't shown the money. This is the reason why he says he still contacts her. Either way, what's your input? Thanks!
  20. Well, from the looks of it, it definitely sounds like the guys will have absolutely no girls at the party (except those invited.. strippers...) but this will have to be discussed more in details with limits for sure. I don't want to start a life with someone who is untrustworthy just because of peer pressure. Thanks for all your comments and inputs! It's greatly appreciated!
  21. Yeah, no kidding! I mean, I don't even really want to do anything for a bachelorette party. I just want to be married to the guy I love and live out my life with him. I don't even know why we have to have that one last celebration before something awesome is about to begin, you know? But tradition is tradition I suppose.
  22. Yeah, that's probably what worries me the most -- the things left unmentioned.
  23. Yeah, no joke. I don't understand why some guys tell me that it is not considered cheating unless the guy getting the rubdown was thinking of another person while the rub'n'tug was going on. But I agree with you guys... anyone else touching that personal area would not be me so why should I sit back and think it's ok? Some have even told me that it would be like me not allowing him to go to a strip club but as long as the idea was kept as "look but don't touch".. I would be fine with it. Thanks for all your responses. At least I know that some people have the same mindframe as me.
  24. Thank you! And his best friend (who I'm totally cool with) says I shouldn't have anything to worry about but that's something that ONLY his significant other should be helping out with. The massage I could be ok with but when a place is known for the happy ending part, that's where I kinda want to draw the line and say no. Then at the same time, I'm afraid that my boyfriend will say that it's his bachelor party and should be able to do whatever he pleases but I would hope in respect of me, he'd decline. Nothing's final yet... but they have mentioned it numerous times.
  25. What is your opinion on this: My boyfriend and I plan to marry in the near future and his best friend already stated that the bachelor party is going to take place at the "Swedish Institute" which is well-known for hot ladies giving massages and finishing them (the guys) off with a hand-job (aka, "Happy Ending"). Ladies what is your opinion on letting another chick rub all over your man and pleasure him in that sort of way? Would you allow it? Guys What is your side of this? Should we (the gals) just see this as getting a relief treatment or is this going to far, even for any time of relationship?
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