I guess I technically broke NC last night, but it was for a good reason. Is this destructive? And I was advised against total NC.......
She texted me to ask if I was working at the bar last night. I texted back Yep. A friend of ours had a birthday alot of people she is friends with including her coworkers and her two best friend roommates were in my bar.
I didnt mention her to her roommates but I told one of them that I miss them.
One of the girls, who loves me, and is friends with her, but not to the point of telling her any inside info, asked me how I was doing. I said really good, but I had to ask one question. I said basically, "Should I just forget about her? because all Ive heard was that NC was the only way I will heal and its the only way I can have her again anyway."
She said, in summary, that total NC isnt the best thing. You cant just forget about her and forget about having something down the road. You can grow apart, but you can grow back together. You just have to be available and open if things start to sprout. You kinda became a different person, and she was dealing with alot of different things. Just focus on yourself and keep her in your heart.
Just wanted some thoughts on all of this........