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  1. jimthzz
    you need to get busy protecting you and your child. DO what you can to totally minimize how much money you have to pay her for spousal support. Go for custody of your child. Fight for your life!
  2. jimthzz
    Have you considered the University of California, berkeley? link removed
  3. jimthzz
    mental illness is something that can strike at any time in a person's life. I'm sorry this guy needs psychiatric help.
  4. jimthzz
    save up and get your own place or split rent with another woman. You are moving too fast with this guy. If you only see him as a means to escape your mother, then that is not the right reason to move in together. If you need to escape your mother, move in with some of your girlfriends.
  5. jimthzz
    the incompatability in bed is the mismatched libidos.
  6. jimthzz
    don't cheat, but end your marriage before resuming a sex life with someone else. Clearly, your wife and yourself are incompatible in bed. She has to know this, she can't be unaware of it. After many years that is not likely to improve.
  7. jimthzz
    Your gyn can snip your hymen so it won't be painfiul when you start having sex.
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    I've never met a man who's woman was available 24/7 Nor have I ever met a woman 100% satisfied with their guy just the way he is. I am sure that if their guy gave up the porn there would be yet another thing he has to change to saisfy her. Maybe we can tap into the male brain and let the women zap the impure thoughts out, right?
  9. jimthzz
    What's the upside for him to marry? Unless he wants children with you there is very little advantage for him except for pleasing you. I don't write that to be flippant about it. He won't want to marry until he sees an upside for him.
  10. jimthzz
    Yes, it is understandable. I didn't say it wasn't. I just see her feelings as being a part of a bigger picture than a childhood friend who doesn't remember her 18 years later.
  11. jimthzz
    Ok, I'm glad it is no big deal to you. However, your comment about a crying six-year-old inside you still that needs closure-- begged for analysis. I'm glad your father provided you with a good life.
  12. jimthzz
    That closure is a lot to ask for from someone who knew you briefly 18 years ago at age 6. Not everyone has such a long memory. Not only that, come on, you both were 6 years old. What can she do even if she wanted to help you? Your issue is with whomever it is that kept removing you from places that you now remember fondly. This loss you feel is not about your chums from 1st grade.
  13. jimthzz
    congrats and question It is all well and good that you are currently resisting temptation. Question: Are you now not receptive to temptation because you didn't like the effect your cheating had on your man or are you resisting temptation to cheat because of the effect your infidelity had on yourself?
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    friscodj, Well put!
  15. jimthzz
    Move on! She has. You don't need to take her crap. Find other women to date. Keep it light, no serious relationships and college will be more fun for you. She is not the girl you think she is.
  16. jimthzz
    protecting a grown kid with health problems with a prenup or some other mechanism My son has a serious medical condition and if I were in a situation where I were considering marriage I would want to ensure his continued health and welfare. I think I'd consult an attorney and set up some kind of trust fund before marrying. Getting my ducks in a row, so to speak. Now, that said, I don't think I'd wait until a hour before the wedding to tell a fiance about either.
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    this is why cards are best for celebrating birthdays. Expensive presents and meals out are for spouses and children--and only if you can afford it. Gifting an expensive meal while a college student sets up the receiver to an obbligation they cannot afford and are too embarrassed to admit their poverty. She tried to make light of it -- badly-- by getting you a chapstick. Your friend was trying to tell you that she can't afford to buy you a night out or an expensive present. That said, a card or even a personal note might have been better.
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    I agree, it is tacky to get appeals for cash but no invite to the wedding. all I'm saying is the "friend" is an insensitive type of person and it meant nothing to her to send a mass email (yes, 10-15 recipients is mass email) asking for cash. And being insensitive there is no way she would connect the dots between no invite and send cash as you have done. Yes, you are hurt that she didn't invite you to the wedding. I'm sorry you are disappointed that your friendship is not now as you wish it to be. When people grow apart it is not a neat fading away. It usually has bad moments and hurt feelings. There usually is not reason that one can see that causes a former friend to cause you to feel bad. This is one of those times.
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    she spammed her address book when she sent the appeal for money. I wouldn't take that as meaning anything at all.
  20. jimthzz
    Whatever you do, don't get her pregnant when you feel like leaving her. It almost sounds like you wanted to leave her earlier but instead married her in some kind of denial of your true wishes. If this is so, don't think for one minute that it would a good way to retrieve your feelings for her if you had a baby with her.
  21. jimthzz
    What you don't realize is that you have been demoted in status and she can't seem to say so. This kind of thing happens to most of us after we drift apart following college. I would suggest you cultivate other social contacts. Let any further attempts at friendship originate from your roommate.
  22. jimthzz
    it looks like you are doing just that--leaving with what you came with! You make some valid points about marriage strictly as a financial question. But you fail to get the female mind, the woman who's ended her relationship with you over this. You can protect what is yours and build a future with a woman even in a marriage. You can even get a prenup signed. But you need finesse to accomplish that. You have to give her something that will prove to her she means something to you. Otherwise, the next girl and the next girl and so on will always be insulted about the prenup.
  23. jimthzz
    $25K US is really low wages You should pursue something that brings in a lot more than that if you intend to raise a family--at least double, triple would be better. If you like geology and accounting, maybe you can combine your interests? Isn't there some kind of geology-related career that allows you to analyze cost benefits of a mining operation, for example? You mention being in Australia. I am sure there are jobs in the gems industry there.
  24. jimthzz
    You are wondering why they don't have sex, especially since she stays so involved with these other people, females or not. If after several months you two have only kissed, and you are full-grown adults, I would have wonder if you are romantically involved. Maybe she just thinks of your "relationship" differently than you do. Are you two merely friends without benefits?
  25. jimthzz
    buy a toy for when he is not there and then make the best of it when hs is around.
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