It's amazing what you find when you least expect it. I turned off my thought process of dating, i hurt far to many girls in the past and i didn't want to do it anymore *not physical btw*. And for some reason i saw a girl and was dumbstruck, everything else was non existent and i stopped all i was doing. Yeah i found out later i fell in love and low and behold we started dating. I feel like a fool for becoming so dumbfounded lol