confuse

i got to knw this gal who is 4 yrs younger than mi when i start my new college. she a foreign student and attach at the period of time. i got a cursh on her, where it beyond my reach when she attach. she not a bad gal though, jus that she like to gossip. haha.. she also open mind and fun loving.. we start to get closer when she had a break up during the holiday. Cos i'm the 1 who she call almost everytime she feel sad. 24hrs a day, even if she cal in the middle of the night, i will ans her call. i feel so sad when ever she cry. That is where the feeling start to get stronger n stronger. this has last till the sch reopen. And we getting closer inch by inch where we see each other almost everyday. i would like to express my feeling to her. But, i jus cant, due to the work load in sch. i did ask her out for a few time which she din reject. i felt so comfortable with her whenever she's ard.. frens tot tat we were together at tat time, cos we were so close.. i help her alot in projects and i will almost very nite got a msg from her or calls that chat up for hrs.. and im confidence of expressing my feeling to her when the 2nd holiday comes by. BUT! u knw wat? Her ex contact her, i was worried.. confuse.. did i miss a step slower? she's confuse too, and afraid to approach mi for the issue. cos, she might already kne tat i like her due to all rumours and the care i have shown. So, she approach my best fren. And my fren told mi everything abt it. she kne tat i like her, she say tat she did like mi abit too. she even say she don wanna hurt mi.. i have been in miserable for weeks.. i ask her out for a talk, which she reject for 3 times. But, due to sching, she couldnt avoid. she told mi she "sort of" patch back with her ex which she had told mi she not back in 1 week ago.. WAT?? Sort of.. wat an answer.. i ask if she knw tat i like her, she deny and say sori, after wat she has told my fren tat she alrady knw.. it so contradicting.. through out the conversation, she don seen to been serious. she think it a joke? and my last question to her is "wat make u go back to him" the answer is " i still love him".. i heart break instantly.. and i walk off.. after a few miserable days, i have been wondering if i will still consider her as my fren after all the misleading, hurt and pain she give mi. Honestly from my heart, i want her back as fren cos i hope for 1 more chance if her BF dump her like wat he has done to her b4. Am i stupid?? Am i silly? are all this worth the waiting?? I'm so confuse and i don knw wat to do..?? i knw she don wanna lose a fren like mi, mi too.. i'm currently hving a holiday, and she had went back to her country where her bf is.. u can see how unfair this world is, at 1 end she enjoying happly, at the other end.. im being miserable.. Did she give a tot for mi?? i wonder...

hi everyone, i did post my problem a few mth ago, abt a girl tat i like which is older than mi. but this is not the issue. this girl of mine, is quite a good fren to mi. But somehow i fall in love with her, but i was kind of being rejected. It was a couple of mth tat this thing happen. After times of Approach n waiting, i admit tat i did try to forget abt it(giving up). But recently we went out as a grp which she was also 1 of them. it been quite some time i did not met her, other than messaging each other(sometime). Out of the bule, the feeling strike back to mi when we met. I'm quite confuse now as y the feeling will now fade? How can i go for other girl while the feeling is still there?? Does tat tell tat i have to wait for her acception? some info abt her: -She give mi a feeling tat i can't describe. -we still mange 2 b fren after few rejection. (which is abit hard to accept) -waiting 4 her to accept for a few mth (during this period, i did not mention anything abt BGR issue) -Met her recently which the feeling strike back

hi bubbles... this is a very common thing tat happen when u r in luv with a guy or a gal... wat u have to do is "ASK"... i knw it sound easier than done... but u knw wat, i have done it. i ask the gal tat i like. and i got certain answer from her. but 1st of all, u have to build up ur outter most courage to do this. but of cos.. it not nice to break them up.. so u have to jus be patient... n wait... u can choose not to ask him face to face. which wat i have done. u can send through mails or something like tat.. jus hope tat u will get the reply back.... So gd luck to u....

hey... i advice u not to give out ur virgin to other until u have a very very stable 1.. i am a guy in my 20's tat fren say i look handsome... but i did not have a relationship or having sex in my life time... i have the person i like too. but i having those bad luck thing too. i always cant get the gal.. even until now, i still in the progress. i think if u still a virgin until u married... ur hubby will be more than happy. when u r in a relationship, sex is not nesseray.. i think i can be better than those guy out there.. i don drink, don smoke.. i care abt ppl... but the same thing happen to mi.. BUT! wat can i do.. don be sad... the most important thing is.. not to give ur virgin away.... it mean alot to u... gd luck....

Thank alot heretic... wat i mean by fren = friends. so sorry if u cant figure out. we have 1 group of friends tat alway get along together. So, she started to join in our group at abt last 1/2 year. we r both already in our 20's. It was the 2nd time when i ask her how she feel abt mi... then she told mi tat she did have feeling in mi too. wat i knw is tat, she n her BF break during tat time. but she is trying to settle it as she cant let it go. but i don knw how she settle it?? she had also told mi tat her BF willing to let go of the relationship, n he is the 1 who wannted 2 break.

hi everyone.. This problem have bother mi for the past few mth. i knw this gal in my class which is older than mi 2 year, she is a very quite gal. she don talk much in class. so, i don really talk to her. At tat time, i don have the feeling for her. Time past, n it have reached last 1/2 of the year in sch. she starting to get along with the grp of the fren. with the grp of fren, we when out a few time. i have notice tat she will look at mi some of the time, and my fren say tat she treat mi better than other guy. the feeling for her started when 1 of my fren r interested in her too. So i cant stop n do nothing. rite? But the problem is.. she have a longterm relationship BF. i cant jump to her jus like tat. so i confront with her after a few days after some consideration. but nothing work out, she had told mi the age problem thing. but i don mind.. really!! so abt a mth later i bulid up my courage to ask again. as i heard tat she and her BF have a break up. As i found out tat she think i was joking when i ask her for the 1st time. As this time was the 2nd time, she knw i was not joking. she did told mi tat she have feeling for mi, but she cant let the relationship go with her BF as it been a long time. and it was some sort of rejection at tat time. i really don knw if she will accetp mi if she let go of the last BF. she say to mi b4 tat she feel more comfortable with mi rather than the other fren tat interested in her. =Does age really matters to a gal which is older than the guy? =Is she trying to comfort mi by saying she have feeling for mi? =do i really have the chance if she let go of the relationship?

hi confuse, ermm..... base on ur problem... i think u should be proud of it as a lot of gal wan it. boobs is 1 of the gal body part tat can turn a guy on. if u have tat nice figure, go ahead n wear clothes tat can show ur figure. i knw gal will feel uncomfortable when guy look at u. but it good tat there is ppl looking at u rather than no ppl wan to look at u.. rite? but, for the problem of those "fake" fren u have. i think u should knw it better than us do. jus be careful of some fake fren, if u think they r. i have a fren in sec sch which have big boobs too. but i heard tat she have lost her virgin to a guy. some guy jus wan to get closer to u, cos they wanted to take certain avantage of u.. "Be careful" is all i can say to u... GD LUCK!!!

hi hintah, it not wrong tat u being angry or sad. i have rather the same problem like u. but try not to blame guy or even gal for tat. i'm a guy my self. sometime mayb it jus cause by over sensitive. mi myself is confuse too. jus like u, u thinking tat the guy do like u. mi myself felt tat the gal like mi too, from the way she look(often take a look at mi). but i did confront with her too. but the problem is... she did say she like mi. but she can accept mi. I of cos feel sad jus like u. but i don blame her even she say this to comfort mi. my problem is jus abt a mth ago. i feel sad now too, but time will heal. some more ur problem have been abt a year +... try no to think so much, i knw it hard. i experience it b4. Gd luck!

Thank everyone for ur solution.... The date of enlistment to the army is getting nearer n nearer.. Somehow during this period i having a feeling tat i wanna to let go.. Tat i don wish to do so.. Although we have sms each other sometime.. But it wont last long.. I sometime did tell myself tat "Is she suitable for mi".. n i will sometime counter back this question like "if u do not try, how would u knw tat she is the one for u"... i cant find the right direction n i don knw wat i wan now?? if she cant attcept mi even she do not have a BF becos of age different. Is it still worth it if i wait for her.. In the previous msg, i say tat she told mi tat she had feeling for mi.. i wonder if she is serious abt it of jux not to let mi feel sad... R gal really serious when she say she have feeling for u??? i believe age is not a barrier in term of love... if she had feeling y she cant attcept mi???

hey! jux like wat fox say. We don knw wat the gal like. But be very careful, cos some gal like gal to be more mature and not cute. sometime i also have this problem too, like.. wheather should i ask anot. if u have the courage, i advice u to go ahead. Get the ans from her. then u will feel relief. Trust mi... GD luck!!!!

hey, i having abt the same problem as u recently too.. Mi myself have try to ask the second time.. cos u knw wat. she did not give mi a definite ans the 1st time i ask. it jux like u, having to stop as she had a BF and u do not have the ans. since she break up with her BF. give her some time( i kne it hard, i went through this). then u ask. Of cos, if she still have feeling for u. U stand a high chance. "Don be like mi to bring up the topic when she is feeling low..." GD luck to u!!!!

Thank for ur reply silent_scream... for ur info, she is a very quite girl and she do not have the habit of telling other her feeling & problem. not even her family. it very hard to find topic to communicate with her even we have knw each other for quite sometime. she keep on thinking tat she is not good enough. And she say she is not a good lover. There r also some fren tat i knw is also intrested in her. But she say she felt more comfortable with mi rather than them.She giving mi the feeling tat is up n down. But really, sometime i think tat is she trying not to make mi sad so tat she say she had feeling for mi too. if tat the case i think i really do not have the chance. I jux afraid tat i will lose the feeling for her during my army. but i don wish tat to happen. i told myself tat if i went to the army on the 1st day, if i still have feeling for her i will wait for her ans. but i have to jux cross my finger, hope tat everything went smooth.

i have knw this gal for abt 6 mth and i started to feel interested in her. but everyone knw that she had a long time BF. i did confront with her abt my feeling once, which later i found out that she though i was joking went i ask her for the ans for the 2nd time.which she did not give mi the ans for the 1st time. she say she did have feeling for mi. she told mi she had a breakup with her BF. But she say she cant let the relation go, as her BF willing to let it go. i don knw was she rejecting mi or wat. sadly to say tat she mind the age gap btw mi n her as she is older. she did treat mi better than she did to other guy. i going to army soon. she say tat after my army i will have a different view, but i willing to proves to her she's wrong. As i cant say tat even if she don have a BF, i will have the chance. i don knw if i should wait for her?