GoldFox3840

It is possible. One day at a time. We can all do it. I'm on Day 18 and haven't felt the urge to call at all. I know that if she doesn't call me then it's not worth it. Maybe someday I will call her because she was always special to me, and I don't want her completely out of my life forever, but for now I know that time and space to grow is good for the both of us.

I still don't know what people are expecting to hear when the dumper contacts them. Most of you here say that if they are calling to say hi you wouldn't answer because you're waiting for them to admit they want you back. I dunno, I think if I were the dumper wanting to reconcile I would call to say hi to test the waters and see if everything was okay before professing my desire to be back with them. Also, it seems like reconciliation would work better if taken slowly, rediscovering each other and rebuilding the trust, not just jumping right back into things. So maybe the dumper doesn't want to be too forward because they know the risk of moving too quickly. So, what are you as the dumpee looking for the dumper to do if they are really sincere about getting back together? I'm probably just scared that my ex might call to see if everything was fine first, and that if I never responded she would decide I had moved on and don't want her in my life, so she'd respect that decision and leave me alone. Does that make any sense?

Hello I'm still very new at NC. I believe in it, and am now practicing it, but it's still curious to me. Most people here say that when their ex (the dumper) tries to communicate, they (the dumpee) won't even answer at all. I can see the merit in not answering right away, but can't see myself never replying to the ex. Anyway, I'm just wondering about some people's opinions on the matter. What would it take from the ex to make you reconsider?