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  1. Whether this would work for a women or not I dont know but I find that if you come close to an orgasm maybe two or three times (as in nearly come then relax for a while and continue) then the final one will be much stronger...but what do i know...
  2. find the right lover.....not that I would be a candidate.... 8)
  3. Thanks for all the input I take it all onboard with me. I think that it is time for it to come to an end but she says she is going to pay me all 800 next week so we will see. Im just sorry it has to come to this, I guess life is never always what you want it to be.
  4. So do you think I should just give up on her or hang in there and see if she will change? I feel emotionally tied to her and a little responsible for her.
  5. Some good advice thanks, its just harder in practice than theory.
  6. Her attitude is `Im not doing it unless Im getting something out of it` or `Im going to have a little tantrum if I dont get what I want`, its a kin to living with a moody child. AAARRRGGHHH HELP
  7. Here is my problem, I met this girl nine months ago, me at 24 and her 17, we dated for 8 months and in that time I have never been treated so badly and known someone so selfish. She would always expect things from me, expecting me to pay for this and that, expecting me to pick her up any time night or day, basically only doing things that suited her. The reason I put up with it for so long is she was genuinely great to be with but her attitude stinks, and if I would ever do something she didnt like or refuse to do something she wanted it would cause a big argument where she would often just walk away in fustration and not be willing to communicate. I would always be the one to talk and sort out our problems. We used to argue almost every. So it went on like that for a few months and then she had an argument with her mum and she kicked her out so I said she could move in with me, I also bought her clothes, a phone and much more, always doing everything for her and her rarely doing anything for me. She would take advantage of me often. She would borrow money of me swearing to pay it back and never do. She bought a car of me and still hasnt paid me for that. Often she would go off with her friends without even inviting me and things like that. She would also lie quite often about silly things and some things she didnt want me to know, never trusting me to tell me. She would always lie to her mum and dad and friends and be very convincing, and getting herself into trouble quite often. Eventually I got sick of being treated like you know what and I split up with her, it was just getting worse and worse and we would just argue all the time. I think that she has a bad attitude problem and serious trust/communucation issues but there is nothing I can do to change that, I really love this girl but I cant deal with her attitude, I have tried talking to her about it but it just leads to her getting very annoyed and defensive and her basically switching off. Because we live together also I expect her to tidy her own mess help out with the washing up etc, she RARELY does any cleaning or tidying for me and she is not paying me a penny rent. She owes me £800 and every time we argue she threatens to not pay me back and I really do need the money but if it is at the cost of our relationship then is it worth it? I dont know why I put up with her is it her age? Can I help her with this attitude problem? She insists she loves me but she treats me quite badly, why is this? I am so confused I dont know what to think anymore. I think she is one of the most emotionally confused persons I have ever known but she has had a difficult past being taken advantage of sexually in a past relationship and being bullied at school. She also had to deal with an abortion a year ago which is still very hard for her. I want to help her but is it my place to? How can I ever trust her if she always lies to me and hides things from me and how do we stop arguing if she is not prepared to make the effort? I feel emotionally drained and depressed over all this and often am left wondering what to do so any help would be appreciated greatly. I really would not have time to tell you everything there is so much more... One more thing is that she is very dependant on me and we still have sex regularly and can often be quite intimate when we are not arguing but we ARE NOT together, this is strange I know but that is us...please help.
  8. I know EXACTLY how you feel, it is over one year for myself also. I just posted two posts about it and even ended up arguing with Hubman over it! I would say its completely normal if you really love someone. I for one will always think of her, but wont let it stop me being happy, neither should you. Here are the two post in case you want to read [link removed [link removed
  9. Did you type that post from your mobile phone?
  10. Thanks, I appreciate your reply. I think we should just agree to disagree. I appreciate your honesty. But in any case it doesn`t stop me wanting to understand, I am not wasting my life, in fact the opposite, I am loving life and trying to search out the truth. My life is in no way hindered by this woman, in fact Ive never had so much fun in all my life being single! I may be old fashioned but I always search for the truth, if that offends I am sorry, Hubman.
  11. I would really feel so much better if someone said that to me
  12. Im sorry to say this but you obviously haven`t followed my story very closely, let me straighten things up here. ^^One page back I would never belittle peoples opinion thankyou very much Im simply saying that I have no wish to just forget about this but value peoples opinions on WHY she has shut me out of her life and WHY she has left me with no closure. I am not interested in jumping back into a relationship with this woman, even though I love her. I am trying to understand why she is ignoring me still after a year and if anyone else has experienced this. If you read more carefully my first post you would see that I am not asking a question I am just expressing my feelings, over the fact that even a year later she completely ignores me, which, is her parogative, BUT still I would like to understand more why she would do this. This is not some selfish post about the fact that I want her back at all costs. Let me ask you this then: Did Mrs X leave you with no explanation as to why she left and then ignore you COMPLETELY for a year? Did you get closure? Did she leave you wondering if she was safe?, suicidal? Was she suffering depression like my ex is? Did she talk about houses, families, being in love forever, sharing everything JUST before she left? Well, thats what happened to me. And it scared the hell out of me because I heard NOTHING except from her parents. Im sorry to be blunt
  13. You`ll know when For me it was sharing a moment, both looking into each others eyes then moving closer and then....getting slapped in the face. Ouch.
  14. Im beginning to think that people can think they are in love but actually aren`t, and that makes me sad. But, is it the same thing? Despite what anyone says to me on here (and I thank you for all your comments) I will always love `F` and still hold out hope for us to reconcile, always. She was my soul mate I believe. Please do not tell me to `move on` or `get over` it. (I mean that in the nicest possible way). Maybe true love does exist? Maybe all those things she said before she left she didn`t mean? Maybe she never loved me? I`d love to do one of those `stuck in a lift` senarios with her and just knock all this sh*t out, then I wouldn`t be still posting messages at half-past twelve in the morning. The more I read about others though the more I understand about my own life...
  15. There sounds like a lot of misconceptions in your relationship and I think spending too much time together is also a bad thing, I did the same with my ex, we smothered each other in the end and it took the fun out of the relationship. As for the letter I would hate to say either way because if I was that great at love I would be out there making it instead of talking to you guys about it. All I can say is think before you act, dont act on emotion. A letter is good if you think she will be receptive to it IMHO, just don`t overdo it.
  16. Ok well basically we were together 4 and a half years ish, we loved each other more than anything, unconditionally you could say, spent almost every day together. Pressure got to us both, especially me and I said some things in the last few months I regretted and I used to get `moody` sometimes and this used to scare her but I promised I would sort it out and she trusted me 110%. The last night I saw her we made love and told each other how much we loved each other, even talking about houses, families etc then I got moody for some reason and sent her home in a taxi. Last time I saw her. Bang, no contact for 1 year. Tried everything, even her parents couldn`t understand. Then I found out recently she had been seeing a guy for `quite a while` and it started to make more sense. I have worked on myself in every way,done everthing I can for her and nothing. Its like an open book.
  17. She never gave me any closure when she left. She left me open and hurting for months without an explanation. Although I have moved on I still deserve that explanation and would dearly love to see her again and just be on the same level as her. I did everything I could and I am not a bad person, but she treats me so, that is why. She will probably never explain and I except that but if it were the other way round I would have ended things the right way and maintained the contact if possible, but thats just me. Im having the time of my life at the moment but I still love her and unlike some people will not let this rest, because she means too much to me. She made some very definate promises to me, and I to her before she left, Im sure that she couldn`t have changed heart in such a small space of time. Its easy if you get closure.
  18. You can love someone and not want to marry them, it is the choice of the individual. Of course you are not going to want to commit to marraige at the same time because we all feel different to each other at different times. I would wait forever for a girl I really loved, after all she is the most important thing in my life, not the marraige itself. Just my opinion.
  19. Considering that half of all marraiges end in divorce anyway, it would be better people take longer to think about what they are doing then this figure would be much lower. Too many people these days jump into marraige without thinking about it. There is usually a reason why someone is getting cold feet, and that is his or her right.
  20. I really hope that wasn`t a serious post. I can just imagine it: "Ok dear, you have 20 days to propose or Im leaving, got it?!" Love should be unconditional, it is not about marraige or families or sex. Its about wanting to be with someone no matter what. No one should be pressured into marraige or anything else for that matter. The time has to be right for both people in the relationship, that is the whole point IMO.
  21. Sounds familiar. Quick bit of advice from me would be don`t contact her, don`t do anything stupid and don`t let yourself get down, hard though it is. I tried everything I could to get my ex back only to succeed in pushing her away further, coincudently she also started dating a guy shortly after she split up with me after claiming she would love me forever and never leave me. I wish I`d just let her go in the first place because I did everything I could and it wasn`t good enough. I`ll never understand women. Be cool about the situation and don`t lose your head like me and start posting in these forums after a year of false hopes. I sincerely wish you good luck.
  22. The best part of making love to a woman is the emotional foreplay such as the kissing, the stroking, the lust that drives you both to want to be together. Lick over her body gently, stroke her hair, touch her lips, anything that involves more intimacy. If you just go straight into the sex you miss the build up to great sex, although sometimes spontaneously doing it in strange places and at strange times can be very good also. Personally the best sex I ever had was with the only girl I ever loved, because we were very intimate with each other, but this could have been a coincidence. Good luck
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