Hollyj

Excaliber, I'm sorry I don't agree. I certainly fit the profile for the first 40 yrs of my life. Some of the symptoms you mentioned certainly fit the criteria for a CP, but in the most extreme cases. The CP will not always fulfill "all" of those conditions to be consider CP, I didn't. I decided to make a conscious change in my life b/c I recognized I had a problem and was repeating bad and hurtful behaviors. Just sharing my personal experience. One last question. Are you saying that if an individual is not able to sustain any sort of loving committed relationship they are not CP?

Bulletproof, I'm curious, do you happen to fall into the CP profile????????

If there is no legitimacy to CP, then why do they keep repeating the pattern? In my particular situation he says he still loves me but can't be in a relationship due to external reasons-I went NC. There seems to be be a repeating theme with this individual, he gets close and then pulls away when emotions start running on high. If they're not interested why not leave the situation all together? By the way, we have not been sexually involved since our initial breakup. Lastly, this is my first experience with a CP, so I am not using this as an excuse for the ending of the relationship.