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kuhl282000

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  1. because I never intended on saying my goodbyes to you. __________________ I know the feeling very well
  2. The same exact thing happened to me ......and the timelines are the same to Been three and a half lonely months since I left ..........I call them 100 darkest days of my life I miss her ......but she is out there now, she still has her family .......and we are apart .......and I'm sort of lost without her.....but she is strong and very stubbord .........and never admits when she is wrong ...........false pride and ego destroy many things including love I'll always love her in my heart
  3. good luck if you do it...sounds like you've already made up your mind...... hope it works out for you
  4. When you're not making money you get depressed ......he feels bad as a man not being able to provide. Depression is very serious business, and without meds he may wallow there for years to come in denial ..... You're not doing anything wrong because you love him so you just want to help. You do have a right to know, when a person gets depressed ...they hide from themselves. He needs some sort of starting point for him, something he can grab onto. And he does not have that right now ........he has to find out what that is for himself .....and maybe he does not know how to do that. Maybe he just needs some hope, and I'm betting he has lost his confidence .......and that is sometimes tough to get back...but you can get it back if you work at it..... Him not wanting help, is a tough one...its sometimes just a macho thing ....and in the end may kill the relationship. If he would talk to a doctor and tell the truth he would see many people suffer from depression just like you would suffer from a cold......it can be fixed and you can get better ...... Their is hope and help out there ....try and get him to a doctor and get him some meds. I've seen it work wonders for depressed people .....a total turn around. Good Luck Kuhl .....don't give up on him, he needs you now more then ever....but he is isolating himself....don't let him do that. Be near him and be compassionate and say nice things even if he will not.
  5. I just left after almost 5 years and it tore me up ....and I'm still trying to heal and its really hard bro .....Daves right you wonder who she is now with and what she is doing .........had one email right after the break-up ......some nice things in it and then the final angry word trying to dig a little trying to get her point accross ......I of course responded trying to get my last word in (with some love attached) and no response ....she does not want to be friends right now .....and what the heck does that mean anyway....lets just be friends, who would want to do that anyway, I think that is a form of torture after you have been lovers for such a long time ........almost 2 long lonely months now driving myself nuts in the head .......no emails, no calls, I hope and wait but they never come. I've just started to go back out there ....try and stay off the sauce because sometimes thats all that seems to kill the pain for the moment .....then I feel like crap the next day .......its hard to let go to the one you loved so dearly ........will it get better....I can only hope .......and I'm all of a sudden doing a lot of praying .....I have to forgive her, as hard as it is for me right now...I need to go out Salsa dancing, because somehow I know she is while I'm sitting here being on the worst bummer of my life and crying in my beer. I think it might just be that time to get back in the real world of fun and get plugged back in and pull the shade all the way down.......like everyone in here I love hope ....but false hope is a whole different story and can make you linger till the cows come in ....and come to think of it I live in the city and don't have any cows ......good luck to you ...I hope you get her back ........I'm a big fan of happy endings I'm in your corner Kuhlanie
  6. Yeppers.........Do the right thing, and tell the truth and let the person know you had a few to many and might have made a fool of yourself. More then likey they have done the same thing and will understand I know I have........felt pretty stupid, being humble is the key. Good luck Kuhl
  7. I think that the way you dress tells a lot about who you are. I'm from the advertising industry and well "Image is Everything" at least till you take the time to at least get to know the person. When I was in high school, I always prided myself in looking my best and it seemed to work. I like the fact that you said you wear a nice shirt. Perhaps you might want to consider "LOOSING" the trench coat. I know they might seem to appear to look good, however I do believe they could and might be associated as more of the gang or gangster look. It's worth at least a try .................. Good Luck Kuhl
  8. Hello If I'm not mistaken it is Friday every seven days. Friday is my favorite day.....only because it is the beginning of the weekend. Have fun, make money Kuhl
  9. Relax.........low stress, be cool and thing take its natural course. He will call when he is ready, I would never be the kind to wait by the phone. And that does not matter anymore because the phone is in our pocket. Good Luck Kuhl
  10. Hello We all get that way from time to time, the key is to understand what is making you feel that way. I personally would go to the Doctors and tell them what is going on with you. They will put you on some pills and they will help you until you get back to being you again. When you can't focus is the time to do it, because you know deep down something is not right with your body and mind. This is very normal and happens to millions everyday. The other suggestion is get yourself in a position and stay really busy, it helps take your mind off things. This has happened to me once, and my focus was nothing more then to make as much money in the shortest period of time as I could. Good Luck ......tie a knot and hang on even when you think you're at the end of the rope. Things will get better over time. 2007 is going to be a very good year for many people. Make yourself one of them Kuhl
  11. Layword....... Just remember you are trying to heal, and save yourself from not bleeding to death. And the last line on your quote is totally incorrect. You will love again, many times my friend. In fact I'm willing to bet on it, and I'm not a betting man. But thats how sure I am. Stay busy, get a second job, makes tons of money, go somewhere different. Join a club, take up a new hobby. Do anything but don't give her another thought...not 1 second. You just need time, time heals all. I dated a girl once for three years. We broke it off, it was not pretty. I had no contact for a year. And I remembered I left my trumpet in her attic, I called her.........she did not even hardly remember me or my voice. After I hung up, I laughed. Hang tough good buddy, you will get through this........all the way. Kuhl
  12. Well now you won't really know unless you try. Otherwise some questions will go un-answered. Good luck .......I say go for it Kuhl
  13. If he does not show now.....you may have gotten lucky. It tells you the type of character of this guy. He may have gotten cold feet. It's his loss not yours, plenty of fish in the myspace sea. Kuhl
  14. Very Nice, however I'll have to ponder that for a wee bit. I just bought a 52" Samsung this weekend and spent nearly $8000. So I was hoping I could be happy watching some sporting events and movies. I did work hard and saved my money to get to this point. And if the robbers break in and try and take it, all I can do is let them have it or shoot them with my 9 mm ...lol .....Anyway I get your drift, and a good one at that. Thanks Kuhl
  15. Hello Sperm is like a bunch of little guys trying to swim up stream like a salmon. It only takes one to fertilize the egg however. And in your case only time will tell, and worrying won't solve your possible problem. That will take a doctor if she does not get her next period. I suggest if you are going to have sex, you have protected sex, and then you hopfully will not have this problem again. I think you are going to be ok, its a long shot but stranger things have happened. You will know if she does not have her period is her next cycle. Be smart ..........think! Good Luck Be Safe Kuhl
  16. Dude Sorry for your loss, or was it really hers. As far as I'm concerned she decieved you by leading you on and having another guy secretly. If your going to play the game of love, at least play by the rules. Play Fair ! You have to look at this like removing a band-aid, you can either pull it off fast and outch.......or you can remove it slowly, and thats pretty painful. Don't waste anymore time with this person, 6 billion people on the planet my friend. Some people come into your life and stay for a short period of time, some stay a little longer. But very few stay forever .................... Remember the good times you had and leave it at that. She told you to your face the hard truth you did not want to hear. That would shatter the best of us, but she did tell you to get on with your life, I suggest you do. As far as the flirting, just more head games, and who needs that. Be the bigger person, and give yourself a mental break. Life goes on my friend and so will you. You will meet someone again, just when you least expect it. It really was her loss........ Be Strong.......no contact, or you are just opening up the wound you are trying so hard to heal. Kuhl
  17. Hello The only thing we all have to do from time to time is overcome "FEAR" It is pretty common in all of us, and especially if we have been hurt. Try and always remember, people are all different, and don't place the person or label them in a catagory just becsuae of something that happened to you. That really is not fair to them, and you will shut them out. Try and remember.....One door closes...another one opens Treat people the same way you want to be treated Good luck Kuhl
  18. Hello Go to Yahoo personals and fill out the form.....its very professional and totally free.......its all done via zip codes.......and with class Age does not matter, its for everyone You will be surprized, and the peole you will meet don't really want to hang out in bars...thats why they signed up to. You will make some new friends in a very short period of time. Go get em .....and wisdom is a good thing, I like that Have a great weekend ! Kuhl
  19. Hello Have you ever considered that maybe this guy knows you have a boyfriend ? and maybe that is what is holding him back....... I suggest you deal with one guy at a time, or you might be in for some real trouble. Guys with class don't want to be with other girls that are with another guy that we know of. Good Luck Kuhl
  20. Hello I suggest you just relax, you are talking about different levels and I'm not sure we can even define what that is at this stage of the game. I suggest you ask her to a movie and just go have some fun and see where it takes you. And that is a great place to start holding hands. And don't forget to buy some popcorn...... And shy is no excuse for not asking someone out........ Just pick up the cell, and ask her out, you might be surprized Good Luck Kuhl
  21. Hello A great place to meet someone is at Yahoo personals.......just go in and fill out the form it is totally free. And they match you to your zip code. I never thought about doing it myself and a friend convinced me to do it. I was not even considering dating at the time, I had just broken up. I met the girl of my dreams there .......we talked for several months on the internet.....then we met ofr a drink. And we have been together ever since and that was like 3 years ago It is very professional ......... Good Luck, in the meantime take some time for you and just be yourself and have some fun....it will happen when the time is right Kuhl
  22. Hey Goldfish First ...."RELAX" if you are still living at home you still have plenty of time. Try being yourself.........let me repeat that...try being yourself. You live in Paris, the city people dream of. You will find the right guy when the stars are in allignment ...trust me you will. Relax and have some fun, and blow your mom off when she makes comments like that.....no pressure All good things in time Hang In There ....work on being a better you Kuhl
  23. You can always try a text message.......they use them on Yahoo in personals and they call them Ice breakers They Work Well Kuhl
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