The Thinker

I seem to be on here all he time at the moment. I just asked my friend if she felt anything more than friendship again, as ive done it once before. It Turned into a blazing row, she told me how every time we went out she considered more than friendship which she never told me before and that she said that she was fed up with my moods and stuff when we went out and said she really did think i was a good person and stuff.Then when i said is it too late for anything more than friendship she said that she wouldnt guarantee anything but we would see each other when she felt more comfortable (in a couple of weeks) and carry on the way we have been.This has been going on for a long time and me saying thats has got me thinking again,i really do care (actually love)this girl and me just caring about my own wants has messed up everything but i can't help feeling i might get more hurt if i carry on because she does admit to liking some other people but i can't stop thinking about her.

I posted a message before about a friend i really care for, and that she kept changed her mind about a relationship. I have been spending alot of time with her recently and she knows how much i care for her but when we are out she might get a txt, and i would just say casually who's that and she would say 'no one important' and then txt back, and then receive another txt and laugh to herself. This makes me really mad i don't think shes trying to make me jealous but when i say something about it we end up arguing i know if we were to be in a relationship it would take time but we keep arguing because i just get jealous that she might be seeing someone and shes really secretative about what might be going on, i have no commitment from her that something might happen so im constantly paranoid she might be seeing someone. I don't want to lose her because i do really care and want a relationship with her but even the friendship seems to be falling apart at the moment. What should i do?

I met this girl along time ago, at first it really looked like we were going to go out, but when i started asking if it was going to go any further than friendship she replied 'not at the moment, im not ready for a relationship' or 'i don't feel more than friendship at the moment maybe things will change', i'd already grown quite close to her loved everything about her, but i started pushing for more than friendship and i think this may have scared her off but she has continually told me how much she values our friendship and how im always there for her, but gets upset when i go on about more than friendship. I tried walking away but found this too much and decided that i would try friendship but as soon as we started spending time together again my feelings came back and despite her saying that she couldn't now see anything happening we look at each other occasionaly in a more than friendship way if that makes sense, and it tears me apart to know that after we each go home that im not ever going to be with her. I was wondering what anyone else thought i should do?honest opinions please.

I was on and off with this girl for a while but she didnt want anything serious and i got too attached so we ended up just arguing and leaving each other. I thought this was the most amazing girl in the World but i know nothing more now is ever going to happen but i am finding it difficult to move on as i just feel my confidence totally gone.Any tips?

Whoa, ididnt even rad the whole of your message. I f go round with that attitude your going to get nowhere.no decent girls wants to go out with someone whos calls themself 'a loser' even though u may not say it,it shoes be positive.it may sound strange but there is more to life than girls just enjoy those other things and whos knows who you might meet...when you don't look you find.BE POSITIVE

This sounds really stupid but i had this beatiful girl after me about 6months ago and for some reason i just wasn't attracted to her, i didnt turn her away i just didnt make any approaches towards her. i have since got to know her really well and she is so amazing and we started getting on really well but as soon talk of a relationship came up she really didnt want to know saying she did have feelings for me but saying that she didnt want anything serious and that i was too serious for her. I made a big mistake in pushing for more than that normally i would have respected that and walked away but i felt for her too much and we always ended up arguing. She just wanted friendship from me but i always end up talking about more than friendship and we end up arguing and it i always eemed to be the one putting in the effort to be friends and she seemed like didnt want to know.I know ive messed up but i don't want to lose her but i feel friendships too hard.It may not seem like it because i sound desparate in what im saying but i am normally good at what girls are thinking but i can't understand her.i know i should walk away and have tried really hard but i still think of her and what i should do?