To everyone hurting, Getting back together really does happen!
Read my past posts and you will get an insight into my story and breakup. I was lost like many of you are now, experiencing a pain unlike anything I had felt before. I couldn't sleep, eat, or do anything - it was a living hell.
But with time and from advice from people on here and from books I read - I discovered how to find happiness again. You have to first get yourself back before you will ever have a chance at getting that one you lost back. You have to truly move on and concentrate on yourself (it may sound selfish) but its important to focus on you! I highly recommend that you join a gym - use it to build the better you and let off steam. No contact is the only way - in order for you to heal, move on and improve yourself. No contact is not a forever and does not mean the end...
I don't have the time to explain my whole story on here right now but felt that I should come back and share with you - as I owe alot to this site for helping me in my dark days. Yes the days back then were long and the nights longer and yes I never felt that emptiness in my gut would ever go away...and yes I was sick of hearing that time heals all wounds. But it truly does - My ex and I did indeed get back together and we are happier now then we ever were - we have been back together for over 6 months now and we are talking about kids and marriage. We were apart for about 3.5 years - but I didn't sit waiting - instead I finally got my life back - I got a new job (better one with more money) , bought a house, dated and had other relationships, joined a gym and got into awesome shape, tried new things (food, travel, etc...) I went against my little voice and tried things that scared me.... I wish you all well in finding your love again - whether it be with your ex or someone new and I thank everyone at ENA for helping me when I needed you : )