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true...wow, thats a really mature response for someone who's only 16!! lol thanks, tho! anyone else have any thoughts to add?

in my situation, i've fallen for my best guy friend of about 4 years and HE doesn't want it...he knows how i feel for him, and that i've felt that way for most of the time i've know him, however it doesn't effect our friendship...we're still very close and it doesn't seem to get in the way of us having a good time. I mean, occasionally, if the subject is brought up, the next day or two will be a little awkward, but after that, all is back to normal.

Ok...i'm best friends with this guy, and i really like him more than that. I want more out of our relationship, but he says he doesn't. I'm just wondering if you think that our friendship will ever develop into something more because we see each other every day, alot of the times its just me and him hanging out. When we do something, we just assume that the other will be there too. I just don't understand how we can spend SO much time together all the time without it eventually growing into something more, even if right now he says he doesnt want it. I know that he cares very much about me already, but do you think that over time those feelings of friendship could grow into something deeper??

its kind of a weird situation...i mean we are best friends before anything, and i love him so much. its just hard because i want more out of it than he does, and i'm just kind of hanging on to the fact that maybe in the future he'll change his mind. if you read my previous posts, you can see more about the situation if u want.

Hey, My best friend's birthday is coming up, and I have no idea what to get him. For the past year or so, we've been making each other gifts that are really personal and cool like that, but I'm running out of ideas! We're both in college right now, so the cash is kinda low, but any ideas would be greatly appreciated! thanks!!!!!

i found a bottle of st johns wort last night and took some then and this morning and i already am starting to feel the difference...is it possible to see a change that quickly, or is it just a psychological thing?

Hey everyone... I've been doing some research tonight, and I think I may have summer seasonal depression. I've been getting upset very easily without any good reason and it seems to only happen in the summers. I was wondering if anyone has had this type of depression and what I can do about it (without perscription drugs). Are there any non-perscription medicines I can take? I just need some general help, because I feel like if I continue on like this I will lose the people I love the most, and I want to put a stop to it before it gets to that point...thank you for any input!!!

hey...i really don't know what to get my best guy friend for christmas! he said he thought of something really kewl for me and he's even making it himself!! i need some help cuz i want to do something really kewl for him too...any ideas would help! thanks!

Its me again, I know I've posted about this many times, but things keep coming up and I need more advice Since I've posted before, I won't go into as much detail on this, but I'll give u a lil summary. Ok, so I'm pretty much in love with my best guy friend. We do everything together. We're so close that everyone thinks that we're gone out or are going out. He even got into a fight with his gf because she didn't believe that we were such good friends without anything more happening. We have never hooked up or even kissed (as much as i want to...lol). Maybe 6 months ago, we talked about dating, but 'we' agreed not to because of our friendship (he went out with another good friend of his and it turned sour and they still don't really talk at all). I agreed with him, but I have never closed the door on the possibility of us being more than friends. Current situation: He has a g/f, but has told me many times that he is going to end it soon for many reasons. We're seniors in high school and, althought we may end up going to the same college next year, I don't wanna look back and wish I would have done something. I just have this feeling that we're both feeling the same things, but we're both afraid of making anything of it. Some of my other friends have told me to just make a move and see what happens; you only live once, so take a chance. I'm just scared to death that he'll freak out. I don't think it would be a good idea to come right out with it since we've talked about it before, but maybe I could just drop some subtle, but still obvious, hints. Any ideas on what I could do? cuz i can't pretend i'm not feeling anything for him anymore.

I've posted before about my situation with my best guy friend, and thats a whole other story, but i'll summarize it: i have basically fallen for him, but it won't work out because we had a 'mutual' (he doesn't know that it's mostly him) agreement to stay friends because he went out with a good friend and when they broke up it was really bad and now they barely talk. Ok, on to the jealousy thing. I'm sure you all know where this is heading...I'm around him so much, because he is my best friend, but i also like him so much that when i see him with other gurls, i get really upset and depressed, even tho i have no right to be! Don't get me wrong, i want him to be happy (one time it didn't work out for him and another gurl because she didn't believe we were just really good friends, and I promised him that would never happen again, because if the girl got suspicious, i would back off to prove we were just friends) but i just can't stand seeing him with other girls. I know its not right because he's my best friend and i want him to be happy, but it just seems like a lose-lose situation...its either pretend to be happy for him which makes ME unhappy or get in the way of another girl and see HIM unhappy. Either way, somebody loses, please help!

So i'm friends with this guy, and we're really close. I like him alot more than friends, but, about 8 months ago, long story short, "we" decided to just remain friends for many reasons. my feelings for him haven't gone away, and have probably even grown since. about half way through this summer, he started going out with a gurl he used to work with. I wuz crushed not only cuz i like him, but because i wouldn't get to see my friend as much. About a month ago, i was talking to him and he said "i really miss you, we hardly ever see each other and barely talk on the phone anymore." (The first part of summer we talked on the phone ALL the time and saw each other almost every day.) I felt the same way. Since then, I've seen him almost every day, but his gf is always there so we still don't really get to talk. I do things with him, but its almost like hes not there cuz he's with his gf the whole time. I hate to sound selfish, but it almost feels as if i've been replaced, even tho i know i haven't. I dunno what to do cuz i want him to be happy, with his gf and everything, but I'm really, REALLY missing him! ------------- UPDATE...ok so now school started, and, to me, he seems flirty towards me, it may just be because I want him to be, but all the same, thats what it seems like. Basically the situation is the same, i was just hoping for a few more replies than last time...thanks

So i'm friends with this guy, and we're really close. I like him alot more than friends, but, about 8 months ago, long story short, "we" decided to just remain friends for many reasons. my feelings for him haven't gone away, and have probably even grown since. about half way through this summer, he started going out with a gurl he used to work with. I wuz crushed not only cuz i like him, but because i wouldn't get to see my friend as much. About a month ago, i was talking to him and he said "i really miss you, we hardly ever see each other and barely talk on the phone anymore." (The first part of summer we talked on the phone ALL the time and saw each other almost every day.) I felt the same way. Since then, I've seen him almost every day, but his gf is always there so we still don't really get to talk. I do things with him, but its almost like hes not there cuz he's with his gf the whole time. I hate to sound selfish, but it almost feels as if i've been replaced, even tho i know i haven't. I dunno what to do cuz i want him to be happy, with his gf and everything, but I'm really, REALLY missing him!

i know EXACTLY how you feel. i know you want advice, and I wish i had some so i could help myself too. It seems like an impossible situation, eh? you want to be with her, or in my case him, so bad, never wanna give up your feelings and will wait forever for them to "see the light", but at the same time you don't wanna put your friendship in jeopardy because of feelings that might not be mutual. *sigh* just doesn't make sense...i think about this so much, why wouldn't good friends want to go out, because, really, most people end up marrying their best friends! I'm a believer of "friendship is a great foundation for a relationship" and totally disagree with the 'golden rule' of friends not dating friends. why does it have to be so complicated!? well, i know this isn't really what you were looking for, but i just wanted to let ya know that you're not alone, and that if i ever find a solution to this, i'll b sure to let ya know!

hi everyone! Ok, I know alot of people believe in the "golden rule" of friends not dating each other, but I wanna hear the other side of it. If you believe that friendship is a great foundation for a relationship, have successfully dated someone who wuz a best friend first, or know someone who has, please let me kno! I'm in a situation where i love my best friend. i no he loves me too, but he doesnt want us to date because he ahd a relationship with a good friend b4 and it didn't work...i just believe that it won't always end up like that...your opinions would be great!!

Sorry, I meant to say that I wrote personal emails to her and she sent them to her boyfriend (now my best friend) behind my back. Sorry for any confusion!