Optigan

I'm in, seriously, I've had enough of "contact". So, Day 1.

This is an excellent thread (though it might be more frequented and useful on Healing and/or Breaking Up sections. I guess most of the typical red flags have been already metnioned here, and it's stunning to see how typical these things are. You name it, I probably had it waved at me. Irritability. Nothing I do seems right. Flourishing of interests outside the relationship and problems synchronizing. Lack of affection. Lack of sex. General innovations in behaviour, not good ones (drinking and stuff, for example). Losing interest in my interests. Losing respect for my work. Associating with people I can't stand, or at least find questionable. Disregard, or questioning of, my general values, especially concerning relationships. Wantning to turn me into something I'm not. (...) But the queen red flag is the following: Or, perhaps, let's put it this way: The greatest red flag of all is if the relationship starts making you feel like crap, although you are sure you are in love with, and love, your partner. However weird it may sound, perhaps this one is the easiest to not see.

The house always wins.

Jesus Christ, dude, that cats business is so pathetic. No hard feelings. However, myself. Broken up for a few months, and pretty much broken. Been going No Contact (altough I became aware of the whole NC concept just a few days ago), but I don't really feel up to this challenge. For example, today I'm dangerously close to actually making contact, but not to ask her back, but because I have questions. And yeah, I'm so frustrated I can't communicate my anger, sense of injustice... That's mainly what it's all about, this need to contact. That and getting answers. Cause you know, don't you agree that the person that walked away can tell us very much about ourselves - whether they be right or not, we can at least learn what impression we've been making? So getting some answers might be helpful... But I'm ranting now. Keep up the good work! If you feel NC is a good idea for you, it most probably is.