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You talk to her when you feel ready. She knew it was a chance that you wouldn't talk to her again when she broke up with you, now she has to deal with that.

If you want him to realize it, and even go as far as to call him and tell him then you have not truly dumped him for good yet, be honest with yourself.

Things ended because after four years of dating and standing by him. He still could not committ to me, so I walked away.

This morning I sent a text telling him I missed him, then directly after I sent it to him I sent him another one saying I was dumb to have sent that message and to disregard it. My feelings are a little different I am not so madly in love that I can't move on. The bottom line is I am mad about being rejected. All this time (4yrs) I have been giving my all to this person, and he can just so casually tell me that he is not ready for a serious relationship. Anyhow he did not respond to either of the messages so I guess I will start NC again today. I just really hope I get the chance to reject him the same way he did me, that's what would make me feel better.

Today is Day 2 of no contact, and I have been so busy that I really have not had time to really even think about him. Last night I did have some depressing thoughts of maybe he's dating someone else, but then I just went to the Y for a yoga class and I felt better.

This is what happened. He called on Sunday, and I did not answer the phone so he called again, and left a message saying that the kids wanted to know could they go swimming in my pool. These are not our kids together but in the 4yrs that we have dated me and the kids have grown very close. Anyhow I now know that was his way of just getting me to answer the phone for him. I called him back and we made arrangements for him to drop off the kids. He never showed up and when I called him back he did not answer. This annoyed me so today I called him and asked why he did not bring the kids, and further more why didn't he have common courtesy to say hey I changed my mind about bringing them over. He was giving lame excuses so I just hung up on him. Directly after I felt stupid for calling, and even stupidier for thinking he would give me an honest answer.

I want to take the challenge even though I already messed up today. I'm not sure who broke up with who in my relationship because the reason why we are not together is because after 3 years of dating he was still not ready to be in a committed relationship so I said it's best if I move on. Anyhow he called me twice today, the first time I didn't answer and then the second time that he called he left a message saying that the kids wanted to come over and swim. So I called him back because I wanted the kids, they aren't my kids with him but after so much time together we have grown really close. Anyhow he never showed up with them, and when I called him to see why he did not atleast call to say he changed his mind and was not bringing the kids he did not answer. I think he just used the kids to get to me cause he knew I would answer the phone if those kids are involved. I am not severely upset or depressed about us not being together, because I know I am worth a lot more than what he could give me, so I am thinking No Contact will let him know he should move on too since he didn't think me worry enough to committ too.

I know all about the NC rule but I have a question. What if I was the one to break off the relationship because I was not getting what I needed from him. He is a family friend so it seems logical to remain friends because we will see each other often. I have been acting like everything is cool and I am not a bit phased by the things that have happened. I find it painful to be around him but we have still been having contact (on the phone). I need to move on because I don't think he will fix what's wrong (though I wish he would) Yesterday he called me several times and I did not answer is it rude to all of a sudden stop contact eventhough I have been acting like I'm cool with it. I do want him to think about what has happened and maybe come to the conclusion that being in the relationshp is what he wants.