Some advice please. I recently stayed with a new friend for a short time (a few weeks), while I was out of work. I only knew him for a short time before I stayed with him. He told me he wanted a girlfriend when I moved in and I made it clear that I had NO interest in a relationship. He said he understood but he quickly became demanding and controlling. He would go through my personal papers and belongings. He would go out on the weekend nights until early the next morning and come home drunk and would often become verbally abusive. When he realized that I really wasn't interested in a relationship, he asked me to leave. He gave me a couple of days to find somewhere to go but I had to leave quickly one morning when he came home drunk and belligerent, screaming insults and throwing things.
I owe him money from the time I spent in his home and I have every intention of paying him back. My problem is that he has become very unstable. He calls me all hours of the day and night leaving message after message on my voice mail if my phone is turned off. He goes from begging me to "come home" to telling me he hates me often within the same sentence. He makes cruel demeaning remarks and tells me he loves me with the same breath. He tells me we can be just friends and immediately says he hates me when I won't come over. I've known him a few months, spent just a few weeks in his home (clearly repeating I had NO interest in a relationship). Last night after taking several phone calls I turned my phone off only to find out this morning that there were MANY messages left by him. The messages again reflected his multiple personalties ranging from I need you to veiled threats of suicide. I want to end all communication with him (I can mail him the money I owe him) because any communication with him is futile. I've tried to be nice but his actions are on the brink of harassment and I want to be left alone. Please give advice (*I know my mistake...moving in there in the first place... I can't change that) on how to get him to leave me alone, to understand there is no future...
