daveygravey

Ah too bad, but at least you went for it! At least he did text you back and didn't just leave you hanging, and he was nice about it. So next time you want to approach a guy do you think you're feeling braver now and would start a conversation with them??

I think if I personally had received that note I'd have thought how cute it was that you were too nervous to speak to me in person!! But I know a lot of other guys would be put off by that. It's really hard to say whether he'll call or not. But I would say anywhere up to a week or so. Some guys (e.g. me) are just forgetful!

Not trying to sound patronizing, but I personally don't think anybody is ugly because of their appearance. Sure, there are varying levels of physical attractiveness, but that doesn't make them ugly, as in completely repulsive. The only people I've ever found ugly are people whose personalities are such. Okay, most people are going to be attracted at first glance by looks, but that's just a short-cut. Pretty people get laid easily. Whoop de doo. By the sounds of it your want a proper girlfriend, somebody with depth, somebody with character. So you just have to get yourself out there and sell yourself. Maybe the girl of your dreams won't be attracted to you instantly (although she may do) but when she gets to know you, and you to her, the chemistry will just be there and you'll have found each other. Don't ever put yourself down man. You're not inferior to somebody just because they're supposedly cute, and you're not unattractive just because you don't have a girlfriend. You are just meeting the wrong girls. Get your * * * out there and meet new people. Think about what your qualities are and start to feel confident about yourself, that'll do wonders for your chances. You have something decent to offer the opposite sex, right? Because I guarantee there are women out there who aren't so shallow as to only want a "cute" face.

I wouldn't get together with somebody else just because you both cannot get anyone else. That seems quite desperate and forced. That said, if you truly believe in your hearts that you want to be together, then go for it.

If you're in a relationship and have cyber sex with someone else (who you do have feelings for) is it cheating??

A couple of years ago my ex had a singing show at college. She was really nervous because singing wasn't something she enjoyed, she was there for dance. Anyway, she sang "Sway" (Bic Runga) which was, like most couples I'm sure, our song. It was beautiful. I stood up at the back at the room so she could see me, and our eyes never left each other's for the whole song. At the end while everyone was clapping, she whispered "I love you" into the microphone. I could have cried I was so happy.

Allie I am so sorry to hear this. But please don't believe that all guys have the same desires for other women as your ex obviously did. Most guys I know will watch a bit of porn now and again, but that's it -- no chatting online, no paying for private shows, and certainly no affairs! And the fact that he sees no wrong in his actions says a lot about his mental state of mind - not normal!!

Looks matter to most people, and it is important - in a relationship you need to be physically attracted to the person. But usually when you fall for them emotionally they become better looking in your eyes anyway. My ex used to tell me all the time she thought I was gorgeous, but she has recently ditched me after two years and is with another guy who she openly tells me isn't good looking. So if I'm better looking than this guy, why does he have the girl of my dreams? I'm not saying I'm the most handsome guy in the world, but I know I am better looking than him, yet he's got an absolutely beautiful girl right now. How'd he manage that? My point: it'll happen eventually. I too am really down that I will never find the 'one'. I'm not interested in flings or one night stands, I want a committed relationship. And at 25yrs old I'm scared that it's too late for me. I don't consider myself ugly, so that isn't what bothers me, but for other reasons I just don't think I'm going to find that special girl. I thought I had, but she ditched me for an ugly guy!

Don't think like this, it is a recipe for disaster. I think the same way and it is destructive. I've never understood dating for fun, I'm always looking for a 'partner'. THought I'd found her, been with a girl for two years - "she's the one" etc. - but last week we broke up and she's already with someone else. * * * *. Anyway, don't make my mistake. You don't even know this girl yet, don't convince yourself that this is going to last forever and ever.

I think most guys watch porn and it's harmless. As a lot of replies have already said, if it becomes an 'addiction' then it becomes a problem. That is, if he is watching it hours on end, if he becomes disinterested in real sex, if he gets distracted/upset if he goes without his fix! I'm 25, was going out with a girl for two years until last week. She knew I watched porn now and again, didn't really have a problem with it. I never cheated on her, didnt even find the women in the videos that attractive, and it was never an obsession or even frequent activity of mine. It turned me on, and made me excited about the next time I'd see my girl. In all honesty, I thought she was the sexiest woman alive - if I ever compared her to other women (girls in town, porn stars, celebrities) she won hands down everytime. THere's no need for you to be jealous or worried. It's harmless.