sydny,
It does not really matter if he says it is 'ok'. What you have is supposed to be a partnership and if it is not ok with you, then it is not ok. I think that fidelity is kind of expected in a marriage and not the other way around. It sounds to me like he is on an ego trip and is very selfish. If you are hurting because of this and you obviously are, you need to do something about it. Have you considered just telling him that if he is going to do this, then maybe you should have the same priveledge? My guess is that if he is like other people I have seen on a selfish ego trip like this, the reaction from him will not be positive, because it all about him and his needs, not yours. I am sorry you are going through this, no one should have to be treated that way. My wife is having an affair or multiple affairs right now after over 20 years together and she says things like 'I'm not doing anything to try to hurt you, I just don't know what I want right now.' I don't really know what happens to people that they just stop caring about how they are affecting someone who has loved and trusted them, I think part of the hurt is the complete shock that they could do this to you.
