Thornycactus

Thank you Frida................lord how I love being right............as it so rarely happens,Ha!............................and let me return the favour............your right about being clear about what you expect and want from someone.............too many times women have the tendency to speak in code...............and then later tell the man "you Should know what I want!".......................well.............they don't

It's great that your so supportive Frida...................however I don't use the words "you have to change".....................it's like everything is great at the beginning of a relationship..................and than the other person slowly starts "picking you apart"......................kindof leaves you wondering?...............what the heck do they like about you?!................my advice, for what it's worth is to let him know his positives..........what ya absolutely love about him.......................and if he adores you back............he'll wanna change......................all by himself

I'm a total newbie.................and as of yet not comfortable enough to tell "my story"..........soo I'll just comment here and there for now: Frida, I don't believe he's a "nutjob"..............I believe there's 2 types of people in this world............those in therapy..............and those who SHOULD be in therapy..............your man, I believe, is perfect for the NC...........and give it as long as it takes..................he's been honest about his feelings............now it's up to you to show him what is acceptable and unacceptable to you............... I don't use the NC method as a weapon but more like a defense mechanism.............I must say, it has worked every time...............it has allowed the other person to get their thoughts together, without any pressure................and has allowed me to maintain my sanity.