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Yeah I think that may be the case. We've hardly spent a day apart in these 8years. When we do it's her that goes away for her job so then she hasn't got as much time to think about us. So I guess I've known what it's like to miss her whereas she hasn't really had the chance. I don't think she's suicidal but I do think she's battling depression but I fear that's making her doubt our relationship even more. She needs to be happy with herself first and foremost I guess.

Thanks for your response. No I was the dumper. I was forced to being the dumper I guess I was fed up with the whole situation and she wasn't going to make a decision out of herself. I think the only way our issues were going to get resolved was if we had some time apart from each other so I sent her on her way so to speak.

Hi everyone. I'm new on these forums but I've gotten advice of so many of my friends and I just don't know where to turn anymore! Been with my partner for over 8 years. (same sex relationship) We've had a relationship with many ups and downs mainly related to her craving attention from others and occasionally ending up getting more than what she bargained for. We're the bestest of friends, we have the same interests, same music tastes, food, going out, have a lot in common basically. The last few years she's started to doubt our relationship and her commitment to it. We never really went into it that much as she's a doubter in nature so I was used to that. She feels she's not 100% committed and can't explain why. She says she lost that initial spark and wants it back. Fast forward to november this year where we meet another ex-couple. We all go out, enjoy spending time and more of it goes on in the weekends after. Until one particular female puts the hard word on my gf and something happened. They've been in contact ever since and it's gone from bad to worse where she started thinking of leaving me for her and speaks of being in love! I didn't found out about that until later when I find a phone bill. She doubts and doubts. Every time we're about to break up we almost connect more with each other and we fall back into each others arms. Til a week ago I made the decision to make her move out to clear her head and find out what she wants. She's out. Only 5 days now. I'm trying to do the NC thing but it's not working for either of us. She tells me how much she misses me and things and how she loves me more than anything but doesn't feel she can give me all the love I deserve. We're both more depressed than ever. It's like we can't live without nor with each other atm. The other girl I think is out of the picture now. In her words what happened now has killed all the feeling she had for her. She said now that I have my freedom I don't feel like I want it anymore. She also says it hurts but she's just addicted to being in love and can't seem to understand that the butterflies don't last after that long. She's now just in a cycle of negativity with herself, the situation and doubts even more. She spoke about wanting to end it all. Just don't know what to do anymore. When I talk about making it more of a permanent break up and selling the house and things she just breaks down and can't handle it. She knows she's done wrong and is sorry but just doesn't know how to fix things or where to go from here.