Doodles

I didn't change my mind. I just had a realization that what I'd told her wasn't what I really wanted. I have to say though, all of the female responses to the entire idea have been negative. That's probably a sign.

That sounds like the best plan for me I think studbaker. Guess I should give more details about my situation anyway. She told me from the start she wasn't looking for anything serious. At the time I thought I was looking for something serious but lied to myself and told her that was alright. Fast forward to to end and we were chatting about seriousness and stuff. It came up because she blew off plans we'd made and didn't tell me until the day of. I definitely overreacted but still not cool on her part. Anyway, at that point I told her I was looking for something serious. She suggested it might be best if we break it off, I agreed. After about a week of serious thought on my part we went out for lunch. I told her what was on my mind. That what we had prior to the talk had been perfect and anything more serious than that would be bad for me at this point as well (moving far away in the fall). I'm pretty sure she thought I wasn't being totally truthful about changing my mind, she told me she didn't think she could be the type of girlfriend I wanted her to be or something.

How did it happen? Talk it over first or actions first that led to talk? I figured out that if I do say something I'm going to use the term "open relationship". That better suits what I'm looking for.

It was a mutual decision. Neither really. I know it wont lead to anything but we had a pretty intense physical connection and I miss that.

Recently broke up with a girl who I'd been seeing for about a month. We called it off because I was looking for something more serious and she's not at that place right now. So I'm thinking, this should be pretty easy but I don't want to up the friendship. We're still on really good terms. Is this something I should even ask about beforehand? Should I just be honest and say exactly what I think without dancing around it? Is there some other way of putting it that doesn't sound so... blahy? Or should I just avoid talking about it until after the next time we hang out and I have a chance to make a move? Thanks folks