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artery: yeh i get wot ur saying!! seems an easy way out id prefer to sort it, if i can :S u guys a totally right friends are hugely important, they're who u turn to first in a bust up with the gf. i believe its an unhappy life with no friends. right im workin on the communication side of things writing thoughts down etc, whats the best direction to take with regards to her constant comments about im never their, for example i hav jus got off the phone to her i have a lecture tonight and one first thing in the morning so its obvious to stay at mine. but she does not like that and lets me kno about it with these little comments "its good for you isnt, but not for me" i kno i dont like this attitude but how do i express it her come back to the reason im stayin at mine is "whats wrong with driving from mine to ur uni, every1 does it for work etc" jus seems silly to me its a 45min to 1 hr drive so id hav to get up very early and spend money on fuel doesnt seem logical to me but she doesnt wona kno. its really wearin me down

at the moment shes pretty fragile, goin through i really tough time in her last year at uni and has some medical issues etc so i dont really want to cause her any stress, but i just know that she will not like the things that iv got to say. and man shes so good at arguin and im useless!! iv been writing things down this evening but it doesnt make any sense there seems to be so many different things bouncing around my head and no way to control or order wots comin out. any suggestions on how to be with a very needy and high maintenance person, i hate the way that sounds. very cool beagle btw

Hey guys thanks for taking the time to read my post, i appreciate it. right heres my story. my partner and i have been together for 5 years and we r both stil at uni but our universities are pretty close to we see eachother all the time we also work at the same place. from the start of the relationship i have never been able to properly communicate and get my point of view accross. it seems that wen we argue i jus clam up, my mind goes blank i really cant think of anything to say. it makes me feel stupid and unfuriates my partner. shes the type to talk about everything really mull things over and im really the total opposite. we are havin problems at the moment about the time we're are spendin together. i could have moved in with her at her parents house at the beginin of this academic year but i chose not to and got a house with my friends. which was silly i know but i was frightened of losing contact with friends and thought id put so much more effort into seein my partner than friends how wrong i was. i am spendin all my spare time at my partners house and hardly any at mine. and she doesnt let me forget about how much i hurt her but movin in with friends. although i have tried my hardest to compensate by drivin back and forth to hers and my uni. she never comes to mine doesnt feel comfortable with my friends and its my fault because i didnt make the effort to make her feel comfortable. she is quite a shy person around new people and doesnt hav many friends as they hav moved away but she does see them occaisionally see them. She gives me a real hard time wen i see my friends which is rare im fed up, im gettin really depressed about my inadequacy to get my views accross iv jus read though this and it makes no sense really iv jumped around loads. feels like i could write forever, think i am il do it in Word thou well i cant wait to hear wot people make of my nonsense thanks again x