astaro
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if the guy is overly big that could happen if your not lubricating enough it could happen have you told your gyno that your expiriencing bleeding after sex? its most likly nothing, but i would check just to be sure.+ Edit - you could also have the doctor check if your hymen is intact, some girls are born with a more flexible hymen and could take a while before it fully tears.
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your hymn (sp?) might still be partially or fully intact. are you into any regular sports activities?
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i know this might be harder for some, i am mostly doing this to force myself to think about it and "say it out loud" She is very high maintanence, i walked her home either on foot or on the phone every time she had to walk alone in the dark for the past two years, i got really frustrated with it after a while (i really really hate being on the phone). on the rare occasions that we wernt together for a day i would get 3-5 phone calls about random unimportant issues. She lives her life from one chrisis to another, one week she is in pain from her period, next she has migranes, next a fight with her mother, then she gets sick, the two days everything is fine, then she develops some sort of flue, this has pretty much been the standard for two years, at some point i had a really hard time supporting her through her ever lasting and ever changing problems. i got to the point i just didnt know what was real and what was just out of constant stress. In two years she initiated sex around 5-10 times (around half of that in the first 3 months). made me feel very insecure and unnatractive (i am a very physical kinda person). on the same subject knowing she has never expirienced an orgasm i would go down on her pretty much every single time we slept together, use the toys and in general give her a good long warm up. she'd return the favor like once a month on avrage. she pretty much lost all contact with the world while we where together, i told her multiple times she spends to much time at my place ,most of our relashonship she was here 6-7 days a week. i never had the heart to kick her out, couldnt tell her to go home. I was her life and she just never initiated anything without me or with her friends and with me. well, took me an hour and a half to get that out, not even sure if i feel better yet, guess only time will tell.
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havnt been able to cry since the brake up, a couple of tears slipped out when i made this post originaly but other then that i am pretty blank. really wish i could cry though, makes for excelant relief. saw her again last night, she came over to pick up the last of her stuff. we actualy had a really nice talk but seeing her sent me into a spin all over again. biggest worry is there is a game we both attend, she hasnt gone since the brakeup but told me yeasterday she wants to come. i told her that i dont know how seeing her once a week will make me feel, but i cant tell her not come, mutual friends n' all.
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sex really is over rated. just dosnt seem that way when your not getting any
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sounds to me like you've outgrown him.
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lets share some crappy first time storys. i think most people have a pretty bad first expirience with sex and i keep seeing posts about people going through their first time and are stressed out about it. here's mine: a girl i was with for around 2 months, we decided to finally sleep together (i was 16, she was 17), we where both virgins. after around an hour of foreplay we tryed getting to business, but everytime it started going in she would freak and push me out, this lasted for about an hour and a half until we where both kinda tierd so decided to get dressed and go out for a walk to relax a bit. got back and went back to business. when it finally happened it lasted about 5 minuts, she was in a redicules ammount of pain and spent about 20 minuts curled up on the bed bleeding. the only posotive thing about the entire thing was we got it out of the way P.S. feel free to share good expiriences aswell, though something tells me there will be more bad then good ones
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i think your taking this issue a bit to seriusly. the entire point of this forum is being totaly honest, i come here because i want to make my business public to some dagree, i think thats the same reason a lot of the people here are on these forums. to share their expiriences about everything and not having to worry about what people will think. i really dont see the point of coming to a forum like this and not being honest. Edit - i cant believe you compared how things used to be and claim our current society is sleazy. why not go back a couple centurys, infedelety and incest where a daily thing, people (in france anyway) had throw up rooms so they could eat more. society changes all the time. and in todays world i PERSONALY think lots of pubic hair is just gross, on both men and women.
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well, that was a crappy night, took me like two hours to fall asleep and i slept right through the alarm clock, got to the meeting an hour and a half late. thankfully the guy i had meeting with knows me and i have never been late before, plus i told him i got stuck in the elevator
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wish i had the luxury, mostly came here to write that down and hope it will get it out of my system for the 30 minuts (Atleast) that it takes me to fall asleep. gotta wake up in less then 6 and a half hours, important meeting waaaay on the other side of the city and its raining like crazy here. riding a bike in the rain isnt fun. if it poors i might take a taxi. but for now i better go to bed and give sleep another shot. thanks ](*,)
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i cant sleep if there is anything on, even the sound of the computer bothers me. gotta turn EVERYTHING off other wise i just cant sleep. and then its to GD quiet.
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got into bed and turned off the TV. then all of a sudden this debilitating sadness hit me, stomach in knots, my skin itches, almost as if its screaming for someone to touch it. find myself curled up in the corner of the bed and i just cant get her out of my mind. i try to hang on to memories of happiness but they are so far right now, i can barely see them let alone reach out and hold on. i want someone next to me, someone to hold me and tell me everything is going to be OK, the thought of having months of this ahead of me is terrifying. but my only option is to ride this out until i find my clarity and piece of mind, i am so tiered of being lost in thought. i hope everyone is hanging in there, hold your heads up high. one lonely night at a time.
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granted this is from a guy's perspective but have you tryed leaning forward or even laying down ontop of him? need to find an angle that dosnt go as deep.
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yikes, i am sorry but they both sound like to me. what kind of friend asks another friend to choose?!?! thats just plain old nasty. its a really rough situation, dunno what i would do, probebly try talking to both of em. but honestly, i dont think i would stand for treament like that.
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losing erection when having sex for the first time
astaro replied to flow2000's topic in Sex and Romance
its two things i think, its a combination of stress and alcohol. booze totaly screws guys up sexualy, have erection problems, cant cum, yet painfully horny (depending on how much you drink and how much practice you have more then anything else) i would advice to first of all not be drunk next time. and second, just take it slow. dont rush into anything, take your time, lots of forplay on both sides good luck. -
dont be so hard on your self man. how long has it been?
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personaly i trim the hair and shave the base of the penis itself. do my best to save the ladys from hair in their mouth while staying away from the 12 year old look which i dislike greatly on a girl i like shaved lips and trimmed/shaved top.
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first of all thanks for the comments, i think my problem is i havnt really been honest with myself about this entire situation, still having a hard time defining what i want to do. i guess i will see what happens tonight, she SMS'd me asking me if i knew where something she lost was, i found it recently in the laundry so she will probebly come pick it up tonight. me and her both know that this is the last "reason" for us to see each other for a good long while (atleast as far as i am concerned). i am little scared she is going to try to pull the sex card on me, she has done it in the past and i will probebly have a hard time resisting. but dont really have a choise. guess i will see what happens and decide how to move on from there.
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no idea what that is but i would recommend seeing a skin doctor. its probebly nothing but better safe then sorry.
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i know what your going through man. my ex has a borderline personality disorder and suicidel tendency's. its scary as hell, i cant even begin to try and put it into words. hang in there.
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no, i mean problems in himself. i dont believe there is such a thing as a relashonship braking up 100% due to one side. generaly when a relashonship ends both sides have caused their share of problems. i have never seen a one sided coin before
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He has said that what has happened is all about me that is a big red flag in my eyes, someone that can say something like that has serius issues with fessing up to their own problems. and it sure does sound like he has one or two.
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confident/cool defanently i think most guys will be VERY happy if someone initiates, i think we're all kinda sick of having to do it ourselfs all the time.
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well, i have been trolling through these forums, reading through posts and making my own. i am starting to suspect that i dont understand my own feelings. now, its very easy for me to understand what other people are going through usualy (i am the one everyone comes to when they feel like crap and want to talk) but i understand it on a cognitive level, not an emotional one. i noticed that in the few posts i have started i seem to have a really hard time getting my point accross, i try to explain but it allways comes out weird. now, i have multiple learning disabilitys which could explain atleast in part my problems with expressing myself in writing. though i also have problems expressing my self in words when it comes to my own feelings. i suspect that maybe my childhood caused me to disconnect from my own feelings. my dad left when i was 10, while my mother was pregnant, claims she cheated on him and the child isnt his (court ruled no DNA testing till she's 18, long story) but i dont believe him. as far as family life goes i have been between the rock and the hard place ever since, on one side my fathers family whom all ignore the fact that my sister exists (other then my grandmother who will slip me money for her when no one is watching), cant talk about her, no one mentions her... bleh. on the other hand my sister, a sweet girl who is dealing with all of this much better then i am. in addition i was a very shy and shut off kid, was pretty much alone from 10-16 at which point i started teaching myself how to communicate in normal society. dont really know what else to say right now, wonder if this will make sense to anyone.
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my ex SMS'd me at around midnight while i was sitting with my friends. saying she wanted to talk to me about something, i told her that i was leaving in around half an hour and that if she wants i can walk by her place and we can go to mine to talk (we live 5 minuts away from each other, cant talk at her place cuse she lives with her parents and her mother wakes up from just about anything). we got to my place and just talked, i started by asking her if she is absolutly sure that talking to me wont cause her more harm then good. she said she prefers to distance her self gradualy (which is something that i could understand, but she could also be fooling her self) anyway, we sat and talked, mostly about a conversation she had with her mother which might have been a rather big brake through in her relashonship with her (big big problems between them and both have big personal issues). we talked for around an hour and a half to two hours i think, we both said we are hurting, but didnt really go into details. then i walked her home (has issues walking around alone in the dark) while giving my dog his late night spin. had an acward moment at her building when we both wernt really sure how to say good bye, we ended up with a friendly hug (really really short) and good night. the entire situation for me is really confusing, i care about her, really really do, but i suspect i might have just fallen out of love, i cant find any way to justify walking away. i just know that we both lost ourselfs in the relashonship. logicly i am worried that this will cause her a great deal of trouble in braking away from me, but i just cant see my self pushing her away, she is way to important to me. i really wish i would feel something, anything. i have been completely blank for 10 days now, getting pretty scary, just have no emotions what so ever. bleh.
