froger3434

not sure if this changes anyone's opinion on the situation, but there has been signifigant phsyical intimacy between the two of us.

this is going to be the hardest decision of my life...i'm torn between giving her a little more time to break up with him...or give her an ultimatum...in my heart i know that's what i need to do for my sake at least...i'm just petrified that it will drive her away if i force her to make a decision right now....this isnt fair to me i know, but i've invested so much into this girl i just dont know how i could come to terms with just walking away...i have more feelings for this girl than i've had for any girl in my entire life.

ok so this is a pretty unique situation i've managed to get myself into. Basically I met this girl at a party a couple months ago, we hit it off really well....In my opinion, our personality's meshed as well as any two could upon meeting. so we've been hanging out a lot...but there's a problem....she has a b/f. a long term boyfriend ( 1.5 yrs i believe). The problem is this, when i met her , one of the first things she told me was that she was breaking up with her boyfriend because he was treating her badly - this is one of the reasons i pursued her so strongly, because, i thought in no time she'd be single. so here's where the real problems begin. We start hanging out regularly, we fall for each other pretty hard...eventually she tells me that she has feelings for me that she has never felt for anyone else. her boyfriend catches wind of this and starts to realize he's about to lose his girl unless he steps up. so he starts wooing her again, sending flowers to her work,....and actually at one point asks to marry her...(she says no). This is where things get really tricky though; at this point she's trying to keep both of us happy. talks to us both on the phone for a great deal of time each day, almost to the point of living a double life. The b/f knows i'm in her life , but he doesnt know how seriously i am. all indications are her heart is with me, but i feel like she thinks she owes her b/f something since they've been together so long. she says she's confused about what she wants after talking to him, but then the next night she'll tell me that everything will work out for us in the end and that i had her since the day we met. just recently she told me she loves me. I'm not sure what to believe anymore though, if she loves me as much as she says ...dont you think she'd have broken up with her b/f by now for me?.....i know this is kind of a scattered post...but any thoughts or suggestions would be really appreciated it. this is such a hard situation to be in and it's getting to the point where i'm unbelievably stressed out ...because i've totally fallen for this girl. by the way, we're both 22 yrs old.