Hey everybody, thank you for reading this. I didn't know where else to go until I found this website.
I've been having some fears in the relationship I'm in right now. I love my current boyfriend to death. He's the most amazing person in my life and I want to spend the rest of my life with him and I know he feels the same way about me too. There's definitely some things that bug me though.
In my past relationship, I've always loved spending hours on the phone at night talking to my partner. It was always so comforting to know that the last thing we heard before we fell asleep was each other. My bf right now is different though. I have classes early in the morning and he doesn't have any classes so he spends most of his night playing World of Warcraft. I understand that he doesn't have to get up early and likes staying up late, but would it really kill him to spend thirty minutes away from the computer to talk to me?
I've talked to him about it yesterday for an hour. I know he's trying really hard to come through for me and gets frustrated because he had the same problem with another ex. I feel bad for bringing it up too because I don't want to make it seem like he isn't worth it. He really is. He really thinks he's staying up for me. He gets bored though and says he just isn't sleepy so he stays up. We eventually hang up, but he does it so suddenly after I say good night that it wakes me right up again.
It's also like that when I spend the day at his house. Whenever we're lying in bed and he feels tired and wants to take a nap, I'm there next to him. I don't mind him taking a nap, that's fine. I like watching him sleep. When I'm the one that wants to take a nap, he usually pushes me and says that he's bored and wants to do something. I told him I was tired and felt like taking a nap but he would still get me up. He says that he doesn't want to see me sleeping when he's bored. I said why not. I do the same for him and I don't mind. After we talk about it, he realizes what he is doing and apologizes.
Everything about our relationship is great. He's a wonderful person, he's amazing, and I love him to death. It's not even communication that's the problem. If I called him right now and asked him to come over, he would. He prefers face to face communication.
Also, I've been recently talking to my last ex about this. I asked my ex if he was ever not tired when we were talking on the phone. He said that most of the time he was not tired at all. He used to be someone who stayed up all night. I asked him what he did when we talked on the phone and asked if he was ever bored. He said that he much rather preferred talking to me on the phone, even if it was only for a few minutes before I went to sleep, than anything else. He was a real sweetie about it. He can be when he wants to be. He's romantic, caring, and thoughtful. I also told him that he was a sweetie, cutie, and romantic.
I still enjoy talking to my ex on the phone. I don't do it after I stop talking to my bf though. I'm not trying to find someone to talk to. He was the first person I called tonight before I went to sleep. He actually stays on the phone , even when he's tired.
What if my current boyfriend breaks up with me because of my fear? I know it was part of the reason why him and his ex broke up. What can I do to make him talk to me? I need some advice and some opinion.
