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Thanks for all the replies. My boyfriend and I have only been in the relationship for a little over a month. I know this is not a long time, but I honestly feel more comfortable with him than I did with my past boyfriend, who I was with for four years. My boyfriend broke up with his girlfriend in October but she was in denial. I guess that would be hard to understand, due to the fact they were living together and he continued living with her when we started dating. (That didn't last for long. They were also trying for kids. We started dating in January but had known each other for a year previously. Perhaps I should tell him to tell her to back off a bit, but I feel so sorry for her. Oh, and Annie, she's only asked once and he told me about it and I expressed my feelings. Sorry about the iPod. PS - yes, it was very weird, but I know she just wants him back so it was an act out of desperation. It bothers me more that he probably looked at them than her sending them for me to see.

My boyfriend was in a four year relationship with a woman before we started dating. At the moment, she calls and e-mails him multiple times a day, asking him to come back to her. She also sends pictures of herself in lingerie to him (I know this because she sent them to me too). None of this bothers me. I know being in a four year relationship and having someone end it with you has to be difficult. I am not ok with the fact that she asked him for money and he has no problem giving it to her. If she needed money to help pay for her surgery, the rent, help out her family, that would be perfectly fine. But to use it to buy herself clothes (he knew this) just doesn't sound right to me. I brought it up to him and he said that he felt obligated for how much pain he put her through by breaking up with her. This leaves me a bit confused, as he told me he left her because he was unhappy for a while and he finally realized he needed to do something for himself. Breaking up with her, at the time, was what he needed. I told him that this bothered me and he said he wouldn't give her any money. I believe him, but I am now questioning whether or not he's, 1) truly over her, 2) with me because he wanted someone and I was easy to get, and 3) actually in love with me as he states. Am I worrying about nothing? Perhaps I'm just being dumb, but I know hearing replies from people will make me feel better. Thanks for any help.