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I've asked her today if she could go out this friday, and she said she didn't know. and moments later she told me that she remembered that she was going out with her friend from her old school. Although this sounds really like a lie, i know i shouldn't doubt her since it would just make things worse. I really don't know what to do... : (

Hi everyone, I decided to write my story here, seeing nowhere else to go to and talk to. I'm 15 yearold guy, and i have a female friend, same grade. We've met about 4 months ago, got along really well, and became best friends. I've taken her out, as friends, to movies and places, but for the past few weeks it's been different. It's been a few weeks when i began to feel distant from her and i feel that she's been less sincere to me. She barely talks to me anymore, and although we used to stay up all night to talk to each other on msn(messenger), she now leaves after not even 10 minutes of staying online. And during the 10 minutes, we barely talk and i'm making most of the convo. Before, we would just talk on and on about really nothing. So after doing that for about a week or so, i started thinking that maybe i was being too clingy, so i kinda stayed away from her for about a week. Although i thought about her more than anything at school and home, it started to fade off, as i concentrated on other things in my life. But that's only to a certain extent. I really can't stop thikning about her and i really want our relationship back. Another matter is our relationship more than as friends. After 2 months of knowing each other, we stumbled accross the topic of liking each other more than as friends, but we decided that it'd be best to just keep it as friends because we didnt' want to ruin our friendship and both parents were kinda against being together. Now i really regret that decision, and i really want her to be my girlfriend. Recently, i've been thinking about asking her to be my gf, but i'd thought i'd have to fix our relationship back together before asking her. Before i began writing this, i just had a talk with her about out relationship. I bluntly told her that i've been feeling distant and asked her if anything is going on. She agreed with me that we didn't talk as much and told me that there was nothing wrong. We really didn't know what to say until she had to go because her mom starting yelling at her.(It's 2 oclock in the morning) So now i'm just trying to figure out myself, where i am in the relationship with her, and how to sort this out. I really want to have our relationship back again but i really don't know what to do, except being frustrated. Well thanks for reading my long story and any advices in advance,

Thanks for all the advices and especially lifestream for your thoughts. Well i was just talking to her on msn, and here's what happened. Because it has been sour for a few days, and i didn't want to seem so clingy, i stopped myself from being the first one to say hi on msn when she logged on. So today, she says hi to me and asks, how come i don't say hi first to her anymore. I make up some lame excuse that i'm busy at the moment. We talk for awhile and she says that she can go out friday night. I have no idea what happened, but it just seems like things are back to normal. So less paranoia for me. So we're going to see a show on friday night after a dinner, maybe, and (taking lifestream's advice) i think i'm gonna ask her out to be my gf. So i wwas wondering just how i should ask her out. I would also appreciate any other suggestions. Thanks again!

Ok, I'm 15 and I first met this girl, same grade, about 3-4 months ago. First i got to know her through a friend, and i started talking to her through msn. After awhile, we got really close, mostly on msn, and we would sometimes spend nights just talking about nothing for as long as 5-6 hours. She literally became my best-friend(i never had a best girl friend before), and we told each other everything. A month after being friends, we stumbled upon the topic of liking each other, and we realized that we both liked each other more then as friends. But because both of our parents aren't so open towards dating, and because we weren't quite ready to "risk" the relationship at the time, we kind of buried the topic and decided to be just friends. After that talk, nothing changed, and we were close as we were in the beginning, if not closer. My feelings toward her, which being more than as just friend, kind of faded after that talk, and i just started thinking of her as just a friend. At one point, we were sending almost 500 text messages to each other in a month, mostly during school classes, and i'd call her everyday or every other day. Although i'm not a very talkative guy, she would always have something to say and i'd just enjoy listening to her talk (we'd stay on for an hour or so). Although she doesn't go to my school (I go to an all boys we see each other at church every sunday, and i've so far went out with her "as friends" about 3-4 times(we can't go out often because she lives far away). Recently, my feelings for her, more than as a friend, returned. And the bad part about this is that i think she's kind of fading off on our relationship. About 1 1/2 weeks ago, we went to the mall,(after exams in the morning), and we just spent the whole day just walking and looking around, and had dinner together. And it seems like after that, she became less sincere to me just on msn. She doesn't come on msn as often now, and we don't talk as much either. But when i called her yesterday, which was the first time i called since we went out to the mall, we talked for around an hour, and she acted very normal and sincere. Now i'm getting the feeling that im being clingly, but i really can't stop thinking about her and i get frustrated when it kinda seems that she's less interested in me then she was before. For a few days, i've been trying to focus on other things in life and other friends, and it's only working to a certain degree, as i think about her numerous times a day. I've asked her to go to see a show this friday, but she said her mom said no. It was frustrating because it was the first time she couldn't go out, and i feel paranoid because i can't really find out even if she asked her mom about it. So after a few days of thinking, ive just decided that she is just as normal as before but i'm just being paranoid about everything. Next week is valentines, and i was thinking of asking her to be my gf, but i don't really know what to do, and i also have no idea if she can go out (since it's a week day). Well thanks to any of you who cared to read my post, and please offer any advices on your mind. p.s. It's really weird how i'm not really attracted to the sexual relationship with this particular girl(although she does have an attractive body). Maybe it's because we started out as best friends, but it seems like i have no intention of going farther then kissing. and i was wondering why that is