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hi all (me back for some advice again!!), been seeing a girl now for a good few months. last two times we have met it has been intimate. When it comes to relationships of an intimate/sexual nature I am inexperienced, she is not so. But that is kind of another story. Now I like this girl, and think she likes me. But get the kind of impression from her that she kind of likes the aspects of the single life and being able to choose what she does. I am pretty sure I am the only guy she is seeing. I have been single for a long time. How do I go about this, I want to convince her that I am not going to take over her life or demand to see her all the time. At present we are meeting once a week, but at weekends when she may be wanting to go out with her friends. Saturday she chose to stay with me rather than go out with her friends and I kind of feel a bit bad that she was missing her night out, but also very happy that she stayed. Do you think I should talk to her about it? Do not want to scare her off by discussing these kind of things. Is it too early - we have only been seeing each other for 2 months, but are getting intimate.

Thanks Loche2121, I so wish this is true. The problem from my point of view is that it all seems too good to be true. She is really not far off what I would say is my ideal girl, and she is really what I need. And to a certain extent I may just be what she needs to as we are quite different. Maybe I am trying to hard to find the catch.

Yes maybe even if she is just wanting a bit of fun that may benefit me in the long run, maybe not short term when it ends. Might make me more experienced which would be a bonus. Although I would say I do like this girl and I would like to grow with her so to speak but god knows. Need to be careful not to get too attached.

thanks for reply arwen. I did say something to the effect of "oh so this is to help me with future girls" soon after she said it, then she says no thats not what I meant. Can't see what would be in it for her though. I will admit I have been a bit of hard work for her. I can't understand why she would put in the time if she did not like me. But perhaps she has nothing better to do (when we meet it is for a lot longer than a couple of hours whether it be walking or watching dvd) or she sees it as a kind of challenge She is not really one to talk about how she feels, kind of tried it before when I was trying to develop the courage to kiss her!

I will try to keep this short. I am a guy in mid20s very inexperienced when it comes to girls Been meeting up with this girl (older than me and much more worldly wise) for nearly 2 months now. Told her a few times I liked her but did not have courage to kiss her but finally this weekend kissed and cuddled her. Then she says to me what was so difficult about that, what took me so long, etc. So I say well why did you not try and kiss me, she replies that it was good for me to have to do it, do me good for the future. I was a bit baffled for this. Does she mean she is just having fun with me and trying to get me to be more confident? I thought she liked me, god she even cooked dinner for me! So we did end up in bed together just hugging and kissing and it was great but cant help thinking back to that first comment, is that kind of a normal thing for a girl to say? Am I reading too much into this? Also is it approproiate to ask her to be my girlfriend? We have been seeing each other for a couple of months at least once a week.

Thanks for all the replies it is much appreciated, keep them coming the more informed I am the better. At the moment I am still a bit torn as to whether I should make the move or not. Guess it is just that unknown element. I know I must go out and socialise but I find this very difficult and to make it clearer two of the people I know are family and really they have no friends that I do not have. I fear I am pinning too much hope on this girl to widen my social circle and also things developing between us.

Thanks for all the replies so far. Just to clarify situation slightly the area I am moving to is quite rural - I live in a remote part of the UK. And I am quite shy as well when it comes to meeting new people. I like this notion of my own space and I guess it is kind of linked to the fact that I am in a point in my life where I want some female company. Maybe in an ideal world I would stay at home with parents and live with my sister and her BF during the week for the social aspect. But then if I want to seriously go about meeting and enjoying the company of women (watching a dvd, listening to music, etc) then I think I do need my own place. I really would like to see this happen with this girl I am seeing at the moment but must not get hopes up as I could fall flat on my face and in reality turn into a bit of a mess. PS Renting and pets are not an option - would love to have a cat or a dog.

Hi, Just about to move out and live on my own for the first time (I am male in mid 20s). I am moving to a new area where I only know three people. I am moving out of family home for the first time and to be honest I am a bit aprehensive of how I will cope when living alone. I am single at the moment also and fearful I may turn into a bit of a recluse and see no one except my work colleagues - who I do not socialise with (they are all much older). One of the people I know in the area has been very much in favour of me moving and she talks a lot of sense and I really do like her company and her attitude on life. Without her I would not really be so close to moving but do not want to get ahead of myself about possibilities with this girl, who I really do like. And she does seem to like me, or spending time with me. So she is main reason for me wanting my own space I suppose. But despite this it is surely a good thing for me to branch out for a bit of personal development - I am in my mid 20s and still living at home afterall! What do people living alone get up to to beat the boredom and loneliness?

Thanks Blender Ok does this sound better: My cheeks are red, my eyes are blue It has to be said, I have a liking for you. That we are different is clear to view. But happy Valentines from me to you.

Ok I was thinking of a text something like this: My cheeks are red, my eyes are blue It has to be said, I have a liking for you. That we are different it is clear But don't let that hold any fear I know you may need time But I wish you a happy valentine Alternative last 2 lines: Whether it be rain, snow, wind or shine Please consider being my valentine Is this wildly inapproriate? Might be inportant to add we 'met' off an internet dating site. I think she may like me but is a bit scared to say what she really wants as she has been burned in the past. And just to make things clear we have spent quite a bit of time together but nothing has happened. We have both said we like each other. But she is kind of holding back. So I thought a nice text on V'day would be appropriate

Hi there, been seeing this girl on a friendship basis for about a month now. it is quite possible that it may develop into more, as yet it has not. We won't see each other on V'Day and she sounded a bit cynical about the whole meal and gift carry on when we were watching TV last week. But I would like to send a nice text to her on the day, is this a good idea do you think? Also kind of struggling for ideas of an appropriate message because don't want it to sound too much. But want it to kind of be sweet and show her that I like her. if it is of relevance we are both mid 20s Any ideas?

Thanks for advice so far. Hindsight is a wonderful thing I know I should have kissed her now. But honestly I was fearful that if I did so and she was not on same wavelength then I might have ruined a good friendship. And I was trying to read body language but she was confusing!! Suppose should have taken the hint that she stayed a lot longer than she needed to after film at finished. So now I have to be careful and not and as you would say plan to kiss her, just still has to be natural. But I think I should kiss her then maybe ask her the next time we meet if she is dating or looking to date anyone else. Another possible dilemma is whether to ask her out for valentines day. I personally do not 'agree' with the day but then she may. But I think there is another thread on that topic.

Hi, Been seeing this girl kind of on a casual/friendly basis for about a month now. Think we have met about 5 or 6 times - just going for walks, watching a film and so on. But nothing has happened. But last night I invited her over to watch a film and it ended up that we watched the film and I expected her to want to go but she stayed for another couple of hours and we just chatted and watched a bit of TV. Ok later on we both sent a text at same time basically saying the same thing - basically we both wanted to kiss. I would have certainly done so but she had mentioned before that she was not quite sure after just now getting over her last relationship. So it appears we both like each other. My dilemma is however should I ask her if she is also dating anyone else or interested in doing so? I would not be comfortable if she was but I do not know if it is normal practice here in the UK. Thanks