Kinzie

I am gay. What I believe is that you are born gay. You are born with this and it is sad that society has made it a "bad" thing. However I also believe that certain psychological events in your life can turn you gay. You can have your opinions changed by what happens to you in life. Whether or not this has anything to do with molestation I have no clue. I suppose if the experience was that traumatic maybe it could, but in most cases I would have to say that being molested doesn't cause people to be gay. It can play a factor in it though.

I am gay! So I would have no problem with this! Lol!

He lives 45 minutes away and seeing as I have no license it is hard but we are making it work.

Yeah! This is great! You don't know what I feel right now. I want to scream, but everybody in my house is sleeping.

GAH! He told me he had a crush on me! I am going to pee my pants!

I have on friend in mind that I want to tell just so I can vent off all of my unexpressed emotions. A girl at that. Most of my friends are girls and some people have asked me if I was gay, but I have always said no. So I suppose I act like one and people wouldn't be surprised if I was one. But yeah he still hasn't gotten on. So I think I am going to bed... if I can.

I really don't know what to tell you about it then. I find it hard to believe one orgasms that quickly. My only advice is what everybody else said. Maybe build up tolerance?

Do it over the phone. That is what I would want. You might seem more genuine that way.

How old are you? Because it might just come with age. If you are still younger then you can have pre-mature orgasms. I don't that there is much you can do for it though, other than try to hold it back. Which is hard. Trust me I know.

Trust me I know the kind of passion you are feeling. You should keep on talking to her. Soon the right choice will be clear. Have you told her about your feelings? That is where I would start.

Well once I get a license and a car I intend to drive to his hometown where he has a GHSA set up. (Gay High School Association). But that is a couple of months down the line. He need to get online... NOW!

I HATE how he has no cell phone and has to sneak onto the computer to get on. Those are my only ways of contacting him. He lives a little less then 45 minutes away from me. Because of this I have ended up being on the computer all day waiting for him to maybe get on. Tell me that isn't perfection... link removed

I don't know. I am hoping that he will understand the position I was in when he asked me if I was gay or not. Seeing as he was there once as well. I am risking everything telling him this. I will take that risk for him.

That really helped me. All I have to say is thanks. Unfortunately I can't see myself coming out publicly until I am out of school and independent of myself. I will probably post when this guy messages me back. His name is actually my member name. Kinzie. I even think his name is perfect.

10th grade = 15-16 years old I was afraid to be told that I need to break it off with my girlfriend. We are going on 6 months and it would hurt her, not to mention my parents who love her. In the end I suppose it is best. Also I am alright with people knowing... kind of. I am just afraid of their reactions. I have a lot of friends that I think I would lose because my town is generally very conservative. Thanks for your replies.

I really want to tell him, but it scares me. It scares me because he is so perfect. This guy is the nicest guy I have met and he seems perfect. Would only telling one person about my secret be all that bad?

I am a 10th grade boy. I have known that I was gay since about 4th grade. However pressures have always been put on me to prevent me from actually being "me". My parents always wanted to have grandchildren and now they have one. My sister's baby is their star grandchild. However they still want and can't wait for me to have kids. I don't want this. I think that my mom has known for quite some time that I was gay. Either that or she thinks that I might be. I have tried to fend off all of this by dating girls and the such. You know the usual cover-ups. I have a great girlfriend at the moment, but I am not attracted to her at all. She wants our relationship to keep moving. We have cuddled and the such, held hands, but we haven't gone farther than that. I know she wants to go farther than that, but I can't seem to bring myself to do anything farther than that when it is based on lies. To keep this post moving along I will get to my problem... I was at a speech meet two weeks ago. I met a guy from another team and he seemed perfect to me. I went home and I was like if only this guy was gay I might come out of the closet. This guy, a girl from team, and myself all went to watch some people deliver their speeches. The guy and I sat by each other but we really didn't talk much. Just two days ago I saw the guy again at the speech meet, and he started talking to some of my friends telling them which guys he thought were cute. I knew then that he was gay. Immediately I started talking to him more and we made a kind of friendship within the few hours that we talked. He asked me if I was gay and I thought to myself "Oh Crap. What do I say?" My whole team was basically surrounding me and if I admitted to being gay what would happen? I would be ridiculed accross our whole school. Nobody in my school has openly told people they were gay before so I would be the laughing stock of the entire school. I would be the aim of all of their jokes and everything. Needless to say I told him I wasn't and we kept talking and hanging out more and more. The more I talked to this guy the more perfect he got. With each passing hour I got more attracted to this guy and I really wanted to tell him who I really was. I was sick and tired of living behind this wall of lies. Eventually I had to leave so I said goodbye to him and that was that. I haven't been able to stop thinking about him since. When I wake up in the middle of the night the first thing I think about is him. I even think about him when I sleep. I added him on facebook and myspace. He gets on like every other day. He has to sneak on because his parents won't let him use the internet or anything basically. He has to sneak it. So he got on today and accepted my adds. He told me that he missed me and everyone he met at speech for that matter. I replied to him. This is what I sent... I don't think he will tell anybody, but I am afraid of what he will think of me when I tell him what I lied about. Can anybody tell me if I did the right thing? Can they tell what to do next? It is hard being a gay high school male.